Hi, guys i am new on dis thread. I need ur adivice, i married a woman with 2 kids ten yrs ago and i have been takeing care of them,there schools and all what it take to bring up kids .I  one day her daughter start to me how her mum was forecing them to go with her to see there father and she worn them not to let me know .The girl told me so many things .That anytime i Travel on a business trip ,she take them to him . And my wife has never told me  .I can t understand her way .Mayb she want to go back to him or what .Why silence to me about. If not 4 her daughter i will not have know all dis. She told me not to her mum know dat she told. All dis happening in my house . I am afraid. Pls adivice me.

When you get married to a woman who have been in a love relationship before, there's always the risk that someday she will run into her ex and buried memories are likely to surface.

This does not mean she does not love you.

In your case, she takes the kids to their dad when you're out of town.

Perhaps she doesn't want to hurt your feelings.

Think about it. How would you react if she told you she wanted to take the kids to visit her ex-husband?

Honestly, you may find it irritating.

My advice?

Don't do something stupid unless you have heard her side of the story. In fact, do do any stupid at all.

A simple discussion is likely to clear any misunderstanding.

Have an open discussion with her. You may find that she's not being unfaithful or disloyal.