I know that when some guys are single/in relationships (not yet serious) they tend to flirt with other women/sleep around with other women. However, when a man decides to get married, do they generally stop all of that behaviour? In other words does marriage change men for the better?

Do you expect a leopard to change it's spots?
A man who flirts and cheats before marriage, might cool down immediately after marriage to savor the newness of the union. But immediately things start becoming stale, best believe that pig is going back to it's muddy pool. . .(sorry for the 'pig' analogy BTW).

Never say never, sha. But for such a guy to change, he really needs to be committed to making a change.

But marriage is not a button that magically transforms a bad man into a good man!

Ova and awt!

@Lola, thanks for your response.

I was just thinking that when a guy is young like in his late twenties, he is just having fun but that there comes a time when he decides to settle down and stop messing around,

You're welcome
If you check it out, the cheating attitude has been polished and perfected probably over the last 10 years of his life.
Before any change of any sort can take place, he has to realize that he has a problem and he has to be committed to fighting temptation!!


You can watch the guy in the course of the relationship sha. Now that he is older, does he appear changed? Is he settled now? Is he over the old way of life?

claremont:

I have heard that marriage brings out the best and the worst in people. BTW, this OP reminds me of someone on here, probably hiding behind the new user ID.

who do you have in mind. If a person weather make or female has developed a habit/reputation of cheating in relationship. Not in one or two ,then i don't think marriage will make a difference. But if it is ,that he casually dates then that may be a different kettle of fish.

Marriage does not change people. People change when they feel their past style of living is not worth it. Unfortunately most times in our society, it is around when they get married.

@Claremont, I can assure you that I am a new user,

@Izukwu, I can see where you are coming from e.g. I guess there is a difference between full cheating and casual dating/flirting online with someone who don't really have feelings for.

@Mynd good point

alot of things change as human beings become more mature

@ Poster, i will say it enhances behaviour/character, not change it.

there is no more respect for d homepage anymore. every rubbish now makes it to d homepage

hopefully

Marriage does not change anyone, the only thing that can change a person is themselves. If someone who has been a flirt decides on his/her own that i have lived this kind of life enough and i want to be focused then they will change. They dont automatically change because they get married. If someone gets married he/she may calm down for a while but at the slightest oppurtunity old habits come out.
A lot of women like the saviour complex, See a man who likes to cheat and probably even wrestled the man from another woman, get preggy and believe the man will change when they get married. Hardly happens that way. If you decide to marry a Dog Man or woman, you have 2 options, put him/ her on a short leech this will mean you will monitor the persons activities till u get high blood pressure or you let the person mess around and turn a blind eye.
A man or woman can only change their path when they themself decide its time to change, marriage, kids or even church doesnt change anyone, change comes froem within

marriage doesnt change a person automatically. it actually depends on if the person is willing to change and become responsible.

i have a close friend dt was a critical womanizer.his babe caught him at diff locations.they broke up, came back 2gether. he cheated n cheated and she knew. bt still,she decided 2 marry him. in two years of their marriage, he hd got 2 women pregnant.

he seems to have calmed down.

people are different. the responsibility of marriage may change some, while others will continue in their old ways.

chaircover:

yes and no.

@ OP/Topic
If this were a verbal reasoning question, the answer would be;

c. often but not always ture.

Sometimes, especially when babies start coming and they dont ve careless money to throw around again.

@ topic

I think when you get married to someone, you just legitimize the behaviours they had during the courtship. It makes no sense to put a ring a it (a go ahdead flag) and later expect a radical change. I believe if you loved them despite those flaws, you can still go on to love them for the rest of your lives!

95% of the time no.
If i cheated on you while we were dating why would i stop when we are married?

not everyone stops cheating after married, in some cases we have the man continuing his runs after marriage, while the woman starts to cheat after marriage, it is also vice-versa

I don't think this topic should be narrowed down to cheating. There are other annoying habits or behaviours people have.

Yes if you are married to a good wife

My friend's boyfriend chewing like a cow in public. I hate going out in public with then, its gross! She's told me she's warned him about his public eating etiquette but doesn't look like he will change.

Another friend tells me that her boyfriend doesn't know how to take a bath at 30 years old, she's desperate to have a husband so she says she will teach a 30 year old adult baby how to take a bath. GROSSS!

Na wa ooo

She's hoping that he will change after marriage since she is retraining him now. All those girls looking for Ajebutter boy, be careful what you wish for. Stupidity has its price and that is frustration.

Nah it doesn't
He cheated on you whilst dating you so what guarantees he ain't gonna do the same because he signed the dotted lines?

Having children tends to make us more responsible though  

Does having children make a man stop beating his wife ? It is untrue that having children makes anyone responsible and in cases, it causes stress and causes the untrained mind to become stressed.

^^^^^

jay bee:

Nah it doesn't
He cheated on you whilst dating you so what guarantees he ain't gonna do the same because he signed the dotted lines?

Having children tends to make us more responsible though  

There are always anomalies in life but most times it helps

If the man actually marries someone he loves so much, i swear he changes automatically

Kai, its a risk i dont think is worth taking. Generally people can change, however marriage is not really a factor. It boils down to the person admitting that their way of life is wrong and deciding to make things right. From what we see nowadays there are more married men cheating. Married women are also heavily joining the equation. Kids are not always a factor. Some men change after they have kids, some don't. Its really a gamble, one i don't think i will like to make.

If a person shows you their true character during dating/courtship, please believe them. People don't change easily