Hi folks, I have heard quite a few comments from people when they hear that I am an only child! Though I am well adjusted and all that, I cannot help but wondering if we are truly rare!!! I also have issues with chicks who flip out once they hear the fact, , and those who turn to leeches when they hear same!

Yeah! I know that there are variants; only child of both parents, only child of single parents, and the adopted child of both parents. It truly doesnt matter, because when push comes to shove you will realise that they are all the same- Kids that have had to learn 'life' ALONE!

If you are of this unique breed, please let's hear of your experiences, if you are not, please tell us what you think of 'we'!

@poster, well im not an only child. but i may be another variant cos im an only girl. only daughter, only grand-daughter and only great-grand-daughter (thats how far i can remember correctly)
though i have 4 brothers, but really while growing up, especially in the adolescence stage, i really felt odd and confused about a lot of things. my brothers wonder why i "waste" my time doing my hair, whenever i try to keep my nails long, they accuse me of pinching them and beg me to cut them off! even now as an adult some things happen at times and i just wished i had a sister. whenever i ask them how my attire look after dressing up, they just wonder why im bothering myself with that! they dont understand why i have to buy another makeup or hair product and lots more. also when other girls talk so much abt their experiences with their sisters i just wonder what it feels like cos ive never felt it! i may have females as friends and all that but it can never be like ur own blood sister.

ive learnt to come to terms with it anyway. and my 4 brothers are fun to be with and they have in their own way tried to feel the gap.

Thanks for pointing out yet another variation of da club!

omena555:

@poster, well im not an only child. but i may be another variant because im an only girl. only daughter, only grand-daughter and only great-grand-daughter (thats how far i can remember correctly)
though i have 4 brothers, but really while growing up, especially in the adolescence stage, i really felt odd and confused about a lot of things. my brothers  wonder why i "waste" my time doing my hair, whenever i try to keep my nails long, they accuse me of pinching them and beg me to cut them off!  even now as an adult some things happen at times and i just wished i had a sister. whenever i ask them how my attire look after dressing up, they just wonder why im bothering myself with that! they don't understand why i have to buy another makeup or hair product and lots more. also when other girls talk so much about their experiences with their sisters i just wonder what it feels like because ive never felt it! i may have females as friends and all that but it can never be like your own blood sister.

ive learnt to come to terms with it anyway. and my 4 brothers are fun to be with and they have in their own way tried to feel the gap. 

OMENA555, I GET TWO SISTERS O, IF U WANT CONTACT ME, I PROMISE TO GIVE U ONE

larriderm, pls give me the 2, afterall u've had them all ur life.

u are such a smart girl, anyway my promise is to give u one and not the two of them! i will need the remaining one to keep my company too. lol
how u dey?

@larri so u mean all the company u have gotten from ur sis all these years is not enough? anyway, u try.

I'm fine thanks dear. getting ready to close for the day. do have a luvly weekend

@ omena, omg , we have a lot in common wow, i am the only girl too but i have a twin brother and a lil brother but i get sooo bored very easily, they are always playing their video games and im always staying in my room painting my nails,talking on the phone or just chillin, they just don't understand nothing, they are always like omg, why do you take too long to get ready?? why are you always shopping , ?blabla bla, i wish i had a lil sis or a bigger sis,

ok ok i also need a big brother cos my only brother is always busy. . . am advertising o, i need a big brother plsssssssssssssssssssssss and a big sister

@ OMEENA55
I TELL YOU IS A CONTINEOUS PROCESS THAT CAN NOT BE STOP BY ANY THING! ANYWAY I THINK U KNOW HAVE A SISTER IN NAIRALAND, CUTIPIE SAID SHE DONT HAVE SISTER TOO, WHY DONT YOU JUST MERGE URSELF AND U ARE ON!

ok larri, i'll see wht we can do.

effuah your needs are too much! so nothing for u  only u want big bro and big sis

YES am an only child of my parents. i feel lonlyness and pains expecially when i see other folks arguing, fighting, sharingthings together, infact doing things together. i always wish i was not alone.

I am an only child. You enjoy it when you're much younger but when u grow older you would realise how lonely you can become. people keeping you out of family conversations, yr friends then become your family

@poster, now u have lots of company 

@cutiepie, yeah, we have a lot in common, don't worry, just enjoy your brothers, thank God we have them! 

@veracious and pip, u guys cld make a good pair oh! please remember to add naijabands to your little click 
when i read u guys accounts i feel thankful to God for giving me brothers at least. 

Veracious:

YES am an only child of my parents. i feel lonlyness and pains expecially when i see other folks arguing, fighting, sharingthings together, infact doing things together. i always wish i was not alone.

Havent u seen sibling rivalry that makes you praise God that you have none? There's quite a bit to be said for being alone though-u get to think real deep (If you dont do too much pot )

Pip:

I am an only child. You enjoy it when you're much younger but when u grow older you would realise how lonely you can become. people keeping you out of family conversations, yr friends then become your family

I actually had a problem with them wanting to over involve me in family talk o! I cannot honestly say I have 'friends'- i am more of an animal person sha (Dogs, snakes (just 2 o) and the occasional monkey )

i also need a brother, been the only son as been damn boring

naijabands:

Havent u seen sibling rivalry that makes you praise God that you have none? There's quite a bit to be said for being alone though-u get to think real deep (If you don't do too much pot )

Yes you actually made a point there. when i see or hear what some sibling make each other go through, i can't help but thank God for my own situation as i am free from such hatred and also enjoy my freedom. but on the other hand i feel bored and alone and have to do all the thinking,and sometimes, i even feel i am not wanted and strange when i am with my cousins who have siblings. moreso as a female i get to hear a lot from people expecially men that i must be an overpampared child,i must be this i must be that.which in actuall sence is not so cos dad can be very strict and hard attimes on me making it even worse but mum has always being the over ever loving mum that she gets a lot of "you are spoiling her attitude,you are spending too much on her etc"from my aunts and other family members. i love my world

I always told myself that i wasn't gonna date an only child or an only son.
reason is because their parents get too attached to them

to make it worse, now i am dating not only an only son but also the only child.
his mum raised him alone and sometimes i feel so sorry for masef,
not cos of him but the way his mum is soooooo attached to him and
all hell is loose if she doesn't hear from him in a day. I am the first person
that she calls saying that she is looking for her son.

looking at it in different angle, I can't really blame her cos he is all she's got
especially in this part of the world. To raise a son, give him good education
and now he's all grown up, got his focus right, and got a good job.

talk about "NEVER SAY NEVER"!

@ Vera

I feel u my sis, but I learnt to turn my 'aloneness' to my greatest advantage; I was always doing (and acquiring) unique stuff that made my cousins seek me out !

But let's be truthful o- we do know how to get things to go in our favour

Busta:

I always told myself that i wasn't going to date an only child or an only son.
reason is because their parents get too attached to them

to make it worse, now i am dating not only an only son but also the only child.
his mum raised him alone and sometimes i feel so sorry for masef,
not because of him but the way his mum is soooooo attached to him and
all hell is loose if she doesn't hear from him in a day. I am the first person
that she calls saying that she is looking for her son.

looking at it in different angle, I can't really blame her because he is all she's got
especially in this part of the world. To raise a son, give him good education
and now he's all grown up, got his focus right, and got a good job.

I will love to meet that guy; he has FELT the pain I AM FEELING right now

naijabands:

@ Vera

I feel u my sis, but I learnt to turn my 'aloneness' to my greatest advantage; I was always doing (and acquiring) unique stuff that made my cousins seek me out !

But let's be truthful o- we do know how to get things to go in our favour

Yes we have an advantage there

I'm an only child. This always surprises Nigerians.

well am not an only child but am the only girl. I have 3 brothers, an elder one and two younger ones.

it is very frustrating because they don't understand that am a female, if i want to make my hair and i stay too long in the salon they would say i went to my bf's place, if i put powder on my face and wetlips on my lips they would wonder why am doing all that for, i dont even have privacy at all. Whenever i dress up and i ask hw i look, my brothers especially the younger one would say "Ah, you're not fine jo, you dont know fashion, let me teach you fashion" Sometimes i get angry and sometimes i just laugh it off. When i make night calls with my friend, they say am disturbing them, sometimes they tell my dad and my dad would cease my phone for some days. Sometimes i feel like slaughtering them with knife sometimes i even swear that i wont talk to them ever again, but before the end of the day, i end up talking and even gisting with them They are fun to be with, and they are very funny. Sometimes they help me, esp when am fighting or quarelling with someone, my younger brothers would insult them because they can abuse to the extent that the person would begin to cry I LOVE MY BROTHERS!

When am also in school coz we are in the same school, he doesnt let me rest! follows me almost everywhere1 Boys cant talk to me, am not free at all!
During hols when we are at home, the same old story!

Frustrating at times but i love them coz they are my brothers! and they care for me as their only sister!

Omolola1:

When am also in school coz we are in the same school, he doesnt let me rest! follows me almost everywhere1 Boys cant talk to me, am not free at all!
During hols when we are at home, the same old story!

i mean by elder brother, am in the same school with my elder brother

My parents have been married for 30 years and though my dad had kids before, I'm the only child between both of them. My mum couldn't have a child for several years after they were married and now, she's practically gummed to my back. I practically grew up alone and did things on my own, thats probably why secrets are safe with me, I hardly open up to people! My best friend acts as my sister, friend, brother, confidant and even parent sometimes sef.
One will definitely miss some things but I guess that just toughens you up. . . . . or something.

Thank goodness I am not an only child.

UNIQUE BREED!thats funny,

Well i have 5 brothers and no sister,i guess that mkes me the only girl,

The worse is am the last baby of the house(well thats the best part of it),

my brothers stop bathing me when i was in ss2(anyway am sml in size),and till i got married they stll wash my cloths and clean my room.

maybe it wasnt proper but they kept guarding and protecting me whlie growing up and that affected the way i relate wth girls,i hardly keep women as friend and i dont fight women.
I grew up wth the idea of its wrong to fight a woman,so most times i fight its wth a guy.

Never had a boyfriend till my 2nd yr in BUK(university),most men i meet even at wuk today stl complains abt my lack of feminine attitude.am stl trying to ajust,trying to sit like a lady and so on.
I remembered in school,lots of ladies complain abt my stare and other things to some extent i thought i was a lesbian,the few female friends i was able to keep i get too jealous ,always try to be protective,i smtimes scare guys away from them.
I hate girls coming to my house(then) to see any of my brother,i complain abt every girl my brothers bring home.

Sometmes i wonder wht my husband actually saw in me.Its fun to be okonlawo!

na wa o,firsling,hw old r u,u r still been papas.and do u knw hw 2 do domestic wrk,lik cooking,washing etc mail me on shame_46@yahoo.co.uk,wonder shall neva end;-):-):-D

this is funny. some weeks back we were watching nollywood movie on telly.

the plot was a man and wife with a daughter and the other lady being single mum with an only daughter. she said she has noticed many families in nollywood always have 1 or 2 kids. i do not think this is reality in most naija families.

temi 4 rea:

UNIQUE BREED!thats funny,

Well i have 5 brothers and no sister,i guess that mkes me the only girl,

The worse is am the last baby of the house(well thats the best part of it),

my brothers stop bathing me when i was in ss2(anyway am sml in size),and till i got married they stll wash my cloths and clean my room.

maybe it wasnt proper but they kept guarding and protecting me whlie growing up and that affected the way i relate wth girls,i hardly keep women as friend and i dont fight women.
I grew up wth the idea of its wrong to fight a woman,so most times i fight its wth a guy.

Never had a boyfriend till my 2nd yr in BUK(university),most men i meet even at wuk today stl complains abt my lack of feminine attitude.am stl trying to ajust,trying to sit like a lady and so on.
I remembered in school,lots of ladies complain abt my stare and other things to some extent i thought i was a lesbian,the few female friends i was able to keep i get too jealous ,always try to be protective,i smtimes scare guys away from them.
I hate girls coming to my house(then) to see any of my brother,i complain abt every girl my brothers bring home.

Sometmes i wonder wht my husband actually saw in me.Its fun to be okonlawo!

my wife is the only girl of 7 kids and the very last. imagine having 6 brothers watching over you. she enjoyed it and still enjoying it. . they live across the pond from us but watch over her like she is still a baby.

@Samson
The fact i dont do things girls my age do then doesnt necessarily mean am useless at home, no i wasnt,Then i repair our electronic even if my brothers are around,wash the cars at home becos i knw after washing i will warm up the car,Help ironing cloths even though they are always re-ironed,smtimes i cook(they always complain thats why i dont).
Later i learnt how to cook from my friends,mum and husband.

@JJYOU
I mentioned its fun to be OKONLAWO!

I said the best part of it, is the fact am the baby of the house.

temi 4 rea:

@Samson
The fact i dont do things girls my age do then doesnt necessarily mean am useless at home, no i wasnt,Then i repair our electronic even if my brothers are around,wash the cars at home becos i knw after washing i will warm up the car,Help ironing cloths even though they are always re-ironed,smtimes i cook(they always complain thats why i dont).
Later i learnt how to cook from my friends,mum and husband.

@JJYOU
I mentioned its fun to be OKONLAWO!

I said the best part of it, is the fact am the baby of the house.

good you had fun. we were only 2 boys. i am no 1. didnt have much fun growing up. me and my brother always shared. he was always taking the fews things i had. still the best brother any person could wish for

Good for u JJYOU

I should be so lucky, im not an only child!!