i nid ur help guys.i no this couple that have been going out for about 11years.The lady got pregnant two years ago and since then it has been from one trouble to another.they used to be a couple i admire but now well i do not know what to say.they have a son in common and the boy is two years now.the guy is an ond holder who has not continued his schooling because of finance and the girl is a university graduate who was supposed to graduate the same year she got pregnant and had to graduate two years later,Ever since the girl got pregnant things changed between the couple,finance became an issue btwn them.the guy was working in a firm where the salary was small but not forthcoming in time.since then the girl has been carrying the burden of taking care of her child by herself with major help from her family and minor from the guy himself and minimal from his parents.Now she is at a crossroad should she leave the guy since he is 30 and marriage is not on his agenda now or should she keep on with him?the girl is 29 and is saying that they should marry since he has a beta job though still a meager salary,the girl faces problem in her house her father does not respect her at all and abuses her at every chance he has simply because she has achild.if the child does anything it is the girl that suffers for it and anytime the guy comes her father is always abusing him.so she is at a crossroad.please advise her on what needs to be done.

i beliv so much in dignity and self respect.this is no time to apportion blames anyway but i must say tha the two are living in sin and self deceit.the guy in question is not man enuf to accept responsibilities and the girl has no dignity in her.for crying out loud, she should leave that house with immediate effect and and accept jesus christ in her life, only then can she find true luv, peace and joy in her life.the man has no respect 4 her womanwhood, so why waste her time with him.well, to be forewarned is to be fore armed,the hand writing is boldly written on the wall.she doesn't know luv when she sees one cos the luv of God is not in her.cheers! [size=8pt][/size]

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babyjeff:

i beliv so much in dignity and self respect.this is no time to apportion blames anyway but i must say tha the two are living in sin and self deceit.the guy in question is not man enough to accept responsibilities and the girl has no dignity in her.for crying out loud, she should leave that house with immediate effect and and accept jesus christ in her life, only then can she find true love, peace and joy in her life.the man has no respect 4 her womanwhood, so why waste her time with him.well, to be forewarned is to be fore armed,the hand writing is boldly written on the wall.she doesn't know love when she sees one because the love of God is not in her.cheers! [size=8pt][/size]

i must say tha the two are living in sin and self deceit

Who isn't

she should leave that house with immediate effect and and accept jesus christ in her life

Is that the solution, when she leaves the house what next. Will that force him to marry her

the guy in question is not man enough to accept responsibilities

Why are you people like this, you do not know what effort he has been putting in to improve their lot. If he enters highway robbery now you will be the first to throw the first stone

the man has no respect 4 her womanhood

Please can you be more elaborate

she doesn't know love when she sees one because the love of God is not in her

I'm sure you have it all worked out, remember equal measure will be used to judge you if you fail

This situation is one I expect young ladies to understand by now. A girl should not go out with her age mate, why because the rate of development of both sexes are different. How many young men do you see getting married at 30.
The prevailing economic situation allows guys to find their bearing about age 35 and above after which they begin to talk of marriage.

There is no romance without finance