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-- by nice4life: 9:25pm On Mar 03, 2012
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Re: -- by coogar: 9:27pm On Mar 03, 2012
nice4life:

there is these babe I just got connected to.We've been getting along so well that I wouldn't have thought she's is in a relationship until I decided to ask her.She is in one but then I really like her personality and I think she likes me too.We are always in touch by phone, fb msgs etc.She is just what I have been looking for in a woman, I can talk and chat with her for so long which I find hard with other ladies.By all standard she is a good girl just that this guy met her before me.I want to forget about her but what if her present guy is not the right guy for her and shes just tied down by the relationship?I want to do the right thing but in this case I really don't know what is right.Should I forget about her? If I do am I going to be a looser because she just happen to be my type? she not engage to the guy yet and the relationship has been on for about 1.8 yrs.Please advice is needed.

Thanks NL

if she loves her guy, she shouldn't be spending so much time with you.
i'd suggest you go for it. pile up the pressure, what have you got to lose?
and if she says no - you won't be further back than where you are currently.
Re: -- by xynerise: 9:31pm On Mar 03, 2012
@op. Simple. Just back off dude.
Re: -- by nice4life: 9:34pm On Mar 03, 2012
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Re: -- by nice4life: 9:37pm On Mar 03, 2012
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Re: -- by hisoccer(m): 9:44pm On Mar 03, 2012
young man allow d girl to chose between urself and her man , Dats all
Re: -- by coogar: 9:57pm On Mar 03, 2012
nice4life:

my thought exactly. She spend so much time with me. morning and evening.Its like as long as I am in she's in.I asked her about the guy but she said oit all depends on God.She's not sure about him. Thanks for your contribution.

bingo!

she's having issues with her current boy/f and naija babes love to eat their cake and have it too.
lurk around. . . .if your game is tight, you would get to the promised land any time soon.
pretend the other guy does not exist. . . . . .don't bring his topic up unless she starts his discussion herself.

you're on to something, bro
come back and tell us when you hit your jackpot!
good luck!
Re: -- by iykay4455(m): 11:12pm On Mar 03, 2012
Someone once told me that as long as there is no ring there is still hope.At the same time,do u really want to be the cause of their break up?
Re: -- by shadiva: 11:16pm On Mar 03, 2012
@op 4get abt ha cos she got a guy.
Re: -- by Acidosis(m): 12:00am On Mar 04, 2012
funny poster
Re: -- by Advocator: 12:05am On Mar 04, 2012
Keep your dirty hands off people's trophy. Find another chick.
Re: -- by mcnepow(m): 7:55am On Mar 04, 2012
Advocator:

Keep your dirty hands off people's trophy. Find another chick.
If she is 'truly' someone elses trophy, she wouldnt be spending so much time and investing emotions in anoda man.
Re: -- by kemiola89(f): 8:14am On Mar 04, 2012
It simple, her spending much time with you shows she might likely accept you sooner or later, just be patient, how are you so sure she's got any guy
Re: -- by drnoel: 8:58am On Mar 04, 2012
coogar:

if she loves her guy, she shouldn't be spending so much time with you.
i'd suggest you go for it. pile up the pressure, what have you got to lose?
and if she says no - you won't be further back than where you are currently.

whats that supposed to mean, some ladies like just talking with guys they regard as good friends. Its not right 2 just jump in and suppose she is bored or doesnt care about the guy she is with. He can ask all he wants but he should be prepared to get the boot.
Re: -- by Nobody: 9:05am On Mar 04, 2012
She's just been a typical Naija babe, So am not surprised.
They all wanna east deir cake and have it.

But 1 thing you need to understand about Naija gurls: Whatever they do to get you into a relationship with them, is the same they would do to get you out of their life.

The guy probably might be busy trying to make money or may not be financially capable of handling his responsibilities, without the babe thinking about d past good old times, she might start picking unneccesary fights with d BF, just to get on with d OP,

But good news, a time would come that d OP wuld also be on d receiving end. grin
Re: -- by InkedNerd(f): 9:11am On Mar 04, 2012
nice4life:

there is these babe I just got connected to.We've been getting along so well that I wouldn't have thought she's is in a relationship until I decided to ask her.She is in one but then I really like her personality and I think she likes me too.We are always in touch by phone, fb msgs etc.She is just what I have been looking for in a woman, I can talk and chat with her for so long which I find hard with other ladies.By all standard she is a good girl just that this guy met her before me.I want to forget about her but what if her present guy is not the right guy for her and shes just tied down by the relationship?I want to do the right thing but in this case I really don't know what is right.Should I forget about her? If I do am I going to be a looser because she just happen to be my type? she not engage to the guy yet and the relationship has been on for about 1.8 yrs.Please advice is needed.


Thanks NL

Leave her alone and move on. Just because the two of you talk casually doesn't mean she wants to date you. Lemme ask you something, while you were busy getting bitten by the love bug, did you ever stop to think that if she left her boyfriend for you, she could possibly do the same thing to you if another guy came along? I'm not sayin' she's a sheisty girl but there really is nothing stopping her is she feels that she has found someone better than you. Ignore all those nonsense replies about her spending time with you and talking to you. Anyone can spend countless amounts of time with someone but that doesn't necessarily mean that the person has feelings for you in that manner. For example, I have spent long periods of time talking to my male friends on the phone, online, on Skype, and in person but that doesn't mean that I have an desire to pursue a relationship with them. If you know what's good for you, you'll stay out of her and her relationship otherwise you can expect the same thing to happen to you someday. For all you know, she may end up being the girl that some other guy is trying to take away from you.

Ijogz K:

She's just been a typical Naija babe,  So am not surprised.
They all wanna east deir cake and have it.

But 1 thing you need to understand about Naija gurls: Whatever they do to get you into a relationship with them, is the same they would do to get you out of their life.

The guy probably might be busy trying to make money or may not be financially capable of handling his responsibilities, without the babe thinking about d past good old times, she might start picking unneccesary fights with d BF, just to get on with d OP, 

But good news, a time would come that d OP wuld also be on d receiving end.  grin

So all of a sudden, a woman can't have male friends without wanting to use him? Seriously, some of you guys sound like a broken record at times.
Re: -- by Nobody: 9:16am On Mar 04, 2012
Now u r getting d twist wrong,  don't know wot her motive is, But what i kick against is her damaging d image of d current or placing him on a non existence level just because she probably doesn't want the OP to be jelox or distant himself. Lot of gurls do it, even guyz.
Re: -- by nice4life: 6:25pm On Mar 04, 2012
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Re: -- by mikuz(m): 6:35pm On Mar 04, 2012
Nigga dont be fooled. She's being fond of you doesnt mean she's having a thing for you.
You bleeped up big time!
Re: -- by fr3ddi3(m): 8:30pm On Mar 04, 2012
Op;
listen 2 d advice of ur elders here in Nairaland. Bt if u ask me, i'd say u should jst be her friend, it myt pay off sumday, & if u knw u are d em0tional type of guy (jst like am sensing ryt naw), jst delete her fr0m ur skull, or else, u wunt even find d pieces of ur heart afta it has been GRINDED.
Re: -- by slex(m): 9:08pm On Mar 04, 2012
Poster, please is it hard for you to find another girl?i am having this problem presently, one dumba.ss is asking my girl out and calling her his 'wife' as a man i have decided to do nothing except the dog decides to show up. Please she is with another, let her be, dont you have conscience?how would you feel if someone else was after your babe?just remember what you do to others will be done to you.
The dude after my girl says if i want problem with him he is ready and not scared shocked . I hope you are not the one i am looking for? undecided
Re: -- by LaParisienne(f): 9:33pm On Mar 04, 2012
^^^You funny sha, I fitn't laugh.


Guess OP has moved on. There are millions of ladies and gents out there looking for love, no point wasting emotions on someone who doesn't give a bleep about you. If she likes you so much, she would have broken up with her bf already to be with you. Don't settle for less
Re: -- by Nobody: 12:02pm On Mar 05, 2012
undecided join the queue . . . FOOL!!! cheesy
Re: -- by Nobody: 12:04pm On Mar 05, 2012
undecided join the queue . .FOOL!!! cheesy
Re: -- by slex(m): 12:58pm On Mar 05, 2012
La Parisienne:

^^^You funny sha, I fitn't laugh.


Guess OP has moved on. There are millions of ladies and gents out there looking for love, no point wasting emotions on someone who doesn't give a bleep about you. If she likes you so much, she would have broken up with her bf already to be with you. Don't settle for less

sister wetin man go do lol
Re: -- by CArt(m): 2:16pm On Mar 05, 2012
nice4life:

there is these babe I just got connected to.We've been getting along so well that I wouldn't have thought she's is in a relationship until I decided to ask her.She is in one but then I really like her personality and I think she likes me too.We are always in touch by phone, fb msgs etc.She is just what I have been looking for in a woman, I can talk and chat with her for so long which I find hard with other ladies.By all standard she is a good girl just that this guy met her before me.I want to forget about her but what if her present guy is not the right guy for her and shes just tied down by the relationship?I want to do the right thing but in this case I really don't know what is right .Should I forget about her? If I do am I going to be a looser because she just happen to be my type? she not engage to the guy yet and the relationship has been on for about 1.8 yrs.Please advice is needed.


Thanks NL

The right thing is to act like a man and stop acting like a baby boy. Goooooooo for her wink
Re: -- by 3ndy(f): 4:32pm On Mar 05, 2012
give up, if she were urs wld u like sm other guy 2 take her away??
where has d brother hood code gone to!!!
don't make a robbery on ur fellow man,
Re: -- by Nobody: 7:43pm On Mar 05, 2012
Go for her. She is not married to anyone, you n her is all that matters.if she will leave him for u its all good.
Re: -- by nice4life: 8:10pm On Mar 05, 2012
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Re: -- by Nobody: 8:12pm On Mar 05, 2012
Now you are just silly.
Re: -- by achinaboy(m): 8:45pm On Mar 05, 2012
some girls like to keep many mens in different reason's
i think u should try to understand why she want to keep the relationship with u, since she is already in with somebody,
by call her in cool manner, ask her state with dat person, and u hav to know the reason of goin to her, it's just for friend
are u goin to hav future with her what is ur opion on her u hav to ask urself this question first and know why u are goin to her, let her know wat is in ur mind if u hav good thing in mind on her
i believe by askin and letin her know ur mind u we find out wat is in her mind even due she dont want to tell u
two off u can know wat to do
Re: -- by Nobody: 9:08pm On Mar 05, 2012
Continue trying ur luck it will pay off eventually gud luck.

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