jenny2007: @omega25red, sorry but I don't believe that if your spouse does not call you on valentine's day then it means that he's not into you. She called the guy and he was busy as usual and my friend said she knew this quite well. He apologised to her for not calling her before she called him but still my girl let her anger take control of her dues to past excuses of being busy and then she gave him the big ultimatum 'change or we break up'. I just seem to think that there is a lack of communication btwn them. By the way, I have heard it so many times that ultimatums are a no-no in relationships except you seriously want to end it for sure.

All that is in the past now. They've broken up for a month now without communication. If he cared a bit about her, he'd have called her and sorted their communication issues. He doesn't want her. . . Simples! And i can bet my laptop charger that he wanted out of the relationship, but did not have the effrontery to confront her about it. So, her calling him and ending it was a welcome development. If she calls him and he agrees to her terms, he'll only be doing so out of pity, and will be preparing to dump her arse in the nearest future! For real. . .

Look! She did not like parabolic trajectory the relationship was taking, she called his attention to it, and he did NOTHING about it. Will you personally want to be in a relationship where it looks like you are talking to the wind? It's her right to get angry. He's not just any random dude, but the one she takes special. Some people can die for Valentines day. She could be one of them. How come he never knew the kind of girl she is all these while? Why did he not call or even text her? Do you really believe that a man would be too busy to call or text a lady he claims to really love, on a day important to her as Valentine, and not have compunctions over it?

He doesn't care. She shouldn't make him a priority if she is just an option to him. . .

jenny2007: @omega25red, sorry but I don't believe that if your spouse does not call you on valentine's day then it means that he's not into you. She called the guy and he was busy as usual and my friend said she knew this quite well. He apologised to her for not calling her before she called him but still my girl let her anger take control of her dues to past excuses of being busy and then she gave him the big ultimatum 'change or we break up'. I just seem to think that there is a lack of communication btwn them. By the way, I have heard it so many times that ultimatums are a no-no in relationships except you seriously want to end it for sure.

All that is in the past now. They've broken up for a month now without communication. If he cared a bit about her, he'd have called her and sorted their communication issues. He doesn't want her. . . Simples! And i can bet my laptop charger that he wanted out of the relationship, but did not have the effrontery to confront her about it. So, her calling him and ending it was a welcome development. If she calls him and he agrees to her terms, he'll only be doing so out of pity, and will be preparing to dump her arse in the nearest future! For real. . .

Look! She did not like parabolic trajectory the relationship was taking, she called his attention to it, and he did NOTHING about it. Will you personally want to be in a relationship where it looks like you are talking to the wind? It's her right to get angry. He's not just any random dude, but the one she takes special. Some people can die for Valentines day. She could be one of them. How come he never knew the kind of girl she is all these while? Why did he not call or even text her? Do you really believe that a man would be too busy to call or text a lady he claims to really love, on a day important to her as Valentine, and not have compunctions over it?

He doesn't care. She shouldn't make him a priority if she is just an option to him. . .

jenny2007: @omega25red, sorry but I don't believe that if your spouse does not call you on valentine's day then it means that he's not into you. She called the guy and he was busy as usual and my friend said she knew this quite well. He apologised to her for not calling her before she called him but still my girl let her anger take control of her dues to past excuses of being busy and then she gave him the big ultimatum 'change or we break up'. I just seem to think that there is a lack of communication btwn them. By the way, I have heard it so many times that ultimatums are a no-no in relationships except you seriously want to end it for sure.

Agybabe: The love depreciated. You cant be too busy during val and after val for your val. He wants out but how? Thus, his acts is expected to paint the picture to her. Let her face the bitter truth and forget him. You dont force love on someone. What will be, will be.

jenny2007: guys, i get your point now o. @killz, you need to be a relationship therapist. you are just so brilliant at giving relationship advise. @agybabe, you are right too. i guess i am seeing your point now. initiallyt i was blaming my friend that she was putting too much pressure on him. knowing my friend and the guy i just thought that she was not being patient. now i see that i have been advising her wrongly.
back to @killz, yes, my girl that valentine'S day serious. i also recall that two months back she came crying to me that he didnt call or text her on her birthday, despite, the both of them planning to spend time together on that day. he said that he had family issues. personally i have noticed that whenever she brings up an issue that they are having he buys her gifts and gives her money (i must say that i use to get jealous when i see all the gifts and money), he says sorry but still does not change. oh well, now i feel guilty that i have been making this girl believe that she is just paranoid instead of seeing the fact that she is in a one-sided relationship. and to think that my friend is very pretty, despite pressure from men here in lagos, she still keeps herself for this guy. hmmm....

Oh boy! He forgot her birthday? That's just cruel and mean. I really salute her courage in taking that bold step to end it. And to think he hasn't called her since then? The sad truth is that most girls would rather stay on in the relationship for the gifts and money (you included ) and then fail to take note that their relationship has eroded to the point of no return.
Well, quit flogging yourself and feeling guilty. You are only human and humans tend to make biased decisions based on what they can physically see. Just make sure you don't allow her call that guy first. it's not really a good idea to go back to an ex. She should delete him from her life. Facebook, twitter, BBm, phone numbers, text messages, pictures, and what nots. . . Everything about him should be deleted. that's the only way she would rid herself of him. If she keeps checking him up on FB, and seeing that he is moving ahead without her in his life, she could even be more devastated and would feel insecure the worst! Let her take control of her life. She cant change his feelings for her, let her not be bothered about what she cannot change. . .

She should also take a time off from relationship palavers, do interesting things alone be happy with herself and when she's ready for another relationship, she'll know. Jumping to a new relationship in a bid to forget him would make her worse, cos almost immediately, she'll want the new guy to react exactly her ex did without minding that the new guy is unique in his own way. . . She's counting on you. Dont disappoint her a second time!

~Killz~:

All that is in the past now. They've broken up for a month now without communication. If he cared a bit about her, he'd have called her and sorted their communication issues. He doesn't want her. . . Simples! And i can bet my laptop charger that he wanted out of the relationship, but did not have the effrontery to confront her about it. So, her calling him and ending it was a welcome development. If she calls him and he agrees to her terms, he'll only be doing so out of pity, and will be preparing to dump her arse in the nearest future! For real. . .

Look! She did not like parabolic trajectory the relationship was taking, she called his attention to it, and he did NOTHING about it. Will you personally want to be in a relationship where it looks like you are talking to the wind? It's her right to get angry. He's not just any random dude, but the one she takes special. Some people can die for Valentines day. She could be one of them. How come he never knew the kind of girl she is all these while? Why did he not call or even text her? Do you really believe that a man would be too busy to call or text a lady he claims to really love, on a day important to her as Valentine, and not have compunctions over it?

He doesn't care. She shouldn't make him a priority if she is just an option to him. . .