There is this lady, let's say her name is kate. Kate is a christian, in her early 30s, has a good job and has been in a relationship with a guy (lets say his name is mark) for 3 years. Mark has been out of the country for 2years. Though they have a good relationship, kate claims that mark has not spent a dime on her not in nigeria or while abroad. She says mark is stingy and this puts her off. Right now, a married man (say Tony) is asking for her hands in marriage. She claims that tony is caring and loving. Tony lives in the UK, is married to a white woman and has 2 kids with her. Kate says Tony's interest in her as a second wife is because his white wife is not willing to settle down in Nigeria and with that he may loose his kids. Therefore, he needs a backup. The question now is that. Is it proper for a christian to be a second wife giving the fact that she's not getting any younger or should she wait for the single guy she claims to be stingy?

if Kate is a true christian,she'd definitely not be considering a married man fotr anything!
What's with both LDRs sef?
If i was in kate's shoes,my ans would be..none of the above!

slimyem: if Kate is a true christian,she'd definitely not be considering a married man fotr anything!
What's with both LDRs sef?
If i was in kate's shoes,my ans would be..none of the above!

I told her same and she's like i am the enemy of progress and don't want her happiness.

Slimi yemi!

Acidosis: Slimi yemi!

yewls!

That babe no be true xtian. Thief dey for her eyes.

E nice: There is this lady, let's say her name is kate. Kate is a christian, in her early 30s, has a good job and has been in a relationship with a guy (lets say his name is mark) for 3 years. Mark has been out of the country for 2years. Though they have a good relationship, kate claims that mark has not spent a dime on her not in nigeria or while abroad. She says mark is stingy and this puts her off. Right now, a married man (say Tony) is asking for her hands in marriage. She claims that tony is caring and loving. Tony lives in the UK, is married to a white woman and has 2 kids with her. Kate says Tony's interest in her as a second wife is because his white wife is not willing to settle down in Nigeria and with that he may loose his kids. Therefore, he needs a backup. The question now is that. Is it proper for a christian to be a second wife giving the fact that she's not getting any younger or should she wait for the single guy she claims to be stingy?

NO NO NO (lets say NO)

She needs to tell that stingy guy that he needs to "sh!t, or get off the pot" He could be spending his money on a single women there and thats why he has no money for her. Tell (Kate)to allow God to show her the right person for her. If she keep waiting on this guy who is abroad, she'll find what's for her.

A true christian will not entertain a relationship with a married man.

Tony married a white women when he knew it wasn't going to work out. Why now is he wanting to risk losing his kids for a second wife. OH! so he can make babies elsewhere.

Tony needs to do what's right and work on his life as it is.

Dat kind of marriage to a married man is what I call " a tautological marriage"

Non of the above, na by force to dey into relationship?

go with the cheap guy, less complications in the future