Okay guys I know we all at one point in time tried internet dating so this shouldn't be weird. I met this French guy online about 2months ago but he lives and works in South Korea. We have done a webcam chat, he calls ♍ƺ like everyday, we chat on blackberry messenger everday, he sents so many pictures, he even sent his compnay website so I can know what he does and I saw pictures of him in conference and special events his company had. We want to talk our relationship a bit further by meeting, he asked ♍ƺ to come over, but I've never travelled before and am scared going all the way to S.korea to meet someone I've never met before,even though its an all xpenses paid trip. So I told him to come over and visit ♍ƺ and see my family because not everyone is okay with ♍ƺ travelling, and he is absolutely okay with it and respects my wishes, he has arranged to come over to see ♍ƺ and we plan that we leave back to S.korea togther and I spend like 2weeks with him. Please guys what do you make of this? Am kinda scared but when I speak to him I feel so connected with him. Am I been paranoid? I don't want to miss probably the L♥√ع of my life because I didn't take a risk, maybe I watch too much "banged up abroad", please I need some serious advices only, thank you. w

- dont make any plans until you meet him face to face and spend a bit of time with him, discovering if he is truly the person he portrayed to be online. as much as you "may" think you know him, there are plenty of things that are easily concealed on a webcam.

- also, one important point that you need to ask yourself is: if he was so desperate to see you, and has no problem to go and meet you in 9ja, why does he STILL want you to go back with him to S Korea right away? i dont get it.

- even though it is only for 2 weeks, i wouldnt advise anyone to go and meet a stranger (yes he still is), in a foreign country, with no support/friends/money.........what will you do if he threw you out on the street after an argument?!

there is no rush, so take your time.

[quote author=MRbrownJAY]- dont make any plans until you meet him face to face and spend a bit of time with him, discovering if he is truly the person he portrayed to be online. as much as you "may" think you know him, there are plenty of things that are easily concealed on a webcam.

- also, one important point that you need to ask yourself is: if he was so desperate to see you, and has no problem to go and meet you in 9ja, why does he STILL want you to go back with him to S Korea right away? i dont get it.

- even though it is only for 2 weeks, i wouldnt advise anyone to go and meet a stranger (yes he still is), in a foreign country, with no support/friends/money.........what will you do if he threw you out on the street after an argument?!

there is no rush, so take your time.[/quote Thanks so much for your advice. Firstly, we main plan for now is that he's coming over first, he has also pointed out his fears about coming to nigeria. Secondly, I was the one that suggested we go back together, because I just felt what difference wld it make if I go now or go later. Lastly I have a good business and I am financially okay, I wouldn't leave my country without enough money to see ♍ƺ through and my ticket would be return. I just want to be very cautious. Pls if you have anymore info let ♍ƺ know.t

sizzlinghottie: Okay guys I know we all at one point in time tried internet dating so this shouldn't be weird. I met this French guy online about 2months ago but he lives and works in South Korea. We have done a webcam chat, he calls ♍ƺ like everyday, we chat on blackberry messenger everday, he sents so many pictures, he even sent his compnay website so I can know what he does and I saw pictures of him in conference and special events his company had. We want to talk our relationship a bit further by meeting, he asked ♍ƺ to come over, but I've never travelled before and am scared going all the way to S.korea to meet someone I've never met before,even though its an all xpenses paid trip. So I told him to come over and visit ♍ƺ and see my family because not everyone is okay with ♍ƺ travelling, and he is absolutely okay with it and respects my wishes, he has arranged to come over to see ♍ƺ and we plan that we leave back to S.korea togther and I spend like 2weeks with him. Please guys what do you make of this? Am kinda scared but when I speak to him I feel so connected with him. Am I been paranoid? I don't want to miss probably the L♥√ع of my life because I didn't take a risk, maybe I watch too much "banged up abroad", please I need some serious advices only, thank you. w

sister dis smells like scam
wether na oyiboman u see for the webcam no matter.there is a new programme in town were u can upload another person"s webcam and show the cam to ur victim .start waiting b4 he starts asking u to lend him 50k USD for im to balance im 80k USD for one business in Port harcourt when he visits nigeria

Which naija guy would want to scam a naija girl when there are many fishes out there, that's just plain stupid. Am not worried about scam am much more worried about drug trafficking and human trafficking.

^^ lady, you would be surprised to know how many 9ja girls are being taken for this online dating scam. women are women and sadly, when love is in the air, many will do anything to meet/please their Don Juan. what the previous poster was telling you is that, if you have to send him money (for whatever reason) then it "may" be a scam.

Sizzlinghottie: Thanks so much for your advice. Firstly, we main plan for now is that he's coming over first, he has also pointed out his fears about coming to nigeria. Secondly, I was the one that suggested we go back together, because I just felt what difference wld it make if I go now or go later. Lastly I have a good business and I am financially okay, I wouldn't leave my country without enough money to see ♍ƺ through and my ticket would be return. I just want to be very cautious. Pls if you have anymore info let ♍ƺ know.t

the difference of planning to go straight back with him is HUGE! remember, you shouldnt make any plans until you properly meet him and discover if he is who he is......so if you buy a ticket to go back with him, before he arrives and spends time with you, then its wrong.

also, how exactly would you consider your r/ship? is he your BF? is he coming to get to know you or is he coming to "taste" the fruit of your r/ship? i mean, if he comes here, is sleeping together on the "menu"?

as for being left alone in a strange country, many things can happen with strangers, even if you have money.
- mysteriously lost your passport before he threw you out.
- mysteriously lost your cash/CC before he threw you out.

trust is something that should be earned, dont give it away cheaply because of sweet words, as it could be your downfall.
many are forced into prostitution abroad, many are sold and enslaved as cheap labor, many are even killed.

here is some very important things you have to ask yourself (and him too):
- why you? if he is not old or "ugly" (or if you are not the most beautiful gal out there) then why is he after you like that, rather than after someone closer to him?
- what is so special about your person that he wants you in S Korea?
- if he really plans his future with you then he should take the proper measures (after a while and before you leave), marriage etc.
- where will you stay if going to S. Korea? or will you go there and automatically live as husband and wife with this stranger?
- why the rush?
- did you do ONE webcam chat or you do webcam chat every night?

MRbrownJAY: ^^ lady, you would be surprised to know how many 9ja girls are being taken for this online dating scam. women are women and sadly, when love is in the air, many will do anything to meet/please their Don Juan. what the previous poster was telling you is that, if you have to send him money (for whatever reason) then it "may" be a scam.



the difference of planning to go straight back with him is HUGE! remember, you shouldnt make any plans until you properly meet him and discover if he is who he is......so if you buy a ticket to go back with him, before he arrives and spends time with you, then its wrong.

also, how exactly would you consider your r/ship? is he your BF? is he coming to get to know you or is he coming to "taste" the fruit of your r/ship? i mean, if he comes here, is sleeping together on the "menu"?

as for being left alone in a strange country, many things can happen with strangers, even if you have money.
- mysteriously lost your passport before he threw you out.
- mysteriously lost your cash/CC before he threw you out.

trust is something that should be earned, dont give it away cheaply because of sweet words, as it could be your downfall.
many are forced into prostitution abroad, many are sold and enslaved as cheap labor, many are even killed.

here is some very important things you have to ask yourself (and him too):
- why you? if he is not old or "ugly" (or if you are not the most beautiful gal out there) then why is he after you like that, rather than after someone closer to him?
- what is so special about your person that he wants you in S Korea?
- if he really plans his future with you then he should take the proper measures (after a while and before you leave), marriage etc.
- where will you stay if going to S. Korea? or will you go there and automatically live as husband and wife with this stranger?
- why the rush?
- did you do ONE webcam chat or you do webcam chat every night?

Mrbrownjay thanks sooooooo much for your honest replies. To answer your questions, no arrangement would be paid for ♍ƺ to leave before I meet with him. We have discussed a lot of deep issues so I would say we are dating and he's coming to get to know ♍ƺ more and see my folks(not 4 marriage just intro) but marriage has been discussed already and its looking positive. About where I would stay am not sure yet but I know he has his house which his company gave him. He is also worried about coming to nigeria, he's scared I might be a scam or kidnap him, because he has been kidnapped before in trinidad&tobago( so its all about trust on both ends) I was thinking if I eventually go, maybe I could go to the nigerian embassy and drop my contacts with them, they make sure I return back safely( still thinking).I get to use my laptop with wifi on weekends so we have a webcam chat on weekdays and it isn't fake because I have asked him to do somethings and he did.it is not as if he wants ♍ƺ to come and live there, its jusrt after all the internet chat we have to get to know eachother face to face. He also plans on relocationg but that's after he's contract has finished in S.korea. I just want to know of any security measures I can take.

Interesting topic, I must say.

I don't want to spoil your happiness, but be realistic. You know him 2 months and already talk about marriage. I can't imagine myself getting married any time soon, but definately I would like to get the person to know me and I her for at least 2 years, before I even think about asking for marriage. Marriage is for life and I don't think anyone could make that decision via a webcam or via bb box in two months.

It sounds a little desperate to me. May I ask if there is a big age difference between the both of you?
Personally I think he is after your body - Your name here makes me believe you are quite a 'looker' - Don't end up in a episode of 'knocked up abroad'.

Anyway, I can't and won't make any decision for you. It is your good justment, which must make it happen or not.

Little side note: I am an expat myself and can honestly say I am not always a big fan of expats and how they treat Nigerian/ African women. (I go out sometimes and see so many Nigerian women carrying the baby/ child of an expat and hearing them say: "he got transferred, lost his job, immigration rejected his visa and all this bla bla - at the end they just ran away, scared of being sued or having their wives find out back home they knocked up another woman).

The fact that you question this topic here, already tells you that it sounds 'to good to be true'. And what did we learn from the many 419 emails sent in the past years? If it sounds to good to be true, it probably isn't true!

Last: I don't know the person at all and he might be genuine, but there are other ways to find this out than going to South Korea so quickly. It is not you who has to prove this to him, but him to prove to you!

Take good care of yourself!

Interesting topic, I must say.

I don't want to spoil your happiness, but be realistic. You know him 2 months and already talk about marriage. I can't imagine myself getting married any time soon, but definately I would like to get the person to know me and I her for at least 2 years, before I even think about asking for marriage. Marriage is for life and I don't think anyone could make that decision via a webcam or via bb box in two months.

It sounds a little desperate to me. May I ask if there is a big age difference between the both of you?
Personally I think he is after your body - Your name here makes me believe you are quite a 'looker' - Don't end up in a episode of 'knocked up abroad'.

Anyway, I can't and won't make any decision for you. It is your good justment, which must make it happen or not.

Little side note: I am an expat myself and can honestly say I am not always a big fan of expats and how they treat Nigerian/ African women. (I go out sometimes and see so many Nigerian women carrying the baby/ child of an expat and hearing them say: "he got transferred, lost his job, immigration rejected his visa and all this bla bla - at the end they just ran away, scared of being sued or having their wives find out back home they knocked up another woman).

The fact that you question this topic here, already tells you that it sounds 'to good to be true'. And what did we learn from the many 419 emails sent in the past years? If it sounds to good to be true, it probably isn't true!

Last: I don't know the person at all and he might be genuine, but there are other ways to find this out than going to South Korea so quickly. It is not you who has to prove this to him, but him to prove to you!

Take good care of yourself!

Am not Interested!