This is my version of the post "What Are The Dating Mistakes That Guys & Ladies Make?" found at https://www.nairaland.com/672795/what-dating-mistakes-that-guys

I hate pointing fingers and I believe it takes two tango. A friend once said, "relationships are for two people, some don't just know how to count." For me, when a relationship ends, I believe both parties should own up to the parts they played to make it crumble.

I have made several mistakes in my past relationships and I have learnt from them, one of which was being too busy with work to call.

Whether you are a guy or a lady, are you willing to share yours so we can learn from it?

Good topic.

Mine a little bit too selfish and self obsessed.

Wen u love som1 n u r sure e/she feels d same way abot u, ur ego/pride has no say in it. Secondly, don't be d only one compromising ur principles.

Acting desperate with my bf. Unfortunately I have a passionate nature, so I'm emotional. I'm learming to stay calm and mature by God's grace.

I now make sure I don't love her. I will not date any girl I love. I know how painful it is to watch another man love her but I still like am like that.

....nice topic but I have no experience to share, so I will come back to share when I do have a date...though I pray it ends well so that I won't need to come back here to share!

Showing too much care and emotions. cnt help it sumtymz. #toomuchofeverythingisnotgood

ludot: I have made several mistakes in my past relationships and I have learnt from them, one of which is being too busy with work to call or send her text messages till someone else snatched her.

With respect sir, I think it is a lame excuse to leave the 'love of your life' for something as trivial as 'calls and texts' that's just a show of selfishness and immaturity. I had an ex who was always pissed off for my not sending texts and everytime she complained, she ddnt leave me for someone who called and texted more. Now I'm not sayying this to disparage your ex, I'm only saying this for you to have a more healthy opinion on relationship matters and be less hard on yourself.

Having said that, I've learrned to:
1. Compromise only in as far your partner is willing to compromise.No need conceding when they will never concede/concede just a little.
2.The end of the relationship is USUALLY clear in the beginning. And as time goes on it becomes clearer. Red flags are crucial, pay attention to them.
3.You can always do better for your partner.
4.Love without respect will not last long.
5.Romantic love is NOT necessary in order to have a wonderful/happy relationship.
6.Love is a choice.

My mistake: simply put "ANGER". Was so angry dat i was unable to forgive her easily!
Trying 2control it tho, so i dont make d same mistake in any other reltnshp i find myself.

Haha! Not so easy. You want to know my weakness, eh? The weakness you are probing for is shrouded in secrecy, please try again later.

fresh_dude: With respect sir, I think it is a lame excuse to leave the 'love of your life' for something as trivial as 'calls and texts' that's just a show of selfishness and immaturity. I had an ex who was always pissed off for my not sending texts and everytime she complained, she ddnt leave me for someone who called and texted more. Now I'm not sayying this to disparage your ex, I'm only saying this for you to have a more healthy opinion on relationship matters and be less hard on yourself.

Having said that, I've learrned to:
1. Compromise only in as far your partner is willing to compromise.No need conceding when they will never concede/concede just a little.
2.The end of the relationship is USUALLY clear in the beginning. And as time goes on it becomes clearer. Red flags are crucial, pay attention to them.
3.You can always do better for your partner.
4.Love without respect will not last long.
5.Romantic love is NOT necessary in order to have a wonderful/happy relationship.
6.Love is a choice.

@fresh_dude I really like your contribution, it is brilliant! But it seemed you interpreted the post based on your girlfriend's complaints. I never said she complained of 'texts and calls', did I?

Anyways to spell it out for you, what I was passing across is that I have learnt that even if I am so busy consistently, I should still be able to show attention and care with as little as a call or text. **what I have learnt NOT what SHE complained of** They are two different things, aren't they?

"More healthy opinion..." and "be less hard..." whose scale or standard are you using?

Nice contribution from you though, those 6 stuffs are on point! Most especially the no. 4...

Don't fall in love too quick no matter what your emotions say.
Take time to grow with the person and let things happen naturally.
In short,dont try too hard to make it work if there's no hope in the horizon.

pendo89: Don't fall in love too quick no matter what your emotions say.
Take time to grow with the person and let things happen naturally.
In short,dont try too hard to make it work if there's no hope in the horizon.

If dumb arse women can take your advice to heart, it will DECREASE dumb arse women ratio.

pendo89: Don't fall in love too quick no matter what your emotions say.
Take time to grow with the person and let things happen naturally.
In short,dont try too hard to make it work if there's no hope in the horizon.

u jst spoke ma mind
in addition,never wear ur emotions on ur sleeves.Be unpredictabe

have learnt never to put my all in all into any relationship, i.e to always use my head wen falling inlove.

Lets see

If you date multiple ppl at the same time, do your best not to mix them up

Relationships are sacrifice, you have to put in some work, time and effort

You might like other things more than your bf, just don't let him know that

There is no easy way to break up with someone. So just get it done, don't drag it on.

Pick n choose your battles

Compliment him every now and then

Interesting topic. Mine was being too emotional, a bit too clingy, and lacked a bit of confidence. I fell too quickly and was totally predictable. I have realised that in relationships, a woman cannot afford to make it too easy for the guy. He needs to work to get you, that attract many guys. They love the chase. In-confidence and low self esteem is also a huge turn off. I'm working on me.

KateSpade: Lets see

If you date multiple ppl at the same time, do your best not to mix them up

Relationships are sacrifice, you have to put in some work, time and effort

You might like other things more than your bf, just don't let him know that

There is no easy way to break up with someone. So just get it done, don't drag it on.

Pick n choose your battles

Compliment him every now and then

And these are the smart ones.

i get angry easily thats what my friends are complaining about.[color=#990000][/color]

Nothing! Whatever I did in my past relationships I would do over again if given another chance cos at that point in time it made me happy, nothing else matters more to me.

never Love 2 d fuLLest

And

Never show dat u care 2 much

Never let a man just put the head in!

No matter how rich u are,don't disclose or display ur wealth to ur woman

My biggest mistake was letting my heart rule my head. When next I fall in love I'll make sure my brain doesn't stop working.

Letting my heart rule my head was it. When next I fall in love, I'll make sure my brain doesn't stop working

He was obsessed abt me

never show i like a guy when i dont want to date him

Lifting the toilet seat to pee

i've never learnt from my mistakes.
will share when i do.

On the contrary, she made a very big mistake that pissed me off. I'l share later.

Trying to make it work, even when I knew that she was showing lack of commitment