Greater independence

Generalisations are no more than that, and Glenn Close was pushing 40 when she did the rabbit thing in Fatal Attraction. But surely one of the most admirable qualities of older women is that they tend to be more independent, more comfortable in their own space, and so less needy.

Chances are she will have experienced being in and out of relationships before, and be less likely to demand you are with her or in constant contact with her or that you are welded together 24/7. Being desired is great, but clingy is awful and she will be cool enough not to do it.


Greater assertiveness

Most of us do not wish to be pushed around, but neither do we wish to decide what to do all the time - or to spend our waking hours trying to second-guess someone. A more mature woman is likely to have a clearer idea of who she is and what she wants.

This can be liberating for both of you, not least because she is less likely to waste time playing games when she knows what she wants - and whether or not you can deliver. She will cut to the chase while her younger, more timid sister is still playing hard-to-get.


Better social skills

Admittedly being more forthright and self-aware can make anyone - male or female, irrespective of age - boring and horribly opinionated. But hopefully with age comes knowledge and sophistication, two crucially important qualities when it comes to being good company.

Most of us fail to notice a good conversation, being happily engaged with the subject matter (and the person talking) rather than analysing what is being said. We notice the bad ones though, and so often the speaker is young, gauche, unsophisticated, lacking in self-confidence, and so so dull.


Better resourced

Older women tend to earn more money than pretty school leavers. That sounds mercenary and, in a sense, it is. But only because in this day and age, one can understand why any male may quail slightly at the thought of picking up the bill every single time.

Clearly it is to be hoped that most men will be gentlemanly, and be chivalrous and traditional enough to do the decent thing when the two of you are out on the town. But it is useful to know that, going forward, she may occasionally return the favour - even if you graciously decline.


Better at dating

Being more grown-up means doing more grown-up things. Sometimes older women will let their hair down, and some may occasionally exhibit vaguely wild-child behaviour. Mostly though they will want to avoid becoming paralytic and throwing up, or cramming onto a deafening dancefloor with another 10,000 sweaty bodies.

Which is as it should be. One of the most important things about dating is getting to know each other, which takes time, patience, and peace and quiet. Where better to start the process than in a smart restaurant, offering good food and discreet but attentive service?


More experienced

Logic suggests older women will have more experience of relationships than younger ones, meaning she will be better able to handle the inevitable ups and downs. Because of this you can expect someone more measured in her responses and less likely to fly off the handle at the first sign of trouble.

The chances are she will have more realistic expectations too, which must help boost the odds when it comes to your relationship's long-term survivability. Assuming that your own expectations are similarly reasonable, that is, and that you resist the temptation to take the mickey.


More self-reliant

It is good to meet your girlfriend's pals and to get on with them. What you want to avoid, however, is being forced through hoops because - unsure of her own judgement - she won't commit to you until she gets the seal of approval from everyone she went to school with.

Greater self-reliance and independence mean an older woman is much less likely to seek her friends' advice.

She may well ask their opinions and listen to them. But ultimately she will trust her own judgement, recognising that others are not necessarily expert when it comes to knowing what is best for her.


More stable outlook

Experience and maturity mean older people are less likely to wallow in disasters. This might just be because they have been there before - your first failed relationship can feel like the end of everything, but subsequent disappointments are rarely as bad - or just a recognition that life must go on.

By contrast, younger women seem to have more drama in their lives and many revel in the disruption which can be exhausting for others. Eventually even the most compassionate boyfriend will resist getting dragged into yet another crisis - and start looking for someone with a more relaxing style.


Greater sexual experience

Very much the big one and invariably the most commonly cited reason younger men are attracted to older women. And why not? By now we are all old enough to blush at the ineptitude of those early fumblings and to recognise that we get better the more we practise.

Admittedly an older woman may feel slightly insecure about the way she looks naked, but then that is true of many younger ones too. Either way, greater experience means knowing more about what turns you on - and more about what turns her on too, so it's a definite win-win.


More perspective

With more going on in her own life and career, a greater sense of herself and a much better idea about what really matters in the world, an older woman is less likely to mess you around and more likely to value the time you spend together.

A cynic might say she has tried what else is out there and simply knows a good man when she sees one. If you are lucky enough to be that man be sure to reciprocate - and to let her know that you take her seriously too

Do not bite more than you can chew is my advise to you.

pendo89: Do not bite more than you can chew is my advise to you.

Exactly.

R u tryin2justify ur apparent union wt dat white lady?

mykejones: R u tryin2justify ur apparent union wt dat white lady?

mykejones: R u tryin2justify ur apparent union wt dat white lady?

mykejones: R u tryin2justify ur apparent union wt dat white lady?

Thought so too, mtschew...rubbish!

@OP, Encore!! 'Nuff said!

The guy is definately enjoying what he has and he is proud of it, the best u guys shd do is encourage him and stop d hating. My if u have one enjoy

kwelu could be an abnormal man after all.

@POSTER, the whole nairalanders might be against you, insult you and even curse you but beat it at the back of your mind that you have one man that is 100% behind and in support of you and that is ME.

My best and most peaceful relationships are with older women. Before anyone start looking at me as a gold digger, clear that thought off your head, because I have never ever collected a single penny from any of my girls friends (old or young). I spoil them silly until when they get to misunderstand my generousity for stupi4dity.

The last older lady I dated, I LOVE her so much but distance was a barrier. I flew her in and back to her base of work at least twice every month. I never minded 'cus of the love. Whereas I never spent 2% of the air ticket for those small empty headed gold diggers around.

If you want rest of mind, date an older women.

People will insult you both saying she is desperate, while you are a gold digger.

But once your conscience is clear, keep doing your thing brother.

You are thinkin about this post? #GodIsWatchingYou

nothing wrong with dating an older woman IMO

You are absolutely right! ***** for this post!

Sugar mummy thread

valencia25: You are thinkin about this post? #GodIsWatchingYou

and wats ur point?

Interesting topic

There is nothing wrong with dating an older woman, if you are doing it for the right things and not the wrong things.

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I ain't talking about someone's who's as old as your Mama or Grandma, lol. . . If that's the case with you, then it's something else.

To say the truth... I am not in any relationship with someone older... Not even in a relationship with anyone but to go into a relationship, I would have preferred someone older than me max 10 years. Why? Because you get to enjoy the relationship better as the guy... Its a psych thing... but I WONT DO IT. I will even go for someone far younger to prove to that stupid senseless feeling of the flesh that God's spirit is the path... ...You feeling that go after older women in me, what are you waiting for? Your time is UP! DIE DIE DIE DIE DIE!!!!!!

very nice

I have observed that quite alot of guys fancy dating a more matured woman (not sugar mummy) to younger girls. Well i feel its a matter of what one likes but my question is who greets who first? If the age difference is upto 6, will the lady completely throw away those years and be the one greeting the younger man in the morning and anyother time?
While i don't fault is as its each person to his or her own, when such people decide to marry, the family of the man more or less creates problems for them.

poverty,unemploymt,struggle for green card,desire to get rich quick, are responsible for guys dating older women....Its funny dat dsame guys who accuse younger ladies of datin married men or sugar dadies r jusyifying their reasons for dating older women....

I don't see the big deal in dating older women.infact I've never dated anybody younger,except one and I almost lost my life on that account.and if I may say.the age difference never means thay will disrespect u.

Dating older women brings abt rest of mind nd less thoughts abt how to please ur babe compared to all those small small girls who come running to you @ the slightest need of anyfin...pant,bra,lipstiick,pad even chop money like say if dem no get bf dem go starve to death mstcheeeeeew. 4 me older women anytime any day

PrettyCindy: I have observed that quite alot of guys fancy dating a more matured woman (not sugar mummy) to younger girls. Well i feel its a matter of what one likes but my question is who greets who first? If the age difference is upto 6, will the lady completely throw away those years and be the one greeting the younger man in the morning and anyother time?

sywetheart, u must be living in an extremely boring world. As much as i don't like feminism, are u sayin your boyfriend, though older, doesn't wake up by u in d morning and plant this quick kiss on your lips or cheek to say, 'good morning sweetie'? Or comes by u in the kitchen, holding u from d back and say,'good morning angel, what are giving me today?'
so, he alwys expect u to greet first?
This is your lucky day sweetheart, i'm single, jst lost my girlfriend to a rich guy, wanna come over?lol

There's diffrence between marryin/dating and older lady and marryin/datin a couger. I believe a guy goin after a woman who's atleast 5years older than he is goes in for the monentary gains.
Why don't we hear a rich younger man goin for an older lady? Say a man who is 22 and very rich,goin 4 a lady who is 35 and poor?
Do u get now?

OP i once dated an older lady, all what you say is true or almost all. You certainly are saved a lot of the drama that goes with dating the younger ones.

Nigeria situation has led many guys to do such. I am not talking about poverty here, but dishonesty, materialism and infidelity of Nigerian young girls.

You always see them around fixing Brazilian hair, clutching on blackberry phones, munching on chewing gum as if they are cursed. They really want a stable place to live in for the rest of their lives. They want to maintain the 'BIG GIRL' status.

When unemployed young graduate approaches them and they notice he's not RICH, they embarrass him. Nigerian girls have logically told all Nigerian men to make enough money before dating them. And what does that entail? Wouldn't it rather be better dating a much older woman who will love you for who you are than all those blackberry clutching Nigerian girls.

They always jump at guys on 4WD, happening guys. They do so by losing a self-respect the nature has bestowed on them.

You have a Nigerian girlfriend , you do so at your own risk/detriment cuz she will be 100% dependent on you. She needs 500naira for that Glo top up, you are the one she would call, while she screws that Alhaji and Chibuzor

@OP.

Stop deluding yourself, the same prob you face with younger woman will be there with older woman IF you met the wrong person. You will enjoy relationship with younger woman as well as older one if both of you are in-love with each other, anything other than that is day-dreaming.

Dating an older woman does not mean she'll be more mature,not be demanding or clingy.my own kobo,me thinks older women will be more jealous and a little desperate because dey know d dude will probably have a younger lady on d side who he's more serious with and guy u"ll surely ve it all coming down on u...

OP, u can date whomever u pls but its like u r pushing the responsiblities of the older person in any relationship away from u. This is what I mean, in any r/ship, somenpone has to be more indepenent, more assertive, better resourced and et cetra. In most cases it is the older person. So nothing stops u from assuming the positions when u date younger women.

My 1cent!