Hello all, i need help on how to understand my boyfriend so that our relationship can work well.

we have been dating since october last year and he has been very nice, caring and loving to me.
im in lagos but his in abj, we get to see once in a month cos i also work in lag and him in abj.

my problem is dat theres a new change in how we communicate cos his hard to understand, although he doesnt do late nites out
but he doesnt seek for my attention 1st like he used too, he calls back only wen im out of air time, he complains dat his not the callin type.
he prefers to do things his way.

when i say i love him, he feels he doesnt need to reply back dat he loves me too. i dont get to hear him say it 1st and dont knw if its cos i say it all the time.

i dont feel insecured around him but im bothered dat his not taking me very serious, like av the same feelings dat i also have for him.

and i think i quarrel with him too much and i end up being the one to say sorry. wht are the things i can do so that im missed loved and shown much attention?
thank you

Just focus on your happiness and think less of him. Take yourself out, make friends,..

He will be the one trying to get in touch with you.

You sound desperate.. Take it easy ok.

All the best

Be elusive. Even if it's just a bit. Don't be there for him on a platter at all times.

you are already doing enough by showing him how much you care and respect him,how much you are will to say sorry when you are wrong and how much you want the relationship to work!
Hang in there just for a LITTLE while and if he's still not seeing all of that or is not ready to give back as much as you are giving or more,then screw him an walk away...
Goodluck!

@Vikin thank u for ur advice..... If I may correction ur statement dat I sound desperate but in wht form really, all I want is to make right moves. But I appreciate ur advice ...noted! And the rest of u.... Thanx much!

Well its not really bad dat his not showin much back, but I feel its d distance cos wen I'm new wit him in abj, although we don't stay 2geda, its really lik a cool loving relationship but this distance kills all d air when I av to go back to lag, but we do. Communicate but d prob is dat I seek for it 1st

slimyem: you are already doing enough by showing him how much you care and respect him,how much you are will to say sorry when you are wrong and how much you want the relationship to work!
Hang in there just for a LITTLE while and if he's still not seeing all of that or is not ready to give back as much as you are giving or more,then screw him an walk away...
Goodluck!

renzoisi: Well its not really bad dat his not showin much back, but I feel its d distance cos wen I'm new wit him in abj, although we don't stay 2geda, its really lik a cool loving relationship but this distance kills all d air when I av to go back to lag, but we do. Communicate but d prob is dat I seek for it 1st

distance or not,the desire to communicate frequently should be mutual!
You should feel good/cool that you are in a relationship at all times not just WHEN YOU ARE WITH HIM!
LDRs are such headaches!
Ugh!

I remember treating a girl that way!!!

Op I can feel ur pain, my bf hardly ever call,he has cAll sickness, I do d calling, but wen it enters my head, I don't call for about a week and d dude somehow remembers dt I exist. If he does not call, give him space- don't call, if he still cares about you he will call

Come on are we such headaches. Arrggg back at u! And well I do feel cool I'm in a relationship and just dat but with him

slimyem: distance or not,the desire to communicate frequently should be mutual!
You should feel good/cool that you are in a relationship at all times not just WHEN YOU ARE WITH HIM!
LDRs are such headaches!
Ugh!

And what happened...

Dondav: I remember treating a girl that way!!!