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Tell her everything you've just told us! Put your pride aside and be genuine a woman's love doesn't die easily.

Smh,guys like dis just make me sick,ok u claimed u 'loved her,wen she showed u lov,y did u treat her like crap' afterall she wasnt forced on u by parents or anyone.i wonder y guys dont value what dey have,till its gone,so what of d random one night bed mates,u cherished those ones beta hun? Anyway wen i read through ur post,i remembered my ex and it is d exact/precise thing u did to ur gal dat he did to me because he had options.infact h had no iota of respect for me,and generaly made me feel insignificant,i had to make up my mind that whats d point of putting in so much efforts loving a guy and he trats me bad,d last straw was when i brot lunch to his place and i caught him avin sex wit anoda gal.i broke down so bad,we even had a mid semester exam i missed and i lost 4o marks,of course i've moved on now and i av a man who treats me like a queen and treats me like i'm d best thing that has ever happened to him.ur post literarily brot his memories back and it felt like u were writing a story about me but d only great advantage u av is dat i dont know d gal and d gal has not come to me for advice because trust me ill tell her to run as fast as her feet can carry her because guys like u dont change and dont have any likelihood of changin of changing.even if ure sober,its only for a while,u will still bring out ur real character.dats d exact thing ill tel her.funny enough i dont know whether guys know dis or not dat ur actions stick in a gals mind longer than words

kindabigg: Basically, I need urgent help...

I've been with this chic on and off for two years, and I've been so bad to her.. I treated like shyte when we first started going out, though, I liked her a lot.. I guess it was because I had so many options back then, but it seems everything I did to her made her act a certain way me.. She used to be madly in love with me, and she gave up everything for me.. She almost committed suicide twice because I hurt her feelings, and she was sectioned at least once because of me..

it's just now that she's almost done with me, that I realized she's the best thing that's ever happened to me.. She's the only one that has ever loved me and showed it.. I won't lie, I also love this girl now - but it seems a little bit too late...

We had a big fight yesterday, and it seems she's gone forever now.. I need help on how to get her back.. She's the only girl I have ever loved... I admit I have been stupid in the past, and sometimes of late - but I don't want to lose her... She has been the rock behind for close to three years, and losing her would be suicidal...

Please, help me NLers.

Why on earth would you think anyone will help you get her back??!!

Do you think people are that cruel. . .abi what are you asking here??!!

Think of it this way. . .will you return a cat to the lion's den after it has managed to escape??

Yeah, that's what I thought.

Sisi_Kill:

Why on earth would you think anyone will help you get her back??!!

Do you think people are that cruel. . .abi what are you asking here??!!

Think of it this way. . .will you return a cat to the lion's den after it has managed to escape??
Yeah, that's what I thought.

Lolll.

kulyie: Smh,guys like dis just make me sick,ok u claimed u 'loved her,wen she showed u lov,y did u treat her like crap' afterall she wasnt forced on u by parents or anyone.i wonder y guys dont value what dey have,till its gone,so what of d random one night bed mates,u cherished those ones beta hun? Anyway wen i read through ur post,i remembered my ex and it is d exact/precise thing u did to ur gal dat he did to me because he had options.infact h had no iota of respect for me,and generaly made me feel insignificant,i had to make up my mind that whats d point of putting in so much efforts loving a guy and he trats me bad,d last straw was when i brot lunch to his place and i caught him avin sex wit anoda gal.i broke down so bad,we even had a mid semester exam i missed and i lost 4o marks,of course i've moved on now and i av a man who treats me like a queen and treats me like i'm d best thing that has ever happened to him.ur post literarily brot his memories back and it felt like u were writing a story about me but d only great advantage u av is dat i dont know d gal and d gal has not come to me for advice because trust me ill tell her to run as fast as her feet can carry her because guys like u dont change and dont have any likelihood of changin of changing.even if ure sober,its only for a while,u will still bring out ur real character.dats d exact thing ill tel her.funny enough i dont know whether guys know dis or not dat ur actions stick in a gals mind longer than words

It's not like I did everything on purpose, things happened in the relationship I can't really post here.. And to be honest, I'm going through a lot in my life at the moment... I'm not a wicked guy, but I'm just a victim of circumstance...

I just wish I can be the guy to treat her like a queen, because I know she's my queen.

Intuitively, I would have no sympathy if you tasted a little judgement for your past misdeeds, and no problem with you learning a very painful lesson here. Hopefully one that meant you never behaved in such a manner again.

By your own admission,you treated "this chic" - and in all likelihood a number of others - like dirt. The ramifications of your maltreatment may well reverberate for a long time to come, potentially hurting all of her future relationships. If she's lucky she'll meet someone mature enought to carry the burden of loving her better, if indeed she ever fully heals.

We all have sisters, daughters mothers and wouldn't want them treated in that way. Given my experience and what I have seen/heard,I am quite downbeat about the "Nigerian woman", but it has to be said the "Nigerian man" has been her worst abuser. And you can't coruscate one without bringing shame on the other.

Having said that, I am a great believer in redemption, so if you are generally remorseful and true in your intentions, I have this advice for you; humble yourself. Apologise and beg if you have to. Make a long-term commitment that includes marriage vows and pray that she will perhaps give you the opportunity to be that man that loves her better. You absolutely don't deserve it.

Any less and you are just picking up where you left off.

Sorry if I come across a bit harsh, but you have been a bit of a prick behaved despicably.

I wish "the chic" full restoration and all the best - with or without you.

TV

90love: Tell her everything you've just told us! Put your pride aside and be genuine a woman's love doesn't die easily.

Thanks, love.

I don't think she should come back to you. You just like the idea of having someone around you who loves you more than herself. Look at you writing "thanks love." Men that call other women love andd sweetheart easily are usually not worth the effort.

kindabigg:

Thanks, love.

andromida: I don't think she should come back to you. You just like the idea of having someone around you who loves you more than herself. Look at you writing "thanks love." Men that call other women love andd sweetheart easily are usually not worth the effort.

U beta stat lukin for somone else because wit wot i've seen i dont think she'll likely want to go back to u so u beta stat lukin for someone else and learn/desist from ur foolish ways.i wonder y guys always think dey can eat their cake and have it,anyway d only tin i know for sure is dat u can neva find a gal like her or beta than her.she has probably gone to d person dat knows and values a woman's worth,because sincerely speaking,gals like her are extremely rare but am sooooo happy dat women r already getin wiser and are avin beta choices.women now recognize emotional abusers.dats d consequence of feeling too wise and fine and think u can get any gal of ur choice.

kindabigg:

Thanks, love.

You just miss the ego rush you have when she is around you,else why will you say this?I hope she finds love that wont kill her.

chaircover: Sorry but she will be a big fool to come back to you after the way that you treated her. E ma binu o! but I have no sympathy for you . . . . and Did you say that she almost committed suicide twice and was sectioned once because of you? I am tempted to say that you both fit each other. What kind of low self-esteem is that? that will allow a man . . . . a boyfriend for that matter to send her to a mental hospital. God help our daughters.

What is wrong with us women . . . and Where on earth are our[b] fathers[/b] to teach us that we are princesses and that we deserve the best? o su mi o!

This is exactly what most mothers and fathers even the society teach women.No self-esteem.

@ Op,UUUUUU aaaaarrrrreeeeee oooooooonnnnnnnnn uuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrr ooooooooowwwwwwwnnnnnnnnn i mean, u are on ur own..she will be the worst fool,if she comes back to ur kind so u sef want advice wetin i no go read here?instead,tell her to come to Nl,and ask us 4 advice on hw to kick ur assss

kindabigg: Basically, I need urgent help...

I've been with this chic on and off for two years, and I've been so bad to her.. I treated like shyte when we first started going out, though, I liked her a lot.. I guess it was because I had so many options back then, but it seems everything I did to her made her act a certain way me.. She used to be madly in love with me, and she gave up everything for me.. She almost committed suicide twice because I hurt her feelings, and she was sectioned at least once because of me..

it's just now that she's almost done with me, that I realized she's the best thing that's ever happened to me.. She's the only one that has ever loved me and showed it.. I won't lie, I also love this girl now - but it seems a little bit too late...

We had a big fight yesterday, and it seems she's gone forever now.. I need help on how to get her back.. She's the only girl I have ever loved... I admit I have been stupid in the past, and sometimes of late - but I don't want to lose her... She has been the rock behind for close to three years, and losing her would be suicidal...

Please, help me NLers.

Even God is a God of second chance so don't lose hope that all is lost.

What was the big fight about?
Why is she the rock behind you?

just BEG. If you have to go on your knees then do so if truly you believe she means so much to you.