A childhood friend of mine got married some years back and God had blessed the marriage with a set of twins, 2 lovely boys. Before the marriage, things were not too Rossy. It was "off and on" and after the wedding, it was not different either. My friend believed that his misfortune was due to some family problems may be witches in the family. I didnt know why he came to this conclusion. I guess he might have gone for some spiritual consultation, that I dont know.

Like I said earlier that things didnt get better after marriage but worse off. Another friend of ours lately told me that the friend in question will not make headway in life unless he leaves his wife. They are somehow closer than me and I guess they have also gone for some consultations. I asked him why and he said the witches in his family deliberately allow them to marry each other so that they can use her (the wife) as a medium to exert more havoc on the guy. From this analogy, I wanted to believe that the wife is also part of the evil society.

Last nite, I got a call from my friend and he said he wanted to come and leave with me for some time. I asked why he wanted to leave his wife and 2 kids, he said I wont understand until he explains to me. I pleaded with him, but he insisted.

As for me, I wont subscribe to that act of abandoning his family. I believe there are many ways things could be sorted out. My dilemma is that he should have opted to stay with the other friends of ours since they were closer to each other. Two of them are not graduate due to financial constraint. Also, the other friend lives in a room apartment, though single (face to face) However, I'm a graduate by His grace and I live in a 3 bedroom apartment. Am also single.

If you are in my shoes, what will you do? Will you allow him to leave his family and live with you?

Please, this is a true life story, I need sincere opinion.

Note: I will see him on Saturday (Tomorrow) and I must know what to tell him. Presently, am confused

If i was in your shoes, i will only agree to help in these circumstances:
They have both agreed to spend time away from each other

He has a detailed short term plan on how to get himself out of the financial/emotional mess

Everyone is in the know that me accepting to help temporarily is not because I'm encouraging him but because they have tried all attempts to solve whatever issues that they may have and it hasn't worked.

jay bee: If i was in your shoes, i will only agree to help in these circumstances:
They have both agreed to spend time away from each other

He has a detailed short term plan on how to get himself out of the financial/emotional mess

Everyone is in the know that me accepting to help temporarily is not because I'm encouraging him but because they have tried all attempts to solve whatever issues that they may have and it hasn't worked.

Thanks for your candid opinion. If I allow him to come to my house, dont you think his wife will not take it easy with me and if truly his wife belongs to secret group, dont you think I might be prone to attack? Honestly, am scared.

sir t:

Thanks for your candid opinion. If I allow him to come to my house, dont you think his wife will not take it easy with me and if truly his wife belongs to secret group, dont you think I might be prone to attack? Honestly, am scared.

Why would she want to harm you if she agrees to spend time away from her husband?

jay bee:
Why would she want to harm you if she agrees to spend time away from her husband?

He wanted to abscond from home without telling his wife ... do u get it now?

i fink u shd alow him stay 4 d wkend so guys can rily talk. Running 4rm hs troubles is nt d solution 2 it. If he is a christian den ask him 2 tel it 2 GOD IN prayers. Or tel hs pastor abt it.

Ignorance is not bliss abeg.

Whoever made that statement should be shot

i really don``t think u should let him in.
He is married and should not abandon his family
due to some silly insinuations
Tell him to open up to you when he arrives
and advice him later to go back to his wife
and kids

@OP
This story doesn't have a straight forward answer, it has all to do with your r/ship with that friend and his wife........
A) if they are simply acquaintances then I suggest you stay clear of either one of them and their trouble.
B) if you are close to both of them, then I suggest you sit them down together and try to mediate a certain understanding between the two.
C) if the guy is your tight friend, then your house is his house anyway, so no matter what happened between him and his wife, he will always be welcomed in your home (so long as he hasn't done anything criminal/illegal). You should advise him to do what's right, which is to face his wife and let her know exactly why he is leaving. Remind him that if he doesn't sort it out with her, then when she knows that he stays with you, she will bring her drama to your humble abode, and that is not something you want to happen.

If i dey ur fackin fickin fuckin situation,i go fight those fuckin fickin fackin evil spirits. .4 real!
i get too much fackin fickin fuckin strenght 4 wahala. . . . .

Sisi_Kill: Ignorance is not bliss abeg.

Whoever made that statement should be shot

Harsh! However, I see your point.

OP, your friend is lazy and ignorant. If he were to be successful, would he give praise to "witches"? Now that he isn't successful, he wants to blame other people that. If he abandons his wife, she might suffer at the beginning of the separation but if she is a diligent, hardworking and smart woman, she will make a success of her life without him with the grace of God. I doubt if your friend will ever succeed with this mindset. #Rubbish

Tell him to go to his wife, she is not his problem- he is. Problems can last for years but with hardwork, perseverance and prayers you can have the last laugh in the end. It is not everybody that will make money quickly and easily and know you and him not that the rich also cry? Forget crying, they also weep!

maclatunji:

Harsh! However, I see your point.

OP, your friend is lazy and ignorant. If he were to be successful, would he give praise to "witches"? Now that he isn't successful, he wants to blame other people that. If he abandons his wife, she might suffer at the beginning of the separation but if she is a diligent, hardworking and smart woman, she will make a success of her life without him with the grace of God. I doubt if your friend will ever succeed with this mindset. #Rubbish

Tell him to go to his wife, she is not his problem- he is. Problems can last for years but with hardwork, perseverance and prayers you can have the last laugh in the end. It is not everybody that will make money quickly and easily and know you and him not that the rich also cry? Forget crying, they also weep!

I couldn't have said it better however, some people are damn lazy and when you hear their plight you just have to shake your head for them because you can spell and see the laziness on them. So many have turned their challenges to spiritual consultant for help and that is the cause of the OP's friend's challenge.

@OP,
I would suggest you do not welcome him instead, if he needs a weekend to think and plan his life, you may choose to pay for his hotel for the weekend because once you indulge him to stay in your house, then you should expect him to make your house his annex and I am not sure you are ready to accept that.

Thanks everybody for ur responses. More expected.

Spiritual consultants are the problems of Nig

They wage wars between families

They sow fear into people's lives

They encourage laziness and ignorance

They kill inspiration, intuition and instinct and cut off man's supply of wisdom from his Creator.

As for the matter at hand.....anyone can harbour your friend ....I have no doubt that he is his wife's problem as soon as he leaves ...she and her kids can find breakthrough.