see lets forget about citizenship or whatever , lets talk about people who are citizens of a country, I dont think Visa and citizenship should be part of this. WE are talking about interracial relationships for people who dont have problem with visa or whatever.

@nddy

In that case we're probably talking about a minority of the relationships, as most come from partners in unequal positions and these are at very least partially to obtain a valid residence permit.

@everybody
Anyway, when we're talking about real genuine relationships, I think my first reply still stands: the problems that arise are mainly cultural ones, not racial. It takes the willingness of both partners to make it work and they cannot let the family call the shots.

A problem I have encountered a few times is that even though someone is living in Europe, he/she still thinks primarily about building his/her life in Nigeria and invests /send all they have spare to Nigeria. Even though they're living in miserable conditions in Europe... everything to save face and let the family know all is well (even though in many cases these people are living worse lives than they were having in Nigeria)

you guys should not talk about Visa issue, coz someone would do whatever to get out from wherever. Talk about people who dont have biased reasons for going into such realationships not visa

When I said "smart Nigerians", I was only being Satirical

Ohh i get what nddy means. Anyways the point is, Most nigerians that date white girls are looking for green card. believe it or not, it's true.

Talking about just dating without looking for green card (for fxck sake, it's green card not visa).

I absolutely see nothing wrong with dating white/mexican/chinese/puetorican/and my sexy accented british dudes.
white boys are soo nice (when you get to know them), they'll do almost about anything to make you happy (talking from experience). mexican guys (i have some as freinds) always call you mami... and that's just sweet.. the way they talk and everything. When talking of puetorico guys, i go like arghhhh.. those guys are too nasty! Shout nasty!!!!!! I must say, white dudes are more caring than black dudes, but nothing can seperate a sistah from a brotha. the connection is still gon be thurr, and that's why i love me my black boys. 

I like any kind of woman as long as she suits my taste, the only problem with interracial marriages would be for both of them to comprehend each other;s background, racial belief and so on. it more difficult if they are from diffrent countries.

hot-angel:

.......but nothing can seperate a sistah from a brotha. the connection is still gon be thurr, and that's why i love me my black boys.  

Tell it on the rooftop HotA.

Color is only Skin deep. Its the person that matters. We've got blacks that are "whiter"whites.
If u truely love urselves..thats great. Go ahead.

it can be natural but at the same time it can also have to do with your environment or upbringing.(at least that's what i've observed)
if your parents are too strict about you going out with only black girls, you might tend to like only white girls. my other friend (black) went to an all white catholic school all her life and she likes only white guys (probably she's used to them or understands them better or she's thinks blacks guys are criminals or gangstas or whatever.
there's this other guy that likes only spanish girls because her mother is spanish.

and there's a man i know that did it to get a visa.

we are not talking about Visa forget that , this Visa is annoying

It makes sense that you like the kind of people you encountered when you grew up. It is natural that you are attracted to the kind of people that were around you during your socialisation period.
So the point by WesleayanA is very valid

As far as the influence of the family is concerned, I think that in most cases, any kind of pressure coming from them to conform to the wishes of marrying within their race/tribe/culture will only backfire. Relationships are very personal and imposing norms in this area is negative behaviour. If you instill your children with truly positive values, they will make positive choices, without having to impose anything.

Be proud of yourself, your heritage, your background without demonising the others and your children will make positive lifechoices, whether they are the same as yours or not. If you are too closely guarding your own identity from outside influences, it can very well result in self hatred among your children

Nddy.no offense but why are you so touchy about the visa/ green card thing. u dint do that did you? lol

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uchetobi:
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Nddy.no offense but why are you so touchy about the visa/ green card thing. u dint do that did you?

I was born in the United States, in Maryland and i have  lived in the US all my life. The reason i feel touchy or whatever about  is coz Nigerians are too desperate and would do whatever to get them out of the situations.

Under some circumstances getting a residence permit is a valid reason for marrying. People marry for all sorts of reasons and love is not always the first reason.

What I find distastefull is that obtaining a residence permit is the only reason to marry and that it is not made clear to the partner that that is the case. Conning someone into a marriage is dishonorable, because we're talking about a life long commitment and you may very well cause serious emotional harm to your marriage partner in the aftermath.

To put my own case in the picture: I know for sure that obtaining a residence permit was one of the reasons my wife chose to marry me, not that it was the most important one, but it certainly played in her head. We probaly would have waited a year longer to marry if it weren't for that element.

Now, we've always been frank to each other on the subject and I do not blame anyone to marry for that reasons, as long as there is honesty from both partners

What do you think about interracial relationships? Do you believe its a disease? Do you support it or frown at it?

I don't believe its a disease, however I do not support interracial relationships.

@Ginger
What exactly do you mean with not supporting it? Does it make you feel uneasy? Do you feel it's wrong? And if so, for what reason?

my parents aren't exactly excited about it and i can't say they hate it.

i'll date any white woman if she's got a black woman's ass.

Ginger:

What do you think about interracial relationships? Do you believe its a disease? Do you support it or frown at it?

I don't believe its a disease, however I do not support interracial relationships.

racist!

nddy:

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I was born in the United States, in Maryland and i have lived in the US all my life. The reason i feel touchy or whatever about is coz Nigerians are too desperate and would do whatever to get them out of the situations.

if you were a 100% nigerian, you would be desperate. who no like better thing?

i was in a company of friends and we were discussing this issue, one of my friends said that black guys who can't get black girls have weak games, i kind of reason with him but not fully. Black girls to me are to choosy and all those sh(I)t.

nddy:

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I was born in the United States, in Maryland and i have lived in the US all my life. The reason i feel touchy or whatever about is coz Nigerians are too desperate and would do whatever to get them out of the situations.

oh i see

people should be able to share their miserable lives with whomever they hate/love. whether black or white.

One of the dangers of Interracial relationships are those who claim they have nothing against it, but don't support it either. From the blacks side, its the ladies who cry fould most. If you all follow the trends so far, in general, its the ladies that have something against it most, maybe because the feel they are losing their black studs or maybe its an admission that there something about white babes that black babes feel restless about.

@nferyn; It would be nice to know how white babes are reacting to white guys with black babes.

Bibi:

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@nferyn; It would be nice to know how white babes are reacting to white guys with black babes.

I don't see any particular hostility, but then again, it's not like they're fighting over a scarce resource. If there is hostility - and there is - then it's more driven by backward racist attitudes than a sense of competition. It wouldn't be that they particularly target black men because they're men.

On the other hand, my social environment is probably not representative. I have a very open minded family, I work at the EMEA headquarters of a large multi-national company and my circle of friends consists mainly out of people that were socially and politically active at university. Hardly a cross section of society

I'm sure I've even posted here before....
I think it is fine. i don't see any problem with it. I do not think that the colour of someones skin determines who they can and cannot love. Yet at the same time an instinctive part of me cringes when i see it. it is because of my earliest memory of it. The movie 'Jungle Fever' really shaped my ideas a bit. i always thought black women were just against it. even though in the movie a black woman falls for a white dude - her character wasn't really explored well (i think) in the movie, so it made it difficult to relate to her. i related to the angry black woman who goes nuts when she finds out about Wesley snipes activities with the white girl. so i does freak me out a little at first (for like 1.5 secs) when i see black women with white men.
Black men and white women doesn't really affect me as much (on an irrational level) but then that's because of the double standards i guess.

Who ever cares about different races when it comes to dating or even more got a problem. Just listen to your heart and you will soon figure out that love got nothing to do with the colour of skins........red, white, black or yellow....so ?

black, white, yellow or green(shrek)...........how huge is the family influence on inter-racial marriagecan u allow ur family to decide ur love for you??/



with me, helllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll no. wat about u?

errr.......NOPE!!!!


I dunno why there are racists, or racial stuff, I think it's just stupid, everyone cannot be the same colour, it's just weird, people have to LOOK different!

Well speaking on this topic, I would rather say that most guys I know dating foreigners do that in a bid to have dual citizenship or gain visas to countries that would provide opportunity for them to strieve in.

Honestly who really care who one dates, so far they have an understanding of each other and appreciate one another.

The only problem is that i would love to see more naija guys who are dating naija females treat them right and love them just as they do they foreigners who squash money on them.

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most interracial marriages especially white/black has never lasted i dont know of one that has ever lasted.
africans obviously marry for citizenship then seperate even other than that they just never lst, immediately they have kids they seperate.
if ur african there is so much difficulty in marring an oyibo ur parentz obviously need a woman that can cook and know the culture and other thingz like that.
for me i can date a white man rarely not cuz of racial stuff but just differences but i dont think i can marry one because of the differences in cultures and other thing.

panthress:

most interracial marriages especially white/black has never lasted i don't know of one that has ever lasted.

yeah some mixed marriage do not last because they are started for the wrong reasons-for a visa etcetera but not all

have a look at my picture Panthress, i am the proud product of a marriage between black Nigerian mother and a white Irish/Scottish father - please do not generalize- my parents have been very happily married for almost 40 years

i know a mixed race marriage is harder but i think that is mostly down to outside influences my parent were lucky they meet at university and my mothers parents were so happy she was marrying a doctor they could not have cared less if he was a green alien. my fathers family were hippie type people and did not care, but i know this is rare especially 40yrs ago

I've seen a quite a number of nigerians with their foreign wives here in naija and they sure seem to be happy together, the most important thing i believe is love and understanding between the couples and it would surely work out

@ Weev: your mum is a nigerian? I could have sworn that pix is of a white woman

Love sees no colour!
Outside influences intrude on relationships all the time, regardless of whether both couples are black, or whether both are white, or whether one is black & one is white. People will always find an excuse to gossip & interfere, but we all have the ability to stop their input from directly effecting us & our relationships.
I can't comment on the green card/visa issue as that doesn't seem to happen here-- not that I have seen anyway.
I personally think interracial relationships are beautiful on so many levels. And I don't think it's got anything to do with white chicks being better than black chicks, the colour of our skin does not determine who we are. I have many black female friends, and they are just so loving and sweet, so lay off 'em!

I think we can all agree that love is blind. People are all built with the same "ingredients" it's just that some were blessed with darker skin than others.

But, in Nigeria would you say there is a negative connotation associated with interracial relationships? What do you think the general population thinks when they see a Nigerian with a spouse of a different race?