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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by bluefilm: 11:30pm On Sep 24, 2019
So dump her first.

Nicollo Machiavelli's strategy, to be precise.
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by midnighter(f): 11:34pm On Sep 24, 2019
Omoboy:
Bro this is a woman talking they understand each other better than men.Sister i support your motion jare

wink

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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by healthserve(m): 11:34pm On Sep 24, 2019
kingjrofficial:
[s][/s]
Lies lies lies

Awon babalowo lipsrsealed embarassed
Save this crap 4ya unborn children shocked


Do I need you to validate my dealings? Keep your small mindedness out of my mentions
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by healthserve(m): 11:34pm On Sep 24, 2019
richie240:

If what u wrote is not fiction, then u r d real MVP!
#No_time!


Na. Even walking away hurts. Hurts badly
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Omoboy(m): 11:35pm On Sep 24, 2019
That meeting is not worth it believe me the parents will end up on her side.The op should cancel the meeting a man should be unpredictable in this kind of situation .They will respect you more.Least I forget find a understanding babe for now to occupy your mind .I can see a lot of ladies here have told you to ignore her silent treatment ni o and if Any of the ladies are understanding go invite one for a drink.Any single woman reading this should use this topic as a case study because 90% of the time the woman always lose out.I am talking from experience thank God the last behaved badly then if I married her I for dey wash pata for backyard now.






SmellingAnus:
I will be straightforward with you... You have lost your self worth... You have made your life to revolve around a very selfish manipulator in the name of wife... The best you can do for yourself is to look for ways to make yourself happy without your fvcking wife... Stop these excessive care that is not being appreciated... Stop being a pussy for once and avoid talking to her except you guys are talking about your daughter... Move on or pretend as if you have moved on... She will run back to you when whatever she thinks she has, has failed her... Trust me you will end up in heartbreak if you don't adjust your heart now... Oh least I forget... You are also too insecure but I don't blame you much on that because she had given you reasons to be insecure but come out of it and move on with your fucking life... Let this meeting be the last you will attend... Stop this shit... I am just pissed as if I am the one in your shoes...
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Smithwilliams826: 11:36pm On Sep 24, 2019
kingjrofficial:
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RUBBISH angry
Haaaaaaaha���� so you know its rubbish, y u con dey comment on rubbish? Anyways your reply is also rubbish :-)
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by seanjy4konji: 11:38pm On Sep 24, 2019
U WEH GET sENSE...which bustop has it dropped you in life

To be disrespected by the person you send money to train to school?has kid for you and walk out on you with a man...they will knack your wife on your grave....now crawl back..how old r u self...if u quote me again na sango go kill you.
kingjrofficial:
[s][/s]

God is my witness, single sense u no get angry
Brain fall on you sad

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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by abbey621(m): 11:39pm On Sep 24, 2019
elektra:


If he is unable to be an active participant in the child’s life then he should leave her with her mum. I said what I said because he is clearly not present, yet he is trying to yank the child from her mother and dump her with a relative. He clearly thinks his only responsibility as parent is providing, but you are both wrong in believing that. If he is going to take the kid from her mother, he should be ready to fill her shoes.
By the way, there are many parents (both mums and dads) that provide and parent at the same time, both of which is their responsibility.

Again you ignore situational analysis and focus on black and white rhetoric, didn't you read that they are staying off campus and the mom is in school? do you think this is a conducive environment for a child? I also agree that he is wrong to want to take the child away but believe me, no man wants his child to witness his woman bringing another guy/guys around! Moving on, we are all not privileged to earn the same amount of money or have good jobs. As a parent, you try to balance both but according to Maslow's hierachy, certain needs outweighs others. If a father or mother pays for his or her child's shelter, food and other basic needs but falls short of being available "every" weekend due to job obligations or side hustle, WOE unto anyone that faults him or her, survival comes first! Now this is 9ja we are talking about, if the guy is genuinely concerned about the safety of his child and can provide evidence to back it up, he would win easily in court and there's nothing anyone can do about it but for the sake of the child, they should both work it out amicably without psychological warfare....May God help them!

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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Smithwilliams826: 11:39pm On Sep 24, 2019
kingjrofficial:
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RUBBISH angry
Make I use u small.
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by lloyds(m): 11:41pm On Sep 24, 2019
MYDEBBY:


Didn't you read my facts why will she be intensely bored when I have paid her dowry as my wife.I have sat her one on one even at midnight to let her adjust her ways since the traditional rites this year and waiting for the white.I did said that I noticed her with bad influence including male and female.so why do you think she is not cheating on me,must I leave my work and be with her in school 24hrs before I will know she is not cheating on me? I think that all that happened is the handiwork of God.

Bro, even if you are Dbang, if you marry a lady in school and on campus, there is 99.9% that she is cheating on you. I have been there. .

So that's it. Work on that.

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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Smithwilliams826: 11:43pm On Sep 24, 2019
kingjrofficial:
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God is my witness, single sense u no get angry
Brain fall on you sad
Like say u get one for head. Just carry yourself dey read comment. Dey fine comment wey you go dey reply. U way u no fit post your own suggestions. RUBBISHHH!!!!!!
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by kingjrofficial(m): 11:43pm On Sep 24, 2019
seanjy4konji:
U WEH GET sENSE...which bustop has it dropped you in life

To be disrespected by the person you send money to train to school?has kid for you and walk out on you with a man...they will knack your wife on your grave....now crawl back..how old r u self...if u quote me again na sango go kill you.
this is social media, errbody can say rubbish in search for sympathy... Till we hear from both, parents inclusive.. Otherwise we ain't taking this fictitious story angry
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Jombom: 11:45pm On Sep 24, 2019
It is baffling when I read comment on NL. At times I think lunatics are being released to come make foolish comments. So now because anyone decide to marry a young girl mean the girl is at liberty to be frolicking on campus with random Male friends ?

In a marriage if you can not be reported to your parent should your husband take your report to God or what kind of foolishness am I reading this night on NL ?!

So I should be married to a fool that will leaving me guessing what her relationship is btw any opposite sex ? Is that how your mother left your father guessing ?

What is wrong in having trust issue in relationships, is it not the responsibility of both lovers to allay such fear in relationships or you think relationship is any lunatic fucqing you without being concerned about your well being or uprightness ?!

Abeg use your brain n not skull when replying.



baby124:
Hmmm.... how old is she? I would be highly irritated too if someone was policing my life, reporting every move to my parents and generally more obnoxious than usual just after the traditional marriage.

Don’t forget, you are both married traditionally now. It’s you who decided to go for someone who was young for relationship and marriage, I am sure you must have also thought to figure out how to deal with any surprising behavior. You also need to be careful about this jealousy you hold in your heart. What if that guy is a school friend? Yes, she obviously confides in him because you have shown that you have an unstable character. It may just be a simple friendship. Because she went outside to talk to him, you have concluded that they are sleeping together. If she talked to him in your presence, you would have also taken offense.

Well I think you need to give this relationship time before concluding the court wedding. I think you need to step back and reassess your reason for marrying a lady who you cannot trust or refuse to trust. Try to examine why you have trust issues and control issues. You also need to grow up and stop reporting all over the place. Just as she’s trying to forgive you and reconcile, you go on a reporting spree. Whew!

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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by kingjrofficial(m): 11:45pm On Sep 24, 2019
Smithwilliams826:
Like say u get one for head. Just carry yourself dey read comment. Dey fine comment wey you go dey reply. U way u no fit post your own suggestions. RUBBISHHH!!!!!!
sense fall on you tongue
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Smithwilliams826: 11:45pm On Sep 24, 2019
kingjrofficial:
[s][/s]
Lies lies lies

Awon babalowo lipsrsealed embarassed
Save this crap 4ya unborn children shocked
Oga, y u no tell us say whona dey related. Or you dey there? Let's just say you aren't there,... I still dey think am, how you take know say hin dey lie?
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by richie240: 11:48pm On Sep 24, 2019
healthserve:



Na. Even walking away hurts. Hurts badly
Walking away, though may not be easy, shows dt one is in full control of d situation, aka "being d man". Like what someone said, "to beg /take poo from a woman to be my responsibility is d height of stupidity"

I also appreciate ur wisdom in not laying out all ur cards on d table. Had she known u are well to do, walahi, she would have gotten u.
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Jombom: 11:49pm On Sep 24, 2019
He should take his chances, you ain't God neither is he.
ornicus:


And what makes you think the same mistakes will not be made again?

If the op is bent on freshly pressed the whole cycle may repeat.
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Smithwilliams826: 11:52pm On Sep 24, 2019
kingjrofficial:
sense fall on you tongue
Chaooo.. Come here, let me check if you have one.
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by kingjrofficial(m): 11:55pm On Sep 24, 2019
Smithwilliams826:
Chaooo.. Come here, let me check if you have one.

I can still order for ur entire family join grin
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by faithfull18(f): 11:56pm On Sep 24, 2019
seanjy4konji:
The way women are misbehaving now a days due to sleeping around and joining bag gang...one finger cant fit their anus again...

Men...shadow well oo...watch properly and stand fit...the only mistake you can do after all this suffering we are going through again is marry a wrong Nigerian lady ooo...Darwin's law of evolution just came through on your head.the stupid will go while the wise still stay gallant.

I will go back and read the post but i know sayBenz and hotel flexing don join and expensive gift die to wakawaka from external forces...she wants to ride the high horse...horse that will stilll fall her down yakata...

Shine your eyes ooo...beer parlor is always open...hustle no get bus top..your true wife might be in Australia now with millions of dollars looking for you instead of give your self high blood pressure because of some with iq lower than that of Cynthia who came from village with yellow skin to Ikoyi as maid,manage to join bag gang and now banging bosses and forget her root.

Majority of those lagos and abuja girls are from village,,started from one room ashewo room,they join church and start blending with better people.well brought up people..

you can take them away from village..you cant take village away from them...

Be guided.

PS.A Yoruba adage says...won kin so eran meran ki ikan kan kan paa..Dem no deh tie 2 ram together make one headbutt wan die...collect your pikin and divorce anything that would make you die untimely...se fini.

And always remember that forgiveness is a sin after you start buying condos in Abu Dhabi UAE and Pent house in Manhattan NY...Some people are not meant to grow with you in life.you just have to dump them in the gutter where they truly belong..HUSTLE HARD..
What's this one saying bayi
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by silento(m): 12:00am On Sep 25, 2019
healthserve:




The sad tale is I was setting up a company as a proposal gift to her. Which was worth millions . These days the sisters and mum see me in church, shame covers them from top to toe.


Love is a very very tricky feeling. The ones you live don't appreciate, the ones you don't love chase you. It sucks.


You are stronger than u think I might not be up to your age , allow her to go and enjoy life focus only on your child for now she will come back but make sure before she come back find replacement
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Smithwilliams826: 12:00am On Sep 25, 2019
kingjrofficial:

I can still order for ur entire family join grin
haha. No P. We re in this together. Lol. Always ready.
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Yeecar(m): 12:01am On Sep 25, 2019
healthserve:




The sad tale is I was setting up a company as a proposal gift to her. Which was worth millions . These days the sisters and mum see me in church, shame covers them from top to toe.


Love is a very very tricky feeling. The ones you live don't appreciate, the ones you don't love chase you. It sucks.
Is she aware of her loss, if yes how did you let her know.
And how did you find out the details of her cheating life..
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by iammolise(m): 12:04am On Sep 25, 2019
MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalanders, I greet you all.

Pls I need candid advice, I have dated my wife for over six years without an issue and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.

She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school.

Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.

The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested.

She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it, only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees. I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.

While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her PARENTS, promising not to do so again, a guy knocked the door and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend, I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.

When we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.

After a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.

I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.

Pls no insult just help out.

Thanks

First of all; why did u go an start reporting her dressing to her parents, u started becoming an amebo husband and women don't really like men snitching on them.
Secondly; u sent money she did not acknowledge it, the next thing she uses ur daughter as excuse to ask u for money and u sent again and didn't caution her for her ingratitude for last time... Bror at that point she has seen u finish.
Lastly; Any woman... I repeat, any woman or girl that tells u herself in straight words and not attitude that she wants out of the relationship... My broda she has another already.

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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by kingjrofficial(m): 12:06am On Sep 25, 2019
Smithwilliams826:
haha. No P. We re in this together. Lol. Always ready.
Good morning cool
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Yeecar(m): 12:07am On Sep 25, 2019
Jombom:
It is baffling when I read comment on NL. At times I think lunatics are being released to come make foolish comments. So now because anyone decide to marry a young girl mean the girl is at liberty to be frolicking on campus with random Male friends ?

In a marriage if you can not be reported to your parent should your husband take your report to God or what kind of foolishness am I reading this night on NL ?!

So I should be married to a fool that will leaving me guessing what her relationship is btw any opposite sex ? Is that how your mother left your father guessing ?

What is wrong in having trust issue in relationships, is it not the responsibility of both lovers to allay such fear in relationships or you think relationship is any lunatic fucqing you without being concerned about your well being or uprightness ?!

Abeg use your brain n not skull when replying.



The forum is filled with underaged BABIES.

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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by malele(m): 12:09am On Sep 25, 2019
MYDEBBY:
Dear Nairalanders, I greet you all.

Pls I need candid advice, I have dated my wife for over six years without an issue and now that we have done traditional rites and about to climax with white wedding she is giving flimsy excuses that she is no longer interested in me.

She is currently in final year and has drastically changed in her dressing and attitude towards due to influence of friends in school.

Often I do report incidences of her recent poor dressing to her parents after cautioning her she will channel the grievances to me.

The recent one made her so angry that she started recanting all my past mistakes which she and her family are aware of and have resolved since now using it as an excuse against me that she is no longer interested.

She kept mute for over two weeks due to anger yet I still transferred money twice to her but up till now she did not acknowledged it, only for her to send text that she need money for our daughters school fees. I then decide to visit them off campus where they stay yesterday with lots of provision yet she could not say a common thank you.

While I was still making peace with her asking her to forgive me for whatever wrong I have done to her by reporting her to her PARENTS, promising not to do so again, a guy knocked the door and she went out after the guy I asked a relation who was there who was the guy and he said he is my wife's friend, I quickly followed them on citing me the guy diverted after their discussion about me.

When we then entered the house I asked her who was the guy and she said that's not my business. I kept quiet.

After a while I called her parents to tell them the situation of things that their daughter said she is no longer interested they now asked us to come down to the village to see them this coming weekend.

I know things are not alright somewhere and as such I need straight forward advice on what to do.

Pls no insult just help out.

Thanks

DAWG, WITHOUT WASTING TIME, LOOK FOR ANOTHER GIRL.
THAT GIRL WILL LEAVE YOU SOMEDAY AND FOLLOW ANOTHER MAN.
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by iammolise(m): 12:10am On Sep 25, 2019
olabrinks:
She is not interested in the marriage, and if you marry her by force you will be entering a life time of misery and a constant battle to prove yourself to her. Better get out now before it’s too late. It’s that simple.

I don’t know why men are always fighting for women that don’t want them. They’re millions of single available women go and look for them and leave this small girl alone.

U've spoken like d gods... It shall be well with u

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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by SamNaijaboy: 12:13am On Sep 25, 2019
surprised In 2019 men are still working themselves up about marriage. An institution that simply helps only the woman mainly.
And the woman will now be acting up on top of that. Send any such wife packing sharperly and find another.
One thing though... make sure you do HIV test before sleeping with anybody raw.
My guys don sorji now. Before dey start to Dey Yansh, We want to even know your HIV and STD status.
If you don’t want to take the test, carry your Kpekus and go


Finchmgh:
You guys will never learn your lesson about women until you all lose your heads. Leave ladies and marriage alone and be happy with yourself. To hell with ladies and marriage.

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Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by Judybash93(m): 12:13am On Sep 25, 2019
Marriage..... Marriage.... Marriage....lol...
Abeg, let the girl go... If she wants to be part of you, you'll know, there's no need for you to stress yourself over someone that obviously doesn't love you
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by malele(m): 12:14am On Sep 25, 2019
healthserve:




Which brings us to the point that if a lady can be influenced by external party, she's immature for marriage.


A guy did that to my princess this year and she assumed all she learnt was correct. Finally the guy starts having sex with her as intimacy grew out of their negative alliance. She has recently learnt that I wasn't broke but living coded while the guy influencing her was eating her money and sexing for free. She was influenced from the outside, like eve, like my princess.

I move on jejely without creating thread. Mi o ra ye oshi grin

MY TYPE OF GUY. BUT IN MY OWN CASE I GO TAKE CARE OF THE GUY BEFORE LEAVING JEJE
Re: My Wife Is Using Excuses To Abandon Me by MYDEBBY(m): 12:15am On Sep 25, 2019
bigpicture001:
Dont marry kids....i repeat, guyz quit marrying kids

She is 25, yes old.

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