Mrs..Chima:
I was more concern with HIV, STD, and Mental status.

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I think the history is a big factor, cos you are a product of your environment.
The girl is more likely to do the same things her mom did because majority of ladies build their characters from their moms and the guys the same
There would be exceptions and those are in the minority

Research has shown that people from divorced homes are more likely to have a divorce sometime in their life ( don't ask me for quotes, Google is your friend)

Our fore-bearers were not stupid but so wise to investigate the family a girl or man comes from before agreeing to a marriage proposal. When i was younger, i used to hear them saying things like you can't marry that person because she is not from a good home, now i understand.

Family gesture is the least important thing to me

Ask people who are married and they will tell you family history matters a lot. The first marriage we see Is our parents' and if it ends in a very bitter divorce then be very careful of such people. If it happens with the grandparents then even worse.

Such people may not know how a family truly function and the need for a loving spouse. Such people may be filled with hate and anger due to various horrible things one parent may have said about the other. Such people carry all these baggage into marriage and it doesn't help!

These things matter!

So you mean if your parents were failures, you are likely to become a failure?

Currently in a committed relationship with a man whose dad left them @ a tender age and his sweet ma had to cater for them, all 4 of them kids.
I must confess he grew up a responsible man cos for the many years we've been together 'v had no reason to doubt that.
Yeah, u can say that again, mine is exceptional but my point is, people have lost good partners because they didn't take into cognizant their individuality. Even in relationships, we see it happen, people generalizing here and there.
Exceptions also exist when children from good homes grow up acting otherwise, will you go ahead and settle down with them because he/she is from a good home?
@topic, inasmuch that family history does matter in choosing our spouses we should't throw away their individuality.
As a matter of fact, it should come first before the former!

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@ topic, While I understand what you are saying, I think its very unfair for a person to be defined by the past.

cowgurl: Currently in a committed relationship with a man whose dad left them @ a tender age and his sweet ma had to cater for them, all 4 of them kids.
I must confess he grew up a responsible man cos for the many years we've been together 'v had no reason to doubt that.
Yeah, u can say that again, mine is exceptional but my point is, people have lost good partners because they didn't take into cognizant their individuality. Even in relationships, we see it happen, people generalizing here and there.
Exceptions also exist when children from good homes grow up acting otherwise, will you go ahead and settle down with them because he/she is from a good home?
@topic, inasmuch that family history does matter in choosing our spouses we should't throw away their individuality.
As a matter of fact, it should come first before the former!

Totally agree..

In the bid to stay married, countless spouses live unhappy lives and are like tenants in their homes......
Will you be counting these families too as part of your "untouchables" !!!!!


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Cowgirl has rubbished this silly notion

Mynd_44: So you mean if your parents were failures, you are likely to become a failure?

Rollin on d grass laffin my albino coloured ass off#

190-the-clown:


Rollin on d grass laffin my albino coloured ass off#

Get the eff up and stop being a baby

Nashville: Ask people who are married and they will tell you family history matters a lot. The first marriage we see Is our parents' and if it ends in a very bitter divorce then be very careful of such people. If it happens with the grandparents then even worse.

Such people may not know how a family truly function and the need for a loving spouse. Such people may be filled with hate and anger due to various horrible things one parent may have said about the other. Such people carry all these baggage into marriage and it doesn't help!

These things matter!

On point,sister

cowgurl: Currently in a committed relationship with a man whose dad left them @ a tender age and his sweet ma had to cater for them, all 4 of them kids.
I must confess he grew up a responsible man cos for the many years we've been together 'v had no reason to doubt that.
Yeah, u can say that again, mine is exceptional but my point is, people have lost good partners because they didn't take into cognizant their individuality. Even in relationships, we see it happen, people generalizing here and there.
Exceptions also exist when children from good homes grow up acting otherwise, will you go ahead and settle down with them because he/she is from a good home?
@topic, inasmuch that family history does matter in choosing our spouses we should't throw away their individuality.
As a matter of fact, it should come first before the former!

It should dear, I A̶̲̥̅♏ not disputing dat... But, ur case is an exception...my 2 kobo