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Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by crackhouse(m): 10:32am On Oct 05, 2012
See this woman o, are u trying to tell me that u have not been phucking for 4yrs now?. Hmm, baby u are missing a lot o, u need a man in ur life seriously. I even saw a volunteer here on nairaland, why not give him a call now. And i am sure ur this thing don dey rust small small. You really need a lubricant.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Nobody: 10:45am On Oct 05, 2012
[quote author=kemtol]tnx all. i appreciate alll d responses i av recieved so far. as per my in laws they are okay wit me. they remuslims and they told me im free at d fifth month but d issue is cos of my son.i sensed he needs a father figure.he seems unhappy and withdrawn whenhe sees his friends with their dad. he once said this 'i wish jesus could make my dad come back' and since then it had got me worried. financially God has been faithful he wasnt lacking anything materialwise. tnx all once again


I just wanted to read but seeing what your son said,you can go ahead, I pray God to give u someone that will be like a father to him. I wish all the best.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by ozodimgba(m): 10:56am On Oct 05, 2012
berem: WTF did you just write?

berem but it is the truth the world did not start today. I am talking out of experience. The truth alwayz souds bitter but i like it that way. I mean no harm.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by akpanbaba: 11:04am On Oct 05, 2012
Sis,you can stop mourning him the day that guy that visits you in odd hours gives you his commitment.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Nobody: 11:08am On Oct 05, 2012
I HAVE TO SCREAM AT YOU SO THAT YOU CAN BE FREE FROM BONDAGE OF HUMAN OPINION. YOU ARE FREE TO DATE WHOEVER YOU ARE SURE IS GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU AND YOUR SON YOU HAVE MOURNED HIM ENOUGH. YOUR HUSBAND IS GONE. SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS, SINCE YOU ARE ALIVE AND WELL YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO EXPRESS YOURSELF IN ANY WAY YOU DEEM FIT AS LONG AS IT DOES NOT OFFEND GOD. NATURALLY YOUR SON COMES FIRST AND AM SURE YOU KNOW THAT ALREADY. GOODLUCK AND BE FREE.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by WhyAWhy(m): 1:39pm On Oct 05, 2012
dasparrow:
chucky234: If you truly love him then mourn him forever,till your dying day because that's what true love stands for..
You can move on with your live and attend to your every needs but always have in place in your for him,always.
.
Recently a dog was discovered to have spent the last six years sitting beside its dead master's grave watching over him,that's a good example of how a loved one should be mourn.

So, you are comparing a canine/dog to a woman who after a while will go into menopause and will not be able to conceive again? It's amazing the way some Nigerians reason and how wicked some of you are. If she were a man, will you give her the same advise? When a Nigerian man loses his wife, 6 months later and he is already dating again or even married and no one bats an eyelid. However, when it is a Nigerian woman, you people expect her to mourn the late husband forever to prove she loves him.

In that case, I can confidently say that most Nigerian men who have lost their wives to the cold hands of death did not truly love their wives because most Nigerian widowers cannot even mourn their late wives for 6 months much less for the rest of their lives. You heard Kemtol say she is a young woman (probably in her 20s). So all because she unknowingly married a man with a short life span, she should now stay single for the rest of life and not give her little son a chance of having a baby brother or sister in the near future. Is that what you are telling her? The last time I checked, the marital vows said "till death do us part" which means once a spouse has passed away and the wife has mourned him for a minimum of one year, she is free to move on with her life.

I don't know why Nigerian men punish their wives even from the grave. It is such a huge disadvantage marrying a Nigerian bred male because most of you abuse your wives emotionally, verbally, physically and psychologically while you are alive. Then you leave nothing behind for the wife and kids in the event of your sudden demise. As if that is not enough, your family members start fighting the wife/widow you left behind as a result of your death who take away everything you and your wife ever worked for. And then to add salt upon injury, you expect the lady/widow to remain single for the rest of her life not considering how young she was when she lost her husband due to no fault of her own.

Nigeria: A failed wicked nation with predominately wicked people who have no conscience and who gladly practice a wicked culture. I spit!

[size=18pt]10/10 - You said it all, some people are outrightly wicked![/size]
The day a spouse dies, you're free to move on!
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Nobody: 2:37pm On Oct 05, 2012
crackhouse: See this woman o, are u trying to tell me that u have not been phucking for 4yrs now?. Hmm, baby u are missing a lot o, u need a man in ur life seriously. I even saw a volunteer here on nairaland, why not give him a call now. And i am sure ur this thing don dey rust small small. You really need a lubricant.
pls can u just shut dat hole u call mouth closed?! Wtf?? If you're trying to be funny here..then i'd say you're very dry. Try again.

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Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by maryswags: 3:00pm On Oct 05, 2012
ozo-dimgba:


U see ur life, call u for wetin? Mind wetin mind u oooo. B4 u ask a widow for a date, ask her wetin kill her husband. Otherwise OYO [on your own] is ur keske. cheesy :

I can't just help but say you are a f.o.o.l
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by crackhouse(m): 3:26pm On Oct 05, 2012
booqee: pls can u just shut dat hole u call mouth closed?! Wtf?? If you're trying to be funny here..then i'd say you're very dry. Try again.
does here look like a joke section to you?.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by tpia5: 5:53pm On Oct 05, 2012
seems after marriage (or any celebration), the next thing people look forward to is the funeral.

o ga.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by tpia5: 5:53pm On Oct 05, 2012
@ topic

not sure what concerns nlers but i guess you know what you're doing.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Nobody: 6:03pm On Oct 05, 2012
crackhouse: does here look like a joke section to you?.
since you realise dis is not d jokes section then quit been funny and stewpid. Say something sensible and ontopic.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by talkingfingers: 9:54pm On Oct 05, 2012
kemtol: as per my in laws they are okay wit me. they remuslims and they told me im free at d fifth month...

Comparing this turn of events with some of the more ridiculous opinions that have been aired here, I can only keep my mouth shut.

Kemtol, you really are a lucky woman given the level of understanding your late husband's in-laws seem to be displaying.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by seyibrown(f): 11:38pm On Oct 05, 2012
@ OP

Only you can answer your question. When we truly love someone, we can never ever stop loving them even when they leave our lives or leave this world. It's up to you to decide whether you can cope without a man in your life as your husband/companion and as a father for your Son; or whether you are ready to give marriage/companionship another go.

I pray that you will find someone who will love you and your son unconditionally, and be a comfort to you. God bless and keep you, whatever you decide!
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by otosa(m): 11:50pm On Oct 05, 2012
kemtol: tnx to everyone dt responded . iam from d west and i av a son

iyaburo, se otiyapari niyẹ? Enitoku nitie gbe.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Nobody: 5:24am On Oct 06, 2012
2 nights after the funeral is enough already. Now go back into the ba*ng b*ang world. Sorry about your loss.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Nobody: 7:31am On Oct 06, 2012
I think the elders in your community can answer dat.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Seggii: 5:11pm On Oct 06, 2012
Pray to God about every step you are going to take. Also, make sure you don't marry a man that only loves you but the one that will love your son as well. You can re-marry at any time. And when you eventually re-marry,don't love children from your new marriage more than your first child as that's always the case. Follow your haert and affiction shall not come the second time in Jesus name. Amen!
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by bisiswag(f): 8:14pm On Oct 06, 2012
crackhouse: See this woman o, are u trying to tell me that u have not been phucking for 4yrs now?. Hmm, baby u are missing a lot o, u need a man in ur life seriously. I even saw a volunteer here on nairaland, why not give him a call now. And i am sure ur this thing don dey rust small small. You really need a lubricant.
wot??r u okay??Imagine the thrash u spewing,have someone read out ur post for you and listen to it. Mscheww,u really a crackhead abi na crackhouse. Pray u never get affliction in life and never you joke about a widows plight again..Am on to you

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Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by ramo109: 12:02pm On Oct 14, 2012
Forty days of intense mourning,at first then a period of one year of mourning then a final prayers should be held in his memory by a pastor.Then you can move on to a serious relationship.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by kemtol(f): 4:31pm On Jul 24, 2014
WOW: its almost two years I last visited this thread.


How time flies.

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Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by bukatyne(f): 11:12pm On Oct 31, 2014
kemtol:
WOW: its almost two years I last visited this thread.


How time flies.

Dear OP,

How did events go?
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by ameenahz(f): 7:09am On Nov 01, 2014
otosa:

iyaburo, se otiyapari niyẹ? Enitoku nitie gbe.


See double standards. Has she not mourned enough? The vulcanizer beside my house lost his wife 3 weeks ago. He resumed work 2 weeks ago and I saw him with my two eyes at the pepper soup joint close by with another lady yesterday. Kini ka pe iyen?
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by ameenahz(f): 7:10am On Nov 01, 2014
kemtol:
WOW: its almost two years I last visited this thread.


How time flies.

How are you madam?
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Bootylicious(f): 9:58am On Nov 01, 2014
I remember 2yrs ago,while I was on vacation in kenya, d cook of the hotel I was lodged lost her husband and just 3 days after she came to work and later left on a date with another man,the next day out of curiosity I asked why she isn't home mourning her husband, she said in kenya,they don't mourn the dead,move on with your life who cares and ended up gisting me how she got laid just 3 days after her husband's death. Two years of mourning I guess is more than fair enough then grin pls move on with your life.

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Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Juzzybabe(f): 12:38pm On Nov 01, 2014
My dear,there is absolutely to rule guiding that o. The choice is yours.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Nobody: 3:58pm On Nov 01, 2014
dasparrow:


So, you are comparing a canine/dog to a woman who after a while will go into menopause and will not be able to conceive again? It's amazing the way some Nigerians reason and how wicked some of you are. If she were a man, will you give her the same advise? When a Nigerian man loses his wife, 6 months later and he is already dating again or even married and no one bats an eyelid. However, when it is a Nigerian woman, you people expect her to mourn the late husband forever to prove she loves him.

In that case, I can confidently say that most Nigerian men who have lost their wives to the cold hands of death did not truly love their wives because most Nigerian widowers cannot even mourn their late wives for 6 months much less for the rest of their lives. You heard Kemtol say she is a young woman (probably in her 20s). So all because she unknowingly married a man with a short life span, she should now stay single for the rest of life and not give her little son a chance of having a baby brother or sister in the near future. Is that what you are telling her? The last time I checked, the marital vows said "till death do us part" which means once a spouse has passed away and the wife has mourned him for a minimum of one year, she is free to move on with her life.

I don't know why Nigerian men punish their wives even from the grave. It is such a huge disadvantage marrying a Nigerian bred male because most of you abuse your wives emotionally, verbally, physically and psychologically while you are alive. Then you leave nothing behind for the wife and kids in the event of your sudden demise. As if that is not enough, your family members start fighting the wife/widow you left behind as a result of your death who take away everything you and your wife ever worked for. And then to add salt upon injury, you expect the lady/widow to remain single for the rest of her life not considering how young she was when she lost her husband due to no fault of her own.

Nigeria: A failed wicked nation with predominately wicked people who have no conscience and who gladly practice a wicked culture. I spit!



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Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by bukatyne(f): 4:33pm On Nov 01, 2014
Chillisauce:





LOL!

I had to like and share his post yesterday
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Nobody: 4:56pm On Nov 01, 2014
Seriously, that post is da bomb!
Its still those imi anwuru men that will piompiom piom to her house at night for a quickie especially d man's relatives.
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Nobody: 7:49pm On Nov 01, 2014
bukatyne:


LOL!

I had to like and share his post yesterday

Very blunt post. cheesy
Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by Agrika: 6:54am On Nov 02, 2014
chucky234:
If you truly love him then mourn him forever,till your dying day because that's what true love stands for..
You can move on with your live and attend to your every needs but always have in place in your for him,always.
.
Recently a dog was discovered to have spent the last six years sitting beside its dead master's grave watching over him,that's a good example of how a loved one should be mourn.
Are u for real

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Re: How Long Should A Widow Mourn Her Late Husband by chucky234(m): 6:58am On Nov 02, 2014
Agrika:

Are u for real
What is this one saying sef

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