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It has happened to me from those guys whom i dated with saying IT'S OVER and telling me reasons, i simply let them go.  All of sudden they changed their minds to come back! I cannot tolerate giving them a second, third, fourth, whatever chance(s) because of ugly nasty insult/reason to me that was totally unacceptable! I am HARD TO FORGET AND FORGIVE person.

Those guys are completely confused and complex inferiority even immatured, worse than sick lovestuck over exgfs they rebounded.  Those gals whom they dated with are gold-diggers, materistics, and heartless unromantic liar---because those guys whom I dated with are attractive, has job/car while gals do not have---no job, no car and having multiple roommates at apartment due to highest cost of living in a major cities gals not able to afford with. Keep in your mind, those guys ARE NOT COLLEGE EDUCATED ONES, most of them are high school graduates got good stable government jobs.  I am not gold-digger, not materistic not even jealousy/stingy/whatever disturbed but i have car, job, and house i own at my own expenses.

I do not understand those guys at all---what they want from me when they saw ALL THE BEST POTENTIALS with me saying that I AM THE PERFECT PACKAGE (ideal wife) THEY WANT. I guess my sincere with brainy on technically side along with college-educated background, open-minded, inhibited type are not guys' type. They chase BAD GIRLS leaving me behind!!!

That sum that i am better off remained single independent divorced woman waiting for my last 2nd child finish high school 3 more years left in order for me travelling whatever i want to go catching up what i have been missing out the last 14 years since my divorce finalized---have fun and my happiness!!!!

We must NOT let anyone play with our mind, our mind no be like switch wey you fit switch on and off. If de man end de relationship today for various reasons and come back tomorrow and tell me make I forget everytin him talk yesterday. I for one no go forget o I go waka commot, dis man don show me im no be REAL man he dey immature.

if someone says dat, u shuld let them go,but if they come back, u should consider if u still need him/her. if u want them back, be sure u do a lot of shakara.

_{Since I am not a relationship expert, I'll just subscribe to the thread.}

uspry1
You're absolutely right, it's all about mind games and the saddest thing of all, is some people allow others to use their heads as ping pong. You also hit another nail on the head when you mentioned insecurity of these people. You just want to shake some sense into them and say, make up your mind.

Sadly, it is their loss, when they let the right person go.

Stillwater
Lol, I take that back. Unpaging all relationship experts. Instead, paging everyone who's trying to navigate the rough terrain that is relationship.

It happened to a friend of mine I told her to forget the guy. then it happened to me three weeks later (reason- am too ambitious), later came and said he had not gotten over me. I had gone back b4 God opened my eyes and made me wake up. Now we are thru with each other if this happens to me again I wont even listen to the guy U gone U gone, no second chance cos I wpnt play with someone's emotion like that.