I find out that people do pray for life partners. Pls is there any scriptural backing for this act?
I think it is people under a curse/spell of being unable to find a life partner that should pray for one.
What‘s your view?
*pls i need sensible comments*

My view is that it is always good to pray so that you dont make the wrong choices in these matters. Your choice of life partner can affect your life in many ways and your destiny in many ways.

pastormustwacc: My view is that it is always good to pray so that you dont make the wrong choices in these matters. Your choice of life partner can affect your life in many ways and your destiny in many ways.

My question is that is it Biblical?

^^^Oh i understand you clearly now. But i must warn you that it is not everything that is written in the bible. I dont think it is biblical, but i do believe that still a christian must always pray about everything, not only spiritual things.

So the answer is No - as far as i know.

"If we ask anything according to God's will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the request which we have asked from him."1

"Please help me," a Daily Encounter reader asks. "Is it okay to ask God to send me a special someone/companion to share my life? And how will I know that God has sent this person?"

You can ask God for every desire of your heart as long as it is in harmony with his will. He hears all sincere prayers and answers them—not always in the way we want them to be answered, but always in the way that is best for us.

However, to be attracted to and find a healthy, mature adult we need to be a healthy mature adult our self. So the key is learning to pray the right prayer; rather than asking God to send you or lead you to the right partner, you need to ask God first and foremost to help you become the right partner.

The fact is that only healthy, happy, mature people find healthy, happy, and mature partners. If an immature, unhealthy, self-centered person asks God for a life partner, will God lead them to a healthy and mature person? Not likely. And yet I see people expecting God to do this sort of thing all the time.

In our Western culture at least, romantically we are basically attracted to a partner where our neuroses (unresolved personal issues) mesh and we call it love or falling in love. Often it's pure passion and/or need. This can lead to real love, but the problem with falling in love is that once the passion subsides, if we don't have anything deeper, instead of growing in love we'll fall out of love.

So the important way to pray is to ask God to help you grow in maturity and that he will then lead you to a healthy, mature person. Furthermore, to grow in maturity takes strong commitment and hard work on our part. There's no such thing as instant maturity.

And how will you know this person you want to marry is God's choice? First, realize that the choice is yours. God will give you wisdom and direction if you truly want it, but he won't make your choices for you. That's your responsibility because God isn't codependent. And how will you know this person and you are right or best for each other? To discover this I urge couples to seek not only God's direction in prayer, but also wise competent Christian counseling where, besides intense counseling, both partners are given psychological tests before they ever say, "I do." This is using your head as well as your heart in one of life's most important and critical decisions.

Suggested prayer: "Dear God, please lead me by your Holy Spirit to see any areas of immaturity in my life that I need to resolve. Help me to find the help I need to overcome any such issues. And then please give me wisdom and direction in finding a healthy and mature life partner (and/or good friends). Furthermore, teach me to always pray the right prayers, ones that are based on truth and reality, and are in harmony with your will. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus' name, amen."

Source: http://www.actsweb.org/articles/article.php?i=840&d=2&c=3

pastormustwacc,thumbs up,you made maximum sense.

Choosing a marriage partner is a very serious matter, infact, its regarded as the most serious decision you will ever make in your life since your partner can cause you either to be successful or to fail miserably, in the tests of this life and, consequently, in the Here- after.

If you're a practicing christian, then I would recommend prayer...cos such decision needs to be made with utmost care and caution, its not something you rush into...you must be guided by God and not by your mind.

You should also note that so many marriages have broken up today why.....because the partners are in such haste that they don't take time to make such vital checks and rush into things. Don't add yourself to the list of marriage casualties because you couldn't take time or were too desperate for marriage to find out about or get to know the person with whom you plan to spend the rest of your life.

Marriage is not just for today or tomorrow but for life, and for the primary purpose of building a family.

So seeking God's face is something you shouldn't neglect as a christian.

omotola1: I find out that people do pray for life partners.

It's good to pray about everything

Pls is there any scriptural backing for this act?

Genesis 24:14
And let it so be that the girl to whom I say, I pray you, let down your jar that I may drink, and she replies, Drink, and I will give your camels drink also—let her be the one whom You have selected and appointed and indicated for Your servant Isaac [to be a wife to him]; and by it I shall know that You have shown kindness and faithfulness to my master

It's biblical to pray for everything. In bible days , marriages were between parents. Parents give their daughters out and parents get wives for their sons. The irst account of prayer for marriage was when Abraham sent his servant to get wife for Isaac . He prayed for him and sent angles to guide him. The servant also prayed to be guided.

Prayers positions you from making mistakes . It's not every person that is fit another . Some people may not fulfill Gods purpose in life just because of the partner they've married. There are wives from hell and husbands from hell. There are wives from above as well.

Abraham servant prayer was answered . .

. . . .Before he had finished speaking, behold, out came Rebekah, who was the daughter of Bethuel son of Milcah, who was the wife of Nahor the brother of Abraham, with her water jar on her shoulder.
16 And the girl was very beautiful and attractive, chaste and modest, and unmarried. And she went down to the well, filled her water jar, and came up.
17 And the servant ran to meet her, and said, I pray you, let me drink a little water from your water jar.
18 And she said, Drink, my lord; and she quickly let down her jar onto her hand and gave him a drink.
19 When she had given him a drink, she said, I will draw water for your camels also, until they finish drinking.
20 So she quickly emptied her jar into the trough and ran again to the well and drew water for all his camels.
21 The man stood gazing at her in silence, waiting to know if the Lord had made his trip prosperous.
22 And when the camels had finished drinking, the man took a gold earring or nose ring of half a shekel in weight, and for her hands two bracelets of ten shekels in weight in gold,
23 And said, Whose daughter are you? I pray you, tell me: Is there room in your father’s house for us to lodge there?
24 And she said to him, I am the daughter of Bethuel son of Milcah and [her husband] Nahor.
25 She said also to him, We have both straw and provender (fodder) enough, and also room in which to lodge.
26 The man bowed down his head and worshiped the Lord

^^^I was aware of this, but i dont know if it wil be enough for the op.

k2039: pastormustwacc,thumbs up,you made maximum sense.

If you also read the bible well, you will see many instances where people's lives were destroyed because they took spouses that led them into condemnation.

So the issue of marriage should not be taken lightly at all. It has both physical, medical,psychological, financial and spiritual implications. And it can affect all aspects of your life.

If you marry the wrong spouse, your house go hot like fire! You will suffer in untold ways, just look around you - i dont need to start saying details.

pastormustwacc: ^^^I was aware of this, but i dont know if it wil be enough for the op.


If you also read the bible well, you will see many instances where people's lives were destroyed because they took spouses that led them into condemnation..

Arab was a good man, but married a wrong woman .

@ Joagbaje, the way “pray“ was used in your Bible quotation doesn‘t corelate with “pray“ in the context of this discourse.

omotola1: @ Joagbaje, the way “pray“ was used in your Bible quotation doesn‘t corelate with “pray“ in the context of this discourse.

Pls clarify your point.

Joagbaje:
Pls clarify your point.

In Gen24:14 that u quoted, the “pray“ there doesn‘t mean the person prayed directly to GOD for a life partner.

I explained earlier that the bible days , marriages was between parents it's not an issue of a lady looking for a man. A girl doesn't have power to give herself husband . She is given out . It's her father business to do that.Except of course a man sees her and ask for her hand.

Joagbaje: I explained earlier that the bible days , marriages was between parents it's not an issue of a lady looking for a man. A girl doesn't have power to give herself husband . She is given out . It's her father business to do that.Except of course a man sees her and ask for her hand.

Yeah, i understand u there.

@ Omotola

Though I didn't get your point clear . But if what you're trying to point out is about a woman asking God for a husband. It depends on the revelation such person has. While some ask God for their needs some others thank God knowing that all things are theirs already.

Joagbaje: I explained earlier that the bible days , marriages was between parents it's not an issue of a lady looking for a man. A girl doesn't have power to give herself husband . She is given out . It's her father business to do that.Except of course a man sees her and ask for her hand.

True talk. Civilization has alot to do with this change

@op, The bible plainly told that "whatever we ask in the name of Christ Shall be given to us, i think asking God to protect ur future wife/husband is not offensive to the scripture. Although, i married when i was still in the
world, but it is really advisable for a Christian to seek God for everything. It work best when God decide or show you
ur partiner.

pastormustwacc: My view is that it is always good to pray so that you dont make the wrong choices in these matters. Your choice of life partner can affect your life in many ways and your destiny in many ways.

WORDS !!!

pastormustwacc: My view is that it is always good to pray so that you dont make the wrong choices in these matters. Your choice of life partner can affect your life in many ways and your destiny in many ways.

Gbamest Bros!

Thanks y'all, i am glad i was able to contribute meaningfully.

pastormustwacc: My view is that it is always good to pray so that you dont make the wrong choices in these matters. Your choice of life partner can affect your life in many ways and your destiny in many ways.

pastormustwacc: ^^^Oh i understand you clearly now. But i must warn you that it is not everything that is written in the bible. I dont think it is biblical, but i do believe that still a christian must always pray about everything, not only spiritual things.

So the answer is No - as far as i know.



Source: http://www.actsweb.org/articles/article.php?i=840&d=2&c=3

So it is now okay to do things that are not scriptural. Yesterday any thing that wasn't found in scripture was a pagan act.

Your doctrine changes everyday, unlike God's unchanging doctrine.

Excellent thread, i have learnt a lot from this thread.

italo:

So it is now okay to do things that are not scriptural. Yesterday any thing that wasn't found in scripture was a pagan act.

Your doctrine changes everyday, unlike God's unchanging doctrine.

Advising people to pray for a partner isn't a doctrine brah! He said 'his own view' he is not forcing it on any Christian!

Afterall the bible says:

1Th 5:17 Pray without ceasing.

italo:

So it is now okay to do things that are not scriptural. Yesterday any thing that wasn't found in scripture was a pagan act.

Your doctrine changes everyday, unlike God's unchanging doctrine.

The great twister welcome

Is italo an atheist or a pagan or simply a saddist?

yah:
Is italo an atheist or a pagan or simply a saddist?

Na Pope Italo oh!

Okay i understand now. But i thought popes are gentle, this italo seem rather too "abusive" to be a real pope.

plappville:

The great twister welcome

Why do you call italo a twister?

Your Question is like asking, is it Biblical to ask God for a Car?? There is no bible verse that points to that directly but it is the same Bible that says" with Prayers and Sublications make your NEEDS known to your almighty Father "
So YES! if a life partner is your own need , ask GOd
If it is money ask him
If it is Ipad ask him

I hope I have answered your question
And don't forget he said " ASK and you Shall be Given "
Cheers

yah:

Why do you call italo a twister?

Italo specilizes in gainsaying and cherry picking, misinterpreting scripures to fit his Catholic doctrines very soon, he will be added to buzugee's list of nairaland pharisees

Click here for List of Nairaland Pharisees

How do you know when you have found the person that you should marry? Some say that you should just trust God to lead that special person to you or lead you to him or her. Others believe that God will show you your spouse when you meet him or her. I believe the answer lies somewhere in the middle. Let me explain. Let's look at what the Bible says about acquiring a spouse.

(Proverbs 18:22 NIV) He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.

I would like to focus in on the word "finds." This implies that the man searches for the wife. Also note that the one who finds a wife, which is good, receives favor from the Lord. In other words, finding a good wife is an indication that a man has received grace of favor from God. Let me show you another scripture that applies to the principle that I am trying to share.

(Psalms 1:3 NIV) He is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither. Whatever he does prospers.

Again we see how God blesses what we do. A man will seek a wife and will find one. God blesses the man's activities by him finding a wife. Now there are a lot of other scriptures that I can quote that further illustrate the concept I am trying to relay to you. However, instead of quoting them let me simply reference them for you to review at your convenience. See also the following:

Psalm 119:105-The word of God can direct us as we search for a wife (application of this scripture)

Matthew 7:7-We will find a wife if we seek (application of this scripture)

Joshua 1:8-The importance of God's word and success and prosperity (an application of this scripture)

The point that I want to make is that I believe that a wife is not going to simply drop out of the sky. It is very unlikely that you can go on with your life and do nothing to look for a wife and then expect one to show up. I believe the same principle applies to women looking for husbands as well. How is this so? Isn't it the man's job to pursue the woman? I don't believe this is entirely true. Yes a man will pursue the woman of his dreams, however, the woman should also pursue the man of her dreams. The man and the woman will respectively pursue in different ways but both will still pursue.

I believe that the spouse must be pursued both before marriage and after the wedding day. This pursuit is active and involves many things that you may take for granted. In order for you to find a good wife (or husband for the woman), that potential spouse must somehow catch your attention. This leads us to the realm of attractiveness.


It is first necessary to be attracted to someone or be attractive to someone in order to connect with a possible mate. Now here is were some go very wrong and end up entering a relationship that results in disaster. Many men become interested in a certain woman because she looks "FINE!" He may like her general appearance, her nice legs, her breasts, her smile, her arms, or her behind. Basically a man may become interested in a woman because of her physical attraction and likewise a woman may become interested in a man because of his physical attraction. I must say that the attraction of a man to a woman tends to be different in some respects. A man does not care what kind of car a woman drives or if she drives a car at all. However, woman, based on the information that I have gathered, will consider the type of car a man drives or if he drives at all. This is based on what the man and woman want in a relationship respectively.

There is more to attractiveness than physical attraction. Many men, including myself, find woman interesting who are of course generally fit and healthy and who are intellectually stimulating. There is also the general aura of the other person. There is much more to a human being then just flesh and blood. I believe that there is a life force, which some call Chi or Ki. Some may think of this life force and associate it with the aura of a person or energy that emanates from the person. We can sense these things and react to them, usually subconsciously. I recall Pastor Blumentoe explaining this to us (Bible class students). She asked us if we had ever met someone and, for no reason at all, felt uncomfortable or comfortable about that person? She said that this reaction could have been the result of our response to their life force or spirit. I tend to agree, however, I don't want to get into a discussion on that topic at this time, especially since it is very subjective.

There may be many things that can induce a person to become interested in another in the area of male female relationships. There is physical and intellectual attractiveness. Physical attractiveness is more than being pretty or handsome. It involves good grooming and good hygiene. A beautiful person does not have to look like a supermodel. Beauty comes from within and radiates outward. External beauty is only a cover that does not indicate what's inside. For example, a brand new body on a car with a corroded engine and torn seats is not a good car to have. However, a clean car with a good paint job with a working engine and clean seats is more desirable. My point is not to narrow your scope for a possible mate by looks alone.

It is a very dangerous thing to enter and pursue a relationship with someone because they have a great body and is the prettiest thing you ever saw. What's inside? Be sensitive to who the person really is and not just what he or she looks like. Looking for the tall dark and handsome man or the 36-24-36 women is no guarantee whatsoever of a good and lasting marriage. Learn to be attracted to the whole person. Probe the person for signs. For example, does the guy that you are interested in, ladies, seem to always catch himself before he is about to say what sounds like a curse word? Does this person always want to be alone and in private with you or always wants to go to a bar? These are signs of other things that are lingering below the camouflage of the outer appearance and smooth talk.

Attractiveness is a quality of the whole person. What attracts me may not attract you. Some men like skinny women while others like big ones. Some woman like hulk men while others like lean guys. You have to realize that what attracts you may not be attractive to someone else, which means that someone else's opinion about your new found "friend" may be invalid.

There are some general things that you can do to be attractive. Be yourself in good condition. If you are a sloppy person with bad hygiene then you will not likely attract many people. I believe it is important that you take care of yourself by looking your best all of the time. We will see that this is a neglected aspect once marriage has been entered. That is, we may think that it is OK to let ourselves go once we are married. Here are some things that lead to attractiveness.

Physically fit (we can't deny the importance of this)
Good grooming
Good language
Good hygiene (don't smell bad and brush your teeth, etc.)
Wear nice and clean clothes
Look your best all of the time

If you are an abrasive person then don't put up a front to appear passive. There are men that find abrasive women attractive. If you put up a front and attract a man that is turned off by abrasive women then you have just created a very bad situation, which began with deceit.

Attractiveness also deals with your character and demeanor. Are you an honest person, hard working person, rude person, etc.? Do you exhibit self-control and are you up front about yourself? The type of person you present yourself to be will greatly influence whom you attract and vice versa.
Compatibility

You must realize that you are looking for a spouse and that spouse will be with you for the rest of your life. Therefore, you should take special care in entering a relationship with anyone. The union between a man and a woman is not merely a physical one. There should be compatibility between the two that indicates the possibility of a successful marriage. You can see very quickly here that good looks and good sex will not lead to a successful and prosperous life together in marriage. Do not let sexual or psychological infatuation or romantic delusion lead you to get married. This may lead to a very unhappy marriage.

The Bible tells us that the husband and the wife form one flesh (Genesis 2:24). Simply getting married does not form this one flesh. There must be an oneness or unity between the two before the wedding day! This means that the two has to be compatible. What is this compatibility? Consider the following scripture.

2 Corinthians 6:14 through 2 Corinthians 6:15 (NCV) 14You are not the same as those who do not believe. So do not join yourselves to them. Good and bad do not belong together. Light and darkness cannot share together. 15How can Christ and Belial, the devil, have any agreement? What can a believer have together with a nonbeliever?

I choose the New Century Version of the Bible because I really liked the way this scripture was worded, which is consistent with the actual meaning. Basically, two people should be compatible before they enter into a binding relationship whether that relationship is marriage, friendship, or business partner.

The best, if not only, way to determine compatibility is to inquire and observe. Ask questions and observe how your "friend" behaves and responds to situations. What church does he or she attend and what clubs does he or she belong to. Answers to these and similar probing questions will greatly help you determine compatibility.


The most fundamental compatibility in a Christian marriage is that both the husband and wife are Christians themselves and not as a result of the relationship. I believe that your mate should have been a Christian before you met him or her else there may be suspicion that he or she only profess to be a Christian in order to win you over. A professed Christian is not a born again Christian. A professed Christian is simply someone who has gone through the motions that the church requires and claims to be a Christian. So your potential mate should be a Christian already, at least ideally.

Note that finding someone in a church service is no guarantee that he or she is a Christian. Only examining that person and prayer will help to determine if the person is really a Christian or not. The Bible tells us that we should not be unequally yoked (joined in any binding relationship) with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). Though this scripture is not exclusively referring to marriage, it does apply just the same. In general a Christian should not enter into any binding relationship with a non-Christian on a personal level (else we would have to leave this Earth). For example, you shouldn't marry someone that is not a Christian and you should not enter into a business partnership with someone that is a non-believer.

This is my 2 cents

^^^^ More like 500 cents (with the staggering length) ℓ☺ℓ.

@OP
It is biblical as Joagbaje pointed out. The issue is one of asking for direction always a good thing to do both spiritually and physically. It is through wise counsel that a war is persecuted similarly the issues of life and marriage are made easier to deal with when men have proper direction and guidance.