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| Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by marvelck: 9:13am On Dec 24, 2012 |
'I love you more than my mother' is now the slang/lyrics used by most guys to deceive/woo ladies. And not a few ladies have fallen for such lines. But how can a guy open his big mouth and say he loves a girl more than his mother. Imagine, comparing a girl he just met or his girlfriend with his mother? the woman that gave birth to him, carried him in her belly for nine months, breastfed him, taught him his first steps, bathed, cleaned his bum bum and also clothed him a million and one times when he was a child. A woman that loved, fed, took care of him and also sacrificed alot for his well-being. only for a guy to betray this kind of love for lust. Believe me or not, it's only a few ladies that can love a guy the same way his mother loved and cared for him. And it's cos of a mother's love for her son, that makes some mothers to compete with their daughters-in-law for the love and attention of their sons. A mother's love is everlasting and unconditional...So ladies, whenever a guy says he loves you more than his mother, abeg carry speed run far away from him. cos, definitely the guy is not for real. and is only looking for a girl to deceive. Shikena! |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by k2039: 9:30am On Dec 24, 2012 |
Not all people love their mother, the relationship between some mothers and their children is not any different from that of america and bin laden. So someone who says he loves his wife or girlfriend than his mum may be right afterall, he probably can find solace in his girlfriend than mum. Not applicable to me though. Mum>Girlfriend Mum=Wife(level playing field for both). |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by Nobody: 2:03pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
There is a simple fact you don't know, or you know it, but just choose to ignore. . . I am talking of the fact that once you get married to a lady you love, she becomes the most important individual in your life, above mother and above family. No disrespect to mother's, but they know it's a fact as well. A mother was once a gf/wife. To further prove the fact that married ones are more committed to themselves than the rest of individuals ask a mother to choose between her husband, her son and her daughter. She will always choose her husband. Not that she does not love her children, but because she vowed to love her husband forever, nothing can come in between that love. . . Not even children. It is very wrong for a man to say he loves a woman, marries her and then chooses his mother over her. If you are that wise, marry your mother, so that she is your wife and mother simultaneously and so that you avoid being so foolish and thoughtless especially when using words to describe a woman you love. If i am in a situation to choose between mother and girlfriend - I'll choose mother. Because i am not married to a girlfriend, so there is no divine or man-made law binding us. My girlfriend should also choose her parent over me, cos that's the right thing to do. If i am in a situation to choose between wife or mother - I'll choose wife. I am married and committed to only her. Without her i would have no family to call mine. My mother did not train me all these years for me to choose her over a woman she knows mean the whole world to me. . . It's not done. You can of course choose to ignore this fact. 2 Likes |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by Tedpgrass: 5:36pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
^^^^^^^^ My question is: must there be a choice  I don't fault ur argument as to who your allegiance should be to.... But most times, there's a tardy rather public debacle for choices to be made When there's lack of understanding and MATURITY on the part of either ladies More so the younger women...... DILs... If the young Nigerian women of today can be less hasty in judgement, Open lines of communication, Comport themselves properly Less adept to "follow-follow", "Kardashian" mentality, maybe there'll be fewer battles with MILs Final word: a good mother will always nuture, no matter the condition..... That can't be said for a good number of "new wives"..... . |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by eddy1977(m): 5:54pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
A good mother should encourage his son to love his wife more than any woman here on earth. The good book didn't say: man shall cling to his mother,and the two shall become one. Yes,mother bore me in her womb,yes she nurtured me and pampered me. One can argue that she did it out of love.but the truth is she did it out of responsibility. It was must. And thank God for responsible and loving mothers.they make this world a better place. But,mama is noty wife. My wife sleeps with me.she ushers in my posterity. I chose her.and asy faith dictates,she is one with me.one flesh.together we are a unit. So,there is the bomb: mama,back off. If you and my wife were drowning, i ll save my wife first. And make sure she is safe before i save you. It's hard but it's the truth.sorry mama. |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by Mynd44: 5:59pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
All these epistles sef. One thing I am sure of is that when you are married, that woman/man becomes the single most important person in your life and everyone else is secondary including mums, dads and friends |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by Tedpgrass: 6:40pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
I still maintain my stance...... Why must there be a choice ??I feel there's so much acrimony in the MIL/DIL saga, that there's a perception of having to choose in the light of conflict, mostly perceived!!!! Where is the win -win mentality for all concerned Fundamentally, once the mental approach is wrong, It's natural to see problems where there are none.... And possibly overact..... Which is the bane of many conflicts..... Speak to ladies who have been married 25yrs and above, Who have been with their husbands through thick n thin...... 1 recurrent undercurrent is the invaluable relationship they had with an older female in-law.. be it MIL, SIL or Aunt in-law.... The flipside is ensuring you're in agreement with whom appreciates or toes along with your moral compass. . |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by Tedpgrass: 6:45pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
eddy1977: A good mother should encourage his son to love his wife more than any woman here on earth. A good mother will not wait for you to make that difficult decision of choice...... She would have provided a way of escape for the three or more of you..... herself, her son and DIL with grandchildren if indicated. She would gladly put herself out as sacrifice, if it was deemed necessary.... I agree, not all mothers are good or are at all times disposed to be sacrificial...... In response to ur "maternal responsibility" reason.... I beg to differ..... The nurture n care was as a result of love not primarily responsibility.... How many "responsible" mothers may aid financially but do NOT nurture their wards!! . |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by Nobody: 6:58pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
Tedpgrass: ^^^^^^^^No matter what a woman's character looks like, or what she has done, or what she will do, once you make her your WIFE, she is the MOST important woman in your life. . . Give her that respect. . . Your mother is the MOST important woman in another man's life, which happens to be your father. . . Another hard truth for those shouting "mother mother" all over the place is that, your mother will ALWAYS choose her husband, your father, over you. . . Anytime, anywhere. . . Respect your wife! 2 Likes |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by Tedpgrass: 7:21pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
sexkillz: No matter what a woman's character looks like, or what she has done, or what she will do, once you make her your WIFE, she is the MOST important woman in your life. . . Bros... Let's not mix up respect with role portrayal You choosing a party to support should primarily be secondary to good reasoning...... Be it at work or play I raise the question again.... Why must there be a choice.... on the basis of "I want to support my wife or mother" Let the choice be subject to sound, unbiased reasoning Then all the parties concerned will feel at ease But when there's a perceived sense of bias, then "shadows become demons". A good man in charge of his home, has set down rules in his home listens to each sets of arguments with an unbiased attitude in a discreet fashion, And then comes to a balanced decision prayerfully And communicates it across effectively... I still repeat there is little need for tittle tattle, that is so often over-dramatized in some homes. With regards to choices, I want to imagine that there would have been several times your mum chose you or your siblings over and above your dad.... She only did it in a discreet and discrete fashion to minimize role conflict!!! . |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by Nobody: 7:38pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
Why should your mother live with you? What happened to her husbands house? If for any reason your mother must live with you, she has no right to dictate to your wife. Your wife is married to you and not your mother. She is your first responsibility and not your mother. You should have married your mother if you had wanted her to have a say in how you run your life and your home. Your mother should not run her husband's house, and then come to run the house of another woman because that woman married her son. It is wholly wrong! I respect my mother alot. She was the one that taught me the value of women, and that my wife will come first over her. . . 1 Like |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by Mynd44: 7:44pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
Wife over mother. I am not being bad but that's the way it is |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by Tedpgrass: 8:36pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
sexkillz: Why should your mother live with you? What happened to her husbands house? Your love towards your mum is applauded!!! However, the question remains..... why must there be a choice? The "homeland" rules are in place following deliberations with wifey and other contributions from valued elders or mentors, and should suffice. Any flagrant disregard of these rules from any party, yourself included, should be dealt with accordingly. No needless scapegoat made of anybody on account of misconceptions or otherwise. However, if there's a need for redress, sound reasoning should be employed. Shouldn't decisions be based on sound reasoning regardless of source not petty partisanship My stance is don't create a needless mental "tug of war" as to who rules the roost. You are the man in the home..... and hence your call. Your head shouldn't be on Mama's bosoms or in between Madam's thighs.. But should be on your neck, after due diligence!!! ******My comments aren't borne from a "live-in MIL scenario", btw.***** |
| Re: Between Your Wife/girlfriend & Your Mother. by Nobody: 9:58pm On Dec 24, 2012 |
You are yet to answer what your mom is doing in your house, and why at all there should be an issue that needs a redress! |
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