It is often believed that Benue women are offered to visitors as ''Kola''. Is this one helluva culture that might well explain why Benue has the highest HIV/AIDS incidence in Nigeria?

do you mean kola to be "chopped" by the guest?

You'd be suprised that the wives may want the culture to stay!

some women may be lobbying some "amalinze the cat" to visit their home more often

lol @ amalinze the cat.
seriously i didnt hear about benue women taking to the streets to protest this culture.

I hope this is not one of them sterotyping thingy

abeg na who from benue here?
when can i visit you o?

all those wey get fine wife don dodge

I've heard about this tradition a long ago. Is it really true? People from Benue should confirm this now or forever keep their mouths shut!

never heard of this before o.so if yar adua visits gov suswam, he will offer that fine yemisi to him,kai!

I heard this gist and my friend who served in Benue actually confirmed it. Abeg I no beliv the guy, na true?

top_kin:

I heard this gist and my friend who served in Benue actually confirmed it. Abeg I no beliv the guy, na true?

Someone from Benue or a visitor that has been offered a "living kola" should say something

Ok people, im going to speak on their behalf. i am igbo and HAPPILY married to a Benue man. In the past (long time ago) they had the tradition where women were given to vistors as "kola'' but that practice no longer exist. its just the way in the past, people from ngwaa and abriba used to eat human flesh. well i know all these not just because im married to a benue man but i also schooled there

diva4eva:

TUFACE IDIBIA is from benue state

So what ?

diva4eva:

and for your information, TUFACE IDIBIA is from benue state

No wonder he sample all the girls wey he visit and dey give dem belle 

diva4eva:

Ok people, im going to speak on their behalf. i am igbo and HAPPILY married to a Benue man. In the past (long time ago) they had the tradition where women were given to vistors as "kola'' but that practice no longer exist. its just the way in the past, people from ngwaa and abriba used to eat human flesh. well i know all these not just because im married to a benue man but i also schooled there

Thank God a Benue wife has spoken.
That was a horrible tradition I might add.
The things our ancestors did.
killing twins,throwing people in the "evil" forest,offering their wives as kola
Lord have mercy!

I wish am from Benue and married to a particular poster on this thread, although all that could only and only be on a wish list now. I would have offered her to my friends, enemies, visitors and strangers. All to make sure she spends more time in the bedroom rather than on Nairaland. 

I was in Benue State several years ago and I did not notice any such thing

Blatant:

I was in Benue State several years ago and I did not notice any such thing

maybe your kolas refused to come to you

Ikomi:

I wish am from Benue and married to a particular poster on this thread, although all that could only and only be on a wish list now. I would have offered her to my friends, enemies, visitors and strangers. All to make sure she spends more time in the bedroom rather than on Nairaland. 

Guy who u dey beef? Take am easy o! 

abeg no be good thing.

All nations/tribes/countries/races have questionable behaviors they did in the past, out of ignorance or whatever.

What I heard when I visited Benue was that sometimes the woman offered could be really old as in her seventies and wrinkled.

So all the people salivating at the thought of nacking someone's pretty young wife should wake up and smell the coffee. The grass is always greener on the other side. Sometimes its when people (not necessarily Benue) want to kill you or use your life fluid that you get such "gifts". Isnt the New York governor lamenting his own, now.

Anyway, its just a rumor. I heard eskimos also have a tradition of offering their wives to guests. If at all its done in benue, must have been centuries ago or something and probably stopped by now.

The culture was reserved for other tribes married to Benue men but unfortunately it has been stopped. We hope other tribes will borrow a leaf from the Benue people and stop their own heinous crimes that are committed on their women like washing dead body of the husband for the wife to drink or the Osu issue to name a few

Blackcat:

like washing dead body of the husband for the wife to drink

na wa

there was never such a practice in benue,the whole rumour started beause of the free attitude,fun loving and sex loving nature of benue people

DRANOEL:

there was never such a practice in benue,the whole rumour started beause of the free attitude,fun loving and sex loving nature of benue people

So tivs are sex maniacs? No wonder fo HIV. HAHAHAHAHAHA

is it that nigerians who have something to do with germany are always dumb?

Any Benue Chick here? what a culture. The women are not complaining , probably they are enjoying it. I will visit a benue Friend

@vislabraye

and get your little di*ck cut

DRANOEL:

@vislabraye

and get your little di*ck cut

Carry on DRANOEL educate the ignorant Hot fellow

lol

i bet some folks wished it were true. if it were true, i wonder what the women felt about it. the visitor prolly comes out in the morning and says to the man ' thanks, your wife was greaat', and the man says ' i told you she is', and the woman goes about her normal bussiness. i actually find this hard to beleive, cos from time immemorial, man has always been known to jealously gaurd his woman.

I will try to visit Benue, locate a house that a beautiful lady resides so that she can be offered as a Kola-sex for me.
What a stupid culture, a visitor on a house-wife? tufiakwa

My Aunty had a friend who is from benue in Lagos, one day she caught her having sex with another benue man and she got mad and dissapointed with her. The woman explained that it is small matter, that it is their culture and that her husband also go to the man's wife.

Yuck!

But wife swapping and threesomes are now glamorize in western media, so maybe for the morally decadent, its not so yucky