Yeah dat kindda tru,dey prefer to spend money & time with dir babe or wife than with dir sibbling,father or mother.

It depends on how a child was being brought up.In the short life I've lived so far, I have seen mature female children totally ignoring their parents' needs ....I take care of my parents equally, I have no special love for one than the other; Both trained me with Agape Love!

I like female children more. I told my mum that i want just female children so they shouldn't bother my wife when i get married. Maybe for my wife's sake, one boy is enough.

Jellita: True!
I have never seen a DIME from my brothers!BUT WE SPEND HEAVEN AND HELL ON THEM AND THEIR FAMILIES. . .PLUS PAY THEIR FEES TOO!

Only the girls take care of the parents!
Don't even bother to call the BOYS. . . they NEVER have o!
Extremely selfish BAAAAAAAAAAAAASTARDS!

Jellilah abi wetin be dat ur name again, if ur brothers are bastards becos dem no call dem mama or take care of them sisters, it doesnt mean all males are bastards Gerrit? I call my mama like every weekend, send money to my grandma almost every month (as God provides) and I have never ceased to take responsibilities for my siblings' finances whenever I can.
Funny enough, to show u how unreasonable and ungrateful some of my female siblings are, whenever i send them stuffs, they complain about one or two things before I remind them dat appreciation should come first before complain.
Don't generalise what you dont know...caring, generousity and affection are not necessarily gender-defined...some females are even more insensitive and unreasonably selfish than most males, and too annoyingly dependent on the male folks. maybe ur brothers dem no like ur singy, dependent and cunny cunny ways dat na why dem dey hold back from u..REPENT JELLILAH!

I totally totally disagree with the notion that if you train your kids well they will take care of you *yimu* you better pray to God you don't give birth to children that will turn their backs on you after spending everything you have on them. I have seen and heard countlessly how children both male and fem$ale well trained and brought up ignoring their parents or believing they can take care of themselves.
Yes male children takes care of their parent more. The male children have lots of factors distracting them from doing so!

jammyng: I like female children more. I told my mum that i want just female children so they shouldn't bother my wife when i get married. Maybe for m wife's sake, one boy is enough.

You go hear am...pack house full of girls ? They cant even play football...

What r u guys saying
A guy must satisfy so many people around him.

wif(wives),kids,girlfriends,father inlaw,mother in law,sister in law,brothers inlaw,uncles, the list is endless.

He has to pay school fees,buy a car and maintain it for madam,rent a flat and pay bills for his mistress,pay hospital bill for his parents e.t.c

A man will give u money freely but anything u take from a woman is a debt, u will surely pay back

When i was in school my gf made me pull off a shirt she bought for me as a birthday present in public,cos she tot i was cheating on with d shirt she bought for me,this is a girl that i pay her her school fees
Now, it has become part of me never to take anything from a woman!

A woman's gifts comes with Terms and Conditions attached.

The people contributing to this thread sha. Na wa. How do u expect guys to be as caring to their parents as ladies. Dont forget that a married guy would have more financial responsibility than a married woman; house rent, children school fees, soup money etc. Morever, woman are more emotional than guys in the first place so this is well expected.

Jellita: True!
I have never seen a DIME from my brothers!BUT WE SPEND HEAVEN AND HELL ON THEM AND THEIR FAMILIES. . .PLUS PAY THEIR FEES TOO!

Only the girls take care of the parents!
Don't even bother to call the BOYS. . . they NEVER have o!
Extremely selfish BAAAAAAAAAAAAASTARDS!

They won't have because it is theur wives, your fellow women that will blind them with their own family problems and bar them from helping their own (husband's) parents and siblings.

Actually, both children av thier own advantages and disadvantages. But wen we are talking about who care for family among female or male child. With many research dat i've done about this, i've come to understand dat female child take a gud care of her parent before and after marriage. For example, if a man is complaining dat he doesn't has much money on him to give his parent, d wife will still know how to remove some amount from d little her husband drop for preparing meal for him. She will now take this money to her parent. Also, before a female child get married, d parent will be at peace wen they travelled and leave d home in care of female child dan make child.

Rubbish!

My eldest brother is the most generous, selfless, altruistic and responsible first son ever! He saw me through university. Himself and my sister. He denied himself LUXURIES just to ensure his parents and siblings were comfortable. He didn't buy clothes or gadgets for himself or spend on women/clubbing, while working in a New generation bank. Family first was/is his motto.

My sister is also the most generous and responsible female I've seen. Is it down to gender? I don't know.

I do know that females will receive help from boyfriends and husbands to ease their difficulties while we men have to save for our own families. Have to settle in-laws to an extent, have greater responsibilities. Who will buy land, build house, pay school fees, generally provide for his family? The man.

Maybe he really can't spare as much? The woman will collect from husband + her salary and have enough to give her parents. Please let's be objective.

quicksylva: Rubbish!Rubbish!Rubbish.............Total RUBBISH


@OP, I Take God beg u, don't annoy me this afternoon O. What sort of statement is that. It's all about the way a parent raise his or her child. Family comes first. Am ready to go hungry or stave myself in order to provide for my family, am ready to go any extent (so far it's legal) in order to make my family comfortable.


I single handedly carter for my family, Am the second born(1st boy). No make me vex dis afternoon.

guy leave ego one side I am a man ... Females are more generous than males

poshpimkiey: from personal experiences, i'd say females are more generous than males. my big sister is a living example. however my brothers buy stuff for my mum and send me airtime sometimes and they are only 16 and 13.
but it should be noted that the married female that caters for her parents does so with her husband's money thus it may seem that the husband(a male)doesn' take care of his own family

Have you forgotten that women have jobs also these days?

kaze4blues: Hi NLders,

i have come to notice that female children tend to be more generous when it comes to spending and even caring for their siblings more than male folks.

Especially when females are the firstborn, they even look after their parents the more when compared to males.

Though am a guy, but this has made me change my impression about having female children.

Let's hear meaningful contributions from nairalanders....

100% YES

YuzedoII: Rubbish!

My eldest brother is the most generous, selfless, altruistic and responsible first son ever! He saw me through university. Himself and my sister. He denied himself LUXURIES just to ensure his parents and siblings were comfortable. He didn't buy clothes or gadgets for himself or spend on women/clubbing, while working in a New generation bank. Family first was/is his motto.

My sister is also the most generous and responsible female I've seen. Is it down to gender? I don't know.

I do know that females will receive help from boyfriends and husbands to ease their difficulties while we men have to save for our own families. Have to settle in-laws to an extent, have greater responsibilities. Who will buy land, build house, pay school fees, generally provide for his family? The man.

Maybe he really can't spare as much? The woman will collect from husband + her salary and have enough to give her parents. Please let's be objective.

TRIPLE GBAM. Ur head dey there.

achi4u: it all depends on individuals.

Am a man that takes care of my parents but my elder sisters can cook foods with other little gifts on every occasion to our parents making looks as if they're taking (more)care of them than me.

To buttress my point,women always appear to be too generous than men.
"men takes the big task while women settle for the later"

Not true. Men are usually too busy taking care of their wife's family just to impress and they forget all about their own

wen it comes to generousity or care for d family, giv it 2 d female child. dey r superb.
its ironical dat most guys wud prefer a male 2 a female child.
its natural dat most male children wud rather spend more on their wives and inlaws dan deir immediate family members, while d wives will use such proceeds and more 2 care 4 her pple.
if u want a child who will answer ur name after u'v left, den go 4 d male.
but if u truly want a child who will take care of u wen u r old, den u'v just asked 4 d female child.

delors:
You go hear am...pack house full of girls ? They cant even play football...

?

We are 6 children, in our case the most useful/helpful male to our parents does not do as much as the least useful female.

I have to agree with the poster that said if you bring two chldren up in the same environment, the female will more likely be more helpful.

Gentle Naaz: Yes, female r mor generous dan dia male counterpart. View it 4m ds perspectv, men has mor needs 2 atnd dan women. A man takes gud care of his girl(s) fnancially n oda wise, he spends mor on his carreer,family n all social activities in hs relationshp, wants 2 buy car, build houses; thereby hvn less dan 20% of his income allocatd 2 his parents n siblings
women hv dia financial needs 85% if nt 99% solvd by ds great men of our society, dy spnd less, get mor n dont spnd on any oda pesn dan dia parents n siblings
secondly, women r mor emotional in family n society dan men

Generosity isnt dependent on how much you have bro. Its a measure of your willingness to give.
Look at it this way:
A man has to provide for himself, then the needs of his wife (who in most cases may be working but expects the husband to pay for everything anyway), his children. At times he is looked up to by his younger ones and at times, his wives relatives.
However, in the midst of this daily pressure, many men remember to care for their surviving parent(s) sometimes even building them houses.
If that isnt generosity, what is? That of the woman who does not have nearly as many responsibilities? Generousity isnt entirely dependent on gender and it is not restricted to providing for parents either.

free2ryhme:


guy leave ego one side I am a man ... Females are more generous than males

Anybody can be generous, it doesn't matter if the person is a male or female. Saying females are more generous than male is a subjective statement. Where is your statistics to proof what you are saying is right. I totally disagree with that statement while some may agree. Different strokes for different folks.

I think its true. I am the first born and a male. I am working on my wedding plans and i have a lot to think about. My younger sister spends way more on my parents compared to me.

Male children tend to do big stuffs for their parents while females tend to petty things which the parents and many people regard as much; a man will send huge amount of money and material stuffs but do not visit them often, while females tend to visit them more often. My conclusion is that its the value you place on them that they will place on you.

igbeke: wen it comes to generousity or care for d family, giv it 2 d female child. dey r superb.
its ironical dat most guys wud prefer a male 2 a female child.
its natural dat most male children wud rather spend more on their wives and inlaws dan deir immediate family members, while d wives will use such proceeds and more 2 care 4 her pple.
if u want a child who will answer ur name after u'v left, den go 4 d male.
but if u truly want a child who will take care of u wen u r old, den u'v just asked 4 d female child.

GBAM

So on point....

kaze4blues: Hi NLders,

i have come to notice that female children tend to be more generous when it comes to spending and even caring for their siblings more than male folks.

Especially when females are the firstborn, they even look after their parents the more when compared to males.

Though am a guy, but this has made me change my impression about having female children.

Let's hear meaningful contributions from nairalanders....

You analysis are so wrong

Depends on your experience! My experience is the opposite.

A lot of women are having wahala with their men because the men are thought to spend too much on their siblings/parents. A female relative is currently complaining bitterly. Her sisters-in-in-law don't care.

For decades now I (male) have been left to shoulder family responsibilities that I even married late in life.

Meanwhile female siblings and their husbands are building new houses (Thank God for them) but all think I pluck money in diaspora. Them no send anyone.

2012 was really tough: medical bills, funerals, school fees for relatives. Thank GOD for providing the money sha.

kaze4blues: Hi NLders,

i have come to notice that female children tend to be more generous when it comes to spending and even caring for their siblings more than male folks.

Especially when females are the firstborn, they even look after their parents the more when compared to males.

Though am a guy, but this has made me change my impression about having female children.

Let's hear meaningful contributions from nairalanders....

You make it sound as if u hand pick the sp.erm that produces the gender!!

Na wa o mini god!!

poshpimkiey: from personal experiences, i'd say females are more generous than males. my big sister is a living example. however my brothers buy stuff for my mum and send me airtime sometimes and they are only 16 and 13.
but it should be noted that the married female that caters for her parents does so with her husband's money thus it may seem that the husband(a male)doesn' take care of his own family

Hmmmm

Imagine a married man that have to take care of rent, children school fees, feeding, clothing and also give his wife allowance. In the midst of all these immediate family responsibilities, other extended family members still expect him to dole out money to them like he doesn't have personal problems that he's thinking about.
The expectation from a successful African man is just too much and can cause alot of depression on a man. I used to compare myself with fellow white colleagues who earn thesame salary with me and can afford to go on travel and vacation round the world while i have to think of people to give money to every month. We have alot of problems in Africa and the consequence is people struggling to make money any how possible just to avert insult from the society.

Lord have mercy on mothers with only male children

yes,female children ar more generious dan their male counterpart,in carin,females ar more devoted to doin dat, d males cares more abt their girl friend,wen dey get married the attention goes to d wife,children, ad wifes family,in terms of money,dey provide little money for dere parents,compared to wat their wife which is d female provid for her own parents,females ar naturally interested in contibutin fiancial,emotionally,dey ar dedicated indeed.

2good: Imagine a married man that have to take care of rent, children school fees, feeding, clothing and also give his wife allowance. In the midst of all these immediate family responsibilities, other extended family members still expect him to dole out money to them like he doesn't have personal problems that he's thinking about.
The expectation from a successful African man is just too much and can cause alot of depression on a man. I used to compare myself with fellow white colleagues who earn thesame salary with me and can afford to go on travel and vacation round the world while i have to think of people to give money to every month. We have alot of problems in Africa and the consequence is people struggling to make money any how possible just to avert insult from the society.

A lot of working women who contribute little to immediate family upkeep (and can be generous outside) will not know this. Any moderately successful African man has lots of problem coping with lots of relatives who rely on him as if he was the "local social benefits office" or family ATM.