ignis: Well to me, it depends on the environment and the upbringing of the child.

Yep! Please include individual personality too.

fuke:

Being generous is in the genenes.

Some male children are so caring and generous while some ladies can be meaner than mean itself.

Individual personality.

If you train your son to believe he is all in all, everyone and everything is alive and around to please and serve him, That's how he will turn out, if you train your girl to believe she is madam and not empathic to others one day you will be the victim of lack of emppathy.
We have adopted a very selfish culture, me myself and my family.
Let us start from our prayers: How many of us in our daily family prayers pray for provision for others and for the sick? Most times I hear people praying the prayers centers about them and their family, That first step and act teaches the child not to think beyond him/her self.

We then go and keep up with the jonesses, If Mr. Jones buys a big car we must buy a bigger car, if Mr. Jones has his kids in a school of 1miilion per term we must get 1.5 million school. I have never heard where people compete to give charity, and giving charity and teaching our kids to care for others is basic. Not just old clothes and things they don't like but sometimes things they like, or the child grows up thinking he/ she only shares or gives out things he/ she doesn't want anymore.

No gender has monopoly of generousity or wickedness, some women I have met are more wicked than Lucifer, stripping house helps and putting pepper in their privates and some men who molest young children.
Some people are naturally narcasists, nothing can be done about those ones except physciatric treatment but generally, we have evolved into a selfish generation.

Churches don't help either, no emphasis on love but fall and die.

There is no gender basis, if you teach your child to care for others, they will except in cases of sadists.
For one birthday instead of doing a bigger party than so and sos mum did organise care packages and take the kids to visit sick kids in the hospital, share their cake and party packs with otherkids who may not see another birthday rather than teaching the children to "Thank God" because others are sick and they are not. Empathy not sympathy is a lesson even Nigerian adults need to learn.


Worse still is parents who "train" their kids just so they can use it as a blackmailing chip, " I suffered for you so you must do as I say"

Enegod: so,your brothers are baaaastards! Hmmmm,tell us more

gbam

yes they are

In my case as d1st son I shoida d family expenses. I have 2ladies as senior bt all expense falls on me. Am talking of a family wit 4 undergrads n A widow mom. I pay rent n feedin for dem n also for my own as I hav my own apartment. Its nt easy bt am nt complainin. So we hav some men doiing muich moire dan d ladies.

It depends on the individual. My older brothers are more caring and will do for us younger ones than my older sister. It's always been like that.

So there is no one answer.

onye ego: What r u guys saying
A guy must satisfy so many people around him.

wif(wives),kids,girlfriends,father inlaw,mother in law,sister in law,brothers inlaw,uncles, the list is endless.

He has to pay school fees,buy a car and maintain it for madam,rent a flat and pay bills for his mistress,pay hospital bill for his parents e.t.c

A man will give u money freely but anything u take from a woman is a debt, u will surely pay back

When i was in school my gf made me pull off a shirt she bought for me as a birthday present in public,cos she tot i was cheating on with d shirt she bought for me,this is a girl that i pay her her school fees
Now, it has become part of me never to take anything from a woman!

A woman's gifts comes with Terms and Conditions attached.

Onye ego,

I beg to disagree at the bolded. Not every lady is like that, myself inclusive. I have this mentality that once I give you something, I've lost ownership of the stuff. Therefore I have no right/claim to that thing given out except the receiver returns it.

So, if I give something out, I don't go about reminding the receiver that I did so so and so for you, No! Once I've done it, I've done; I moved on. How you choose to use it is your prerogative.

If not me, anybody else could've done it. Anything I do/give, I see it as all act of charity on my part.

I have not seen any interesting topic on NL today.

Jellita: True!
I have never seen a DIME from my brothers!BUT WE SPEND HEAVEN AND HELL ON THEM AND THEIR FAMILIES. . .PLUS PAY THEIR FEES TOO!

Only the girls take care of the parents!
Don't even bother to call the BOYS. . . they NEVER have o!
Extremely selfish BAAAAAAAAAAAAASTARDS!

I guess u have been very unlucky with males....so sorry for that.

I think every parent should pray to God to give them a child either male or female that would have pity on them and take care of them when they get old. As for me, I have made up my mind as a man to take very good care and love for my parents when they get old. I cannot forget what they have done for me to make me who I am today,I CAN'T STAND TO SEE THEM SUFFER NEVER!!!. Love comes from within the heart,no matter d love shown to some people,they cannot reciprocate. Loving is a gift from God to every being but few exhibits such love. For some even if they are not loved,they still show love to there parent & people around cos they believe it gives them PEACE. Loving or caring is not a gender thing.

To be sincere. Guys are more generous with cash towards their families but the girls give more attention and care. Many of my single male collegues spend a good amount of their salaries on their families. But the girls pay more attention to little things that actually mean a lot

ferhyntorlah:

Onye ego,

I beg to disagree at the bolded. Not every lady is like that, myself inclusive. I have this mentality that once I give you something, I've lost ownership of the stuff. Therefore I have no right/claim to that thing given out except the receiver returns it.

So, if I give something out, I don't go about reminding the receiver that I did so so and so for you, No! Once I've done it, I've done; I moved on. How you choose to use it is your prerogative.

If not me, anybody else could've done it. Anything I do/give, I see it as all act of charity on my part.

I think men are more generous than women Its only a woman that would do something and never let go off it.

If a woman helps a guy up in life the guy would never hear the last of it, thats why most men think its degrading to take anything from a woman

And we cant even count the number of men that have lifted girls up from their village and brought them into riches. Even the prayer of most poor women is to see a man who would lift her up. Its most likely a woman who would say her guy is stingy, you hardly hear guys complain their babe is stingy. Women are conditioned to receive while men to give

Back to the OP I think men are more generous, Women are too self centered to care about anyone, Men are natural givers

kpolli:

You analysis are so wrong

Ur Reasons.....?

ferhyntorlah:

Onye ego,

I beg to disagree at the bolded. Not every lady is like that, myself inclusive. I have this mentality that once I give you something, I've lost ownership of the stuff. Therefore I have no right/claim to that thing given out except the receiver returns it.

So, if I give something out, I don't go about reminding the receiver that I did so so and so for you, No! Once I've done it, I've done; I moved on. How you choose to use it is your prerogative.

If not me, anybody else could've done it. Anything I do/give, I see it as all act of charity on my part.

Am glad u said not every woman is like dat, many I've met will give u a thing and expect u to reciprocate in one way or d other.

I think it's because women are more emotional than men,or maybe I've not been lucky to receive "free" things from ladies.

Am sorry if i offended d ladies by generalizing, i only speak frm experience.

I am the only male in my family and I take care of my parents better than my sisters (maybe because I have a better job). Besides, what do you expect? The male would use his resources to take care of his wife and children. Plus he has goals and plans to fulfill as a man whilst the female has no such pressure. Even if she is working, there would always be a man somewhere tending to her needs as such she would have extra cash to take care of her parents whilst another male takes care of her.

In my own case, my sisters are beta than my brother.. There are gud guy but d fact remains dat once a man gets married, story don dey enter be dat o! But d female child 'll always remember home..

achi4u: it all depends on individuals.

Am a man that takes care of my parents but my elder sisters can cook foods with other little gifts on every occasion to our parents making looks as if they're taking (more)care of them than me.

To buttress my point,women always appear to be too generous than men.
"men takes the big task while women settle for the later"

I partially agree with u.but mostly it depends on upbringing,while at time some a naturally generous from birth.
I shuld also tink a woman shuld always try to remind her hubby dat his mum needs some attention by doing d caring herself because evry day activity can make it seem as if he is not caring.
Am a mother of boys,4 now my boys are generous emotionally & otherwise to me,

So far I thnk I agree wt posters dt say a married man has too many responsibilities to handle hence they may nt av much time lookin back for thr parents.

Bt nevertheless, no amount of busy schedules can make me neglect my parents, esp mum, for a second.


She has done far too much for me.

Evn I will personally tel ma wifey never to joke wt ma mum or ma siblins unless she wants to see d oda sides of me.