bookface:
You speak like you are retarded. If you are not in other people's shoes, you probably won't know where it hurts. Imagine if someone deports you, a Nigerian, to Somali with an empty pockets, and without family and friends? You can't imagine how that must feel can you? Because you are probably in your fathers house drinking garri with chin chin? Oshisko!
I don't honestly understand why people think death is the worst thing that can happen to someone--who have lived all his life in institutions and about to be deported into a country he barely knew. With no one back home to fall back on, he'd die quickly on the streets of lagos in the first few months of getting here. To this dude, Nigeria is not home. He's got absolutely nothing to live for.
Perhaps those who are dead are better off than those of us living? how would you know this is not the case since you've never been dead before and cannot tell if it's an exhilarating experience or not

If Nigeria is not home to him how can UK be his home ? When all he is doing to that society is causing trouble. The UK authority should not give in to blackmail even if it involves the mischievous and cowardly act of suicide. We need all those Nigerians here, all of them , the good, the bad and the ugly. They have a role here in building their own country. The parasitism is enough and is never a solution for the development and greatness of the Blackman.

Back to the point I made about some evil Nigerian parents.read this old article.,the names are pseudonyms ,the story true.
A Nigerian couple in Peckham with 4 children sends their last born ,a 4 yr old child to live with a strange white woman in an equally low class area of the UK
She is pregnant for the fifth and plans on sending it off to the same white woman .
Madness.
And we wonder why Nigerian kids in England are into gangs and muggings

Some people call the south London district of Peckham the capital's "little Lagos", a bustling, vibrant razzmatazz of African culture and urban stress. Sarah came to England from Nigeria 15 years ago and now owns a hairdressing salon on Peckham High Street, next door to her husband's mobile phone shop. [size=18pt]They are such a busy couple that they have sent the youngest of their four children, four-year-old Julie, to live in Devon with a private foster mother.[/size]

Margaret, or "mummy number two" as Julie calls her, is a 55-year-old white, single, born-again Christian. She has fostered no fewer than 69 Nigerian children, like Julie, over the past 22 years. Margaret lives in one of the most deprived wards in Britain, an area of Plymouth with high unemployment and rising crime, but it nevertheless compares well to Lagos.

Compared to Peckham, though, Plymouth is about as white as it gets. Ethnic minorities make up only 1.5% of the population of Devon and Cornwall. One recent study suggested the region was the second most racist in England. However, racism is not the issue in this strange story of ambition, tradition and forgotten children.

The west African phenomenon of private fostering dates back to the 50s and 60s. British imperial administrators left Nigeria with a system of government that had few skilled leaders. Many Nigerian men came to Britain to study, better to manage the government and economy on their return home. Their wives soon followed and, like the men, they took advantage of the work and education on offer. With no extended family to turn to, they paid private foster carers in leafy suburbs to take care of their children full-time.

For some, it was a status symbol to have a white nanny in the country. For others, it was a feasible response to a crisis, arising out of problems with housing, employment and childcare. One thing, though,is certain: many west African parents still place a great deal of trust in the ability and motivations of the private foster carers.

[size=18pt]At the end of 1998, the African Advisory Service, now disbanded, estimated there were up to 9,000 west African children in private foster care in this country. Many, like Julie, are pre-school and living in poor white areas. Unlike Julie, huge numbers are not registered with health visitors or GPs and, as such, are invisible to the authorities.
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There are guidelines for private foster carers, including a responsibility to notify social services of impending arrivals and departures. But many of them do not want to disclose that they are earning an income, however small. Over-stretched social services departments rarely have time to ensure the guidelines are followed. Barbara Wick, at Plymouth council's family placements service, says: "We don't know how many are out there. And even if we knew about them, we have limited resources we could devote to helping them."

Wick explains that there are people locally who "sort of broker" the private fostering arrangements. "Someone in London contacts this one person in Plymouth and she finds the families," she says. "Normally we'd do police checks and impose all the other safeguards we'd use for our approved foster carers. But if we don't know where the children are . . . "

Joy Okoye, a barrister and leading expert on the cultural roots that underpin the fostering practice, understands why people like Sarah are happy to relinquish their children, often to virtual strangers. "West African children, unlike their European counterparts, are not seen as possessions of a nuclear family," Okoye says. "In Africa, it takes a village to raise a child - and very often a village miles away from the family home. It is normal, extended family kinship and the children placed away from home accept it as such."

In Africa, however, such children will remain surrounded by the culture of their birth parents and will be raised to observe the same values and customs that they will eventually return home to. In Britain, black families can typically ill afford the burden of an extra child with only sporadic or meagre financial reward. So networks of white foster carers, living in relatively safe environments, appear an ideal solution.

Margaret is paid very little and not very often. With only a small network of friends and family, she is devoted to her job as mummy number two. Her days are filled giving Julie love, attention and a strong sense of pride in her Nigerian identity. She plaits Julie's hair and oils her skin twice a day. She orders stocks of creams and shampoos unavailable in the west country and - if she can afford it - multicultural books, black dolls and birthday cards with black faces on. When she can get to London, she will buy plantain and red chilli peppers.

Professionals concerned about the potential damage caused by transracial placement may see this forced cultural education as too false and fanciful, taking place as it does in an area where there are few west Africans to give it context. There is no doubt that, as Julie grows up, she will want pop and crisps like all the other kids in Plymouth - not pepper soup and plantain.

A Plymouth project called N'Deagainsia, funded by the local health action zone and charity NCH, has been set up to help support children like Julie and their white foster carers. But it is a struggle to gain the carers' trust and problems can emerge in the long term. Okoye, herself a west African, has been involved in pitched battles in court, fighting custody battles for Nigerian children who have spent years in white private foster homes. She urges Nigerian mothers against the practice : her most recent plea having been to a woman studying for a PhD, with limited visa status, a very sick mother and no time to care for her children.

"These mothers not only risk losing their children to another culture, but to another family," Okoye warns. Judges often rule in favour of the child's best interests, but Okoye insists: "The best interests of any child is with the birth family. To the African, the birth family can't be written out of a child's life by legal fiction, especially when based on the evidence of a young person, simply too bewildered to return to their African culture."

Back at her Peckham salon, Sarah says: "Even if I don't take care of Julie, I know she'll be all right. I know she's going to make it." She is now pregnant again, planning to send the newborn to Plymouth as soon as she can.

Sarah, Julie and Margaret are pseudonyms. Joanna Traynor was assistant producer of Invisible Children, a film on fostering of west African children, made by Two Four Productions in conjunction with Carlton Westcountry. Her novel Sister Josephine (Bloomsbury), an account of transracial fostering in north-west England, won the Saga Prize.

When will people understand that suicide, like many things in life, is a choice?

Agbgift: He is an idoit.

Lol. The fear of naija is d begining of wisdom.

Kslib: He is a fool for taking his life.. Why do people like exaggerating stuffs.. Yes,the Nigerian situation is bad,but not bad to the extent of someone taking his life than to be deported back.. Abi no be the Nigeria wey me dey?
People keep saying
boko haram: Boko haram are only in the north and i still have friends in the north who move freely.. How many times does boko haram attack in a month.. I'm in no way justifying the deadly sect,but people keep shouting and making yeye noise as if boko haram attacks 5times in a day...
Kidnappings: yes,there is kidnapping in the east and some south south states,but how many have we witnessed or do witness in lets say "6 months".. I know its bad,but yiu guys make it look as if kidnapping has now become the order of the day..
Well,i guess people like to hype everything.. The Nigerian situation is somewhat bad,but it has not even smelled the stage of comparing it with hell or death.. That guy was already tired of life,and was just looking for an opportuinity to die,so he was presented with one... He said he had no one back home which simply means if he had someone back home he wouldn't have killed himself..
The guys sha,i doubt if he head Nigerian blood in him cos Nigerians are natural survivors,they fight situations no matter how hard it looks,we dont easily give up and I AM PROUD TO BE A NIGERIAN

Oga its obvious u ddnt read the write up. When he comes to naija are u going to feed him, shelter him, cloth him, get him a job? Lemme take away ur job frm u, ur house, ur money, ur relatives and frnds and every thing u have away from u and see if u will be survive a week.

nagoma:

If Nigeria is not home to him how can UK be his home ? When all he is doing to that society is causing trouble. The UK authority should not give in to blackmail even if it involves the okos mischievous and cowardly act of suicide. We need all those Nigerians here, all of them , the good, the bad and the ugly. They have a role here in building their own country. The parasitism is enough and is never a solution for the development and greatness of the Blackman.

We need them here? They have a role to play? Haven't u had enough bokos in Nigerian life?

One_Naira:

How do you know the dude is going to hell?

Anyway, is Nigeria any better. Boko haram up north, Ritualist and robbery SW. Kidnappers SE and SS. Which side is safe?

So the best is to take ur own life ! Why not allow those menace in Naija do that for you ?
May God help us

redsun:

He is Not going to hell,he is dead and at peace. While you remain in turmoil in the living hell that he avoided.

Why u never join am

onye ego: Its a SHAME that a child of 7,with a bright future was taken to d UK, instead for the d UK to groom him to become useful to society.

The Uk turned him to a Junkie,they made him a criminal, The Uk destroyed Balogun.

The UK has failed.

Nigeria, passed!

cigar icon:
Oga its obvious u ddnt read the write up. When he comes to naija are u going to feed him, shelter him, cloth him, get him a job? Lemme take away ur job frm u, ur house, ur money, ur relatives and frnds and every thing u have away from u and see if u will be survive a week.

Still i will not take my own life ! The devil tricked him and he fell for the tricks of the devil.
God help us

cigar icon:
Oga its obvious u ddnt read the write up. When he comes to naija are u going to feed him, shelter him, cloth him, get him a job? Lemme take away ur job frm u, ur house, ur money, ur relatives and frnds and every thing u have away from u and see if u will be survive a week.

Don't you just hate it when people only read the title of a thread and start commenting?

onye ego: Its a SHAME that a child of 7,with a bright future was taken to d UK, instead for the d UK to groom him to become useful to society.

The Uk turned him to a Junkie,they made him a criminal, The Uk destroyed Balogun.

The UK has failed.

Can you be quiet
Who is the UK?
Is there a nursing mother called the UK that should cater for products of irresponsible Nigerian parents
Why can't we blame ourselves where we err
It is now UK's fault
The blood of this kid is not just on his parents head but on the head of every useless leader that made Nigeria the hell it is today
That is why his parents would abandon him for a better life in the UK in the first place
May his soul RIP
He was given no chance at survival by the accident of his birth

onye ego: Its a SHAME that a child of 7,with a bright future was taken to d UK, instead for the d UK to groom him to become useful to society.

The Uk turned him to a Junkie,they made him a criminal, The Uk destroyed Balogun.

The UK has failed.

Bring him to your country and see what they'l turn him into b4 he becomes a teenager. In the north he'd b: almajiri or a 2nd lieutenant in BH forces... In the south ; either cultist, kidnapper or ritualist...better still agbero, perhaps!

bookface:


You speak like you are retarded. If you are not in other people's shoes, you probably won't know where it hurts. Imagine if someone deports you, a Nigerian, to Somali with an empty pockets, and without family and friends? You can't imagine how that must feel can you? Because you are probably in your fathers house drinking garri with chin chin? Oshisko!


I don't honestly understand why people think death is the worst thing that can happen to someone--who have lived all his life in institutions and about to be deported into a country he barely knew. With no one back home to fall back on, he'd die quickly on the streets of lagos in the first few months of getting here. To this dude, Nigeria is not home. He's got absolutely nothing to live for.

Perhaps those who are dead are better off than those of us living? how would you know this is not the case since you've never been dead before and cannot tell if it's an exhilarating experience or not

What u haven't given thought to is that: u know what life is, howbeit easy or hard. But you do not know what death is. U have never been there. U have never experienced it. U r only assuming u know what it is. U think it's an empty darkness where u can't think, feel or be.

In btw, I feel for the guy.

cogitoErgo: dat name suppose be Balogun!

c dis one, someone died and someone is more concerned about name spelling. naija! where are you taking us to

bookface:

Can you tell me in plain words why Living a difficult life is more pleasurable than being dead and at peace with yourself? To the society, this outcome is far superior than getting into crime.

He took his OWN life. No one gives a damn about him when he was alive, no one will be hurt by his absence, no one will miss him.

The dude has a really sad life, no families, no friends, no future, no home. His life was about to be made much more difficult by getting deported to a country he barely knew. He's expected to toil and boil in the streets of Lagos and to fend for himself in a place where even the toughest breeds crack under pressure. To him, this is not an acceptable choice, perhaps dieing is a lot easier? What difference would it make if he got hit by a car or stabbed by a random junkie? or burnt at stake by an angry Nigerian mob?

bro there is always hope for the living. If you can simply tell ur self the real truth many has past throgh diffult situation in life like our brother balogun still they are happy to share thire tesmonies today. So u encouraging suiccide is another demonic inspiration which must be checked.
My quesion for you is this,
do u know if balogun is @ peace where he is now ?

Yazmin:

Bring him to your country and see what they'l turn him into b4 he becomes a teenager. In the north he'd b: almajiri or a 2nd lieutenant in BH forces... In the south ; either cultist, kidnapper or ritualist...better still agbero, perhaps!

The population of Nigeria is about 160m, are u saying that all Nigerians in Nigeria are criminals and never do wells?
Noo! Its you guys who run to Europe thinking that you can harvest money from trees over there that is giving Nigeria a bad name.

What have you and your likes done to better Nigeria? Rather you import the White man's poo to force it down our throat.

Civilization and progress should be based on our culture! And not using Europe and America as templates.

This is extemely wicked of the UK authorities. He's been in the country sice he was a 7 year old child. That ought to qualify him for some sort of residency.

The young lad has lived in the UK since he was 7, the UK is the only home he knows. What a waste of a life!

Baby mama:

Can you be quiet
Who is the UK?
Is there a nursing mother called the UK that should cater for products of irresponsible Nigerian parents
Why can't we blame ourselves where we err
It is now UK's fault
The blood of this kid is not just on his parents head but on the head of every useless leader that made Nigeria the hell it is today
That is why his parents would abandon him for a better life in the UK in the first place
May his soul RIP
He was given no chance at survival by the accident of his birth

For God seek, There are UK citizens in Nigeria! We spend money and blood to give them comfort here.
If a prisoner is under ur custody, its your responsibility to ensure that he is safe and sound, its ur duty to ensure that he will not kill himself.

How r u sure that This young man was not murdered in cold blood?

I insist, The UK failed, They killed Balogun.

slyfoxxjoe: This is extemely wicked of the UK authorities. He's been in the country sice he was a 7 year old child. That ought to qualify him for some sort of residency.

Yeah, I thought so too. This guy spent 14 good years in the UK. That should be enough to get him a permanent residence. I guess there are some details missing in this story.

CGKing:

What u haven't given thought to is that: u know what life is, howbeit easy or hard. But you do not know what death is. U have never been there. U have never experienced it. U r only assuming u know what it is. U think it's an empty darkness where u can't think, feel or be.

In btw, I feel for the guy.

Yeah, you are definitely right, it's impossible to say what death must be like. But then, life is not programmed to continue forever, death is an obligation everyone must fulfill at some point. This dude realized there is no point living another 40 years or something in a very difficult life only to eventually fulfill the inevitable obligation at the end of the day. The options were clear: Either die today, or live a very difficult life and die some time in the future, he chose to die today. Maybe death offers a fresh start, a peaceful state, or a much difficult environment, who knows? It is for him to find out. One thing that is pretty obvious however, is that he wouldn't be living his difficult life without anyone to care for or cry to anymore.

bookface:

Yeah, you are definitely right, it's impossible to say what death must be like. But then, life is not programmed to continue forever, death is an obligation everyone must fulfill at some point. This dude realized there is no point living another 40 years or something in a very difficult life only to eventually fulfill the inevitable obligation at the end of the day. The options were clear: Either die today, or live a very difficult life and die some time in the future, he chose to die today. Maybe death offers a fresh start, a peaceful state, or a much difficult environment, who knows? It is for him to find out. One thing that is pretty obvious however, is that he wouldn't be living his difficult life without anyone to care for or cry to anymore.

You do really have a point though most Nigerians will look at it from the moral point of view.

I do believe that life could get to a point where there is absolutely nothing to live for. When you look at your present situation and it's very clear that tomorrow brings no hope and your story would always be trying to make the best of bad situation and you present situation is totally bad and getting worse, in that instant it will take a lot of will power and very nice people for one to overcome especially young people.

Rat smells

I really can't understand why Nigerians keep flocking abroad to become modern slaves and servants.

For me no country is better than home. Going for holidays is ok. There's just no need to go and debase myself in another's land trying to make a living.

They suppose Kill am again if possible. Mtcheeeew!!

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Baby mama:

Above is a random study,an eye opener
Shameful how Nigerian parents would willingly give up their flesh and blood to oyibo foster parents.
That is why these kids are committing crime and killing themselves
Victoria Ositeku that organized a hit last year is another example
Imagine giving up your children to care and opting to visit them all in the name of wanting oyibo to raise your kids
Some parents leave the UK and return to Nigeria and these kids are lost forever.
This practice started back in the 50s and 60s and so many of these so called Nigerians you hear of in the UK with this history are just Nigerians by name
No identity
Poor self esteem and no pride in their identity
Feeling of abandonment and nothing to leave for
Cut off from their lineage
All because of some stupid parents with colonial mentality
That is why this young man killed himself
Truth be told

. Hard truth, bro

Truckpusher: You do really have a point though most Nigerians will look at it from the moral point of view.

I do believe that life could get to a point where there is absolutely nothing to live for. When you look at your present situation and it's very clear that tomorrow brings no hope and your story would always be trying to make the best of bad situation and you present situation is totally bad and getting worse, in that instant it will take a lot of will power and very nice people for one to overcome especially young people.

I expected people will likely and blindly judge from a moral perspective. Ironically, these moral preachers wouldn't probably allow the dude to live in their garage for free if he had chosen to stay on and fight.

I am personally of the view that someone with a family who loves him/her deeply should never contemplate taking his own life if facing extremely difficult circumstances, as he/she wouldn't be the one to feel the pain but those he'd be leaving behind whose lives are likely to change forever from missing him/her sorely.

But this dude has absolutely no one. No one to offer him a shoulder, no one who feels for him, no one gives a shyt about him, he's lived all his life alone in institutions, probably for the wrong reasons or just because of depression, he has struggled to live his life and the UK was about to make that much more difficult by shipping him off to a country where his problems are guaranteed to be multiplied by 10. And yet, the moral preachers expect him to stay alive and fight, for what i ask? why is life a better choice than death?

Yeye boy, I am 40 without a dime still I have nothing yet I Ðidnt kill my self because I value life

bookface:

I expected people will likely and blindly judge from a moral perspective. Ironically, these moral preachers wouldn't probably allow the dude to live in their garage for free if he had chosen to stay on and fight.

I am personally of the view that someone with a family who loves him/her deeply should never contemplate taking his own life if facing extremely difficult circumstances, as he/she wouldn't be the one to feel the pain but those he'd be leaving behind whose lives are likely to change forever from missing him/her sorely.

But this dude has absolutely no one. No one to offer him a shoulder, no one who feels for him, no one gives a shyt about him, he's lived all his life alone in institutions, probably for the wrong reasons or just because of depression, he has struggled to live his life and the UK was about to make that much more difficult by shipping him off to a country where his problems are guaranteed to be multiplied by 10. And yet, the moral preachers expect him to stay alive and fight, for what i ask? why is life a better choice than death?

many abokis,almajiris,nigeriens don't have these and survive,guy stop defending dat boy,he should havetaken a cue from dose guys