I have a female friend who
is quite close to me. She
got everything a man would
want in a woman but
unfortunately I dont have
feelings for her. She is godly, matured,
hardworking, educated and
quite successful. She has
been doing her best to
take the relationship to a
whole new level. She calls me everyday and generally
show lots of care and
concern. I know she want
us to settle down as soon
as possible. Should I marry
her, it sure I will have a mistress outside. I have
done a deep soul search
but the feelings are just
not there. I have another girl
who is
not as successful as this other lady but I am in love
with her. I want to make
my relationship with her
official. But my problem now is
how do I let the first
lady know without hurting her? How do I make her
understand that I do not
have feelings for her
without affecting her self
esteem? My people please
help me before I hurt someone. Matured advice
especially from Christian
folks. Thank you

Sincerely I do not why u tagged this as a problem. Even you know the right thing but it seems that u ve been leading the first lady on.
its better u let her know that things cant work between u. Wats the point in getting married to someone when u are sure that ur heart is not there.
talk to the second lady about ur feelings for her (abi u dey fear) and after that u can take it from there but do not marry someone u feel nothing for.

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