@op, when we let our passions rule us, we become its slave. Now that you have repented, don't make the same mistake again

obadiah777: YOU ARE NOT PLANNING TO AMBUSH ME IN HARLEM AND BEAT ME TO A PULP FOR OUR NUMEROUS E-BEEF ARE YOU ?

About time someone did

From_Guiriga: Well, I will give my opinion on this:

I think you should let your "friend" know.
I mean, his wife is loose and you know it. It is your responsibility to let him know his wife is loose.

Trust me, once you stop messing with her, she will just find someone else to fool around with. Don't think you are special.You are not.

Resolution: Let your friend know and it will be up to him whether they want to save their marriage by going to counseling and all the other stuff. I mean, they do have four children.

It will be up to him if he wants to keep you as a friend also. It will hurt your friend, but he is the one that needs to make an informed decision, and you have part of that information you feel me.

The lesson: Don't spend time alone with a woman that is not your wife!!!

Good luck bro.

The way we view woman is wrong...

A man and a woman together performed an act,then you ask the man to sit on a 'moral high horse' and declare the woman is loose.

How about that they are both loose? Or you shouldn't judge the woman?

Those that live is glass houses don't throw stones

Some wise council on this forum - the maturity and purposefullness have been quite revealing, and I appreciate the candid contributions - even those that I may be fundamentally at odds with what I have come to understand as Gods message. I have accepted too, that it's not in my place to confess to her husband, as though this may suggest a moral highpoint, like a commenter previously suggested, the purpose here is not to mount a moral high horse with the resultant breakup of a home. I doubt this is Gods message. In her time, she can confess if she deems it fit, for my main focus now is restitution with God, which I do not deem as necessarily premised on man's foregiveness.

My key takeaways are as follows -

Do not try to cover up sin; Repent and seek God’s forgiveness (II Samuel 11:6-13).

David tried to cover his sinful behavior by bringing Bathsheba’s husband back from the battlefield. David hoped that Bathsheba and her husband would sleep together and everyone would believe it was this marital union that resulted in Bathsheba’s pregnancy. However, Bathsheba’s husband refuse to lay with his wife while the other men remained on the battlefield without him. It seems that Bathsheba’s husband had more morals than King David did in some matters.

Although David could have confessed and repented at this point, he decided to try another cover up. He had Bathsheba’s husband sent back into battle, placed on the front lines, and then abandoned to face death at the hands of the enemy. King David had Bathsheba’s husband murdered in the hope of covering his own sinful behavior. An important lesson to be learned from this is that one sin leads to another, oftentimes worse, sin if the sinner does not confess to God and repent of the sinful conduct (Romans 6:19).


God Will Even Forgive Adultery.

Second Samuel 12:1-15 tells us that Nathan, David’s beloved friend, confronted David with his sin. The mighty Kind David’s heart was broken when he realized how he had sinned against God and grieved God’s heart. David repented, asked for God’s forgiveness, and was forgiven.

Today, God offers that same forgiveness. When one comes to faith in Jesus Christ, by confessing and repenting of his or her sin, God is faithful to remove the guilt, shame, and future penalty that sin carried with it. By committing one’s life to Christ, a person becomes a new creation (II Corinthians 5:17), no longer helpless to resist temptation, but empowered by the indwelling Holy Spirit.

This forgiveness is reiterated in the New Testament by Paul, writing to the Corinthians. Recall the verses mentioned earlier in I Corinthians listing some of the sins that will prevent one from entering the kingdom of God. Paul did not leave the Corinthian Christians without hope. The next verse says, “And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God” (I Corinthians 6:11).

Whether the sin is adultery or something else, Jesus Christ has paid the price for our forgiveness by His death, burial, and resurrection. No one has sinned too much or too long to be forgiven. The offer of salvation is for everyone (John 3:16) who is willing to confess and repent of his or her sins and turn their lives over to the Almighty Creator, Sustainer, and Savior of the world.

Culled from - http://www.whatchristianswanttoknow.com/what-does-the-bible-say-about-adultery-five-important-lessons/

@ op what abouyt the consequences of adultery..agreed God forgives..but go through the life of david and how he suffered from absalom his firstborn..don't you think it was as a result of the sins he commited in times past..it is far better not to indulge in sin in the first instance. Disobedience is rather costly if u ask me.

obadiah777: YOU DONT SEEM TO UNDERSTAND THAT VERSE. THE LORD WOULD NOT HOLD ANY SIN AGAINST YOU. THE ONLY SIN THAT WOULD BE HELD AGAINST YOU IS IF YOU BLASPHEME THE HOLY SPIRIT ( MEANING IF YOU REJECT GOD ). SO IF YOU REJECT GOD, THERE IS NO HOPE FOR YOU AT ALL. HOWEVER IF YOU ACCEPT GOD BUT SIN. YOU WILL PAY FOR YOUR SIN AND AFTER THAT IT WOULD BE FORGIVEN. AFTER YOU PAY FOR YOUR SIN YOU WILL COME BACK INTO THE FOLD. HOWEVER WITH BLASPHEMY YOU WILL NOT COME BACK INTO THE FOLD

You mean their are some sins the blood of Jesus can not clean? That running to the cross has some limitations?

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Why seek for forgiveness when you will end up paying for the crime? Even militial amnesty comes with total forgiveness and some good incentives, and that means humans know how to forgive better than God.

Guy, make you park well abeg.

It doesn't matter how much u pray,it must surely come back to u sooner or later..

oiseworld:

You mean their are some sins the blood of Jesus can not clean? That running to the cross has some limitations?

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Why seek for forgiveness when you will end up paying for the crime? Even militial amnesty comes with total forgiveness and some good incentives, and that means humans know how to forgive better than God.

Guy, make you park well abeg.

lmao. you have it all wrong bros. the blood of Jesus has nothing to do with you. forgiveness of sins for the elect was a means to an end.the end was to unify the whole world ( both jew and gentile ) under the law. the elect had to do this work but the lord dont work with sinners. so he pardoned ( grace ) their sinsby having jesus wipe their sins away. the ultimate purpose was unification of the world under the law ( john 11 vs 52 ). the new testament is not directed at you. its letters between the elect, and forgiveness of sin is not what you think it is. forgiveness of sin has nothing to do with not paying for your sin. forgiveness of sin means the sin would not be held against you after you have paid for it. for example. you have a son. he rides your car behind your back and totals it. you are angry. you would punish him seriously. after punishing him then you would forgive him and be loving to him again. the alternative would be you will punish him and then disown him. God does not do that. he punishes you and then forgives you. gerrit ? forgiving has nothing to do with noT paying for your sins. YOU WILL PAY FOR YOUR SINS. SORRY TO BE THE BEARER OF BAD NEWS.

only time laws would be abolished is in the kingdom when the corruptible has inherited incorruption.

So using your analogy, if a son totals his father's car, and quickly comes to him in restitution and repentance - is it not possible, that there may not be punishment at all? As a father myself, this will be the most likely course of action I will take.

While I find your dire interpretation of the Bible intriguing, it's way out of step and highly unlikely. For if sin is not graded, and if the wages of sin is death regardless of repentance and restitution - then I suppose imminent physical death awaits us all - including you?

From_Guiriga:

Ha ha ha, that's funny!!!
But yo' what is that was your wife?
Would you not want to know?

My bro, If I knew, that would be the end of the relationship. I cant bear to face her again. A marriage is formed upon trust. I do not run a charity where anyone can come into my house and do as they please with my wife and family.

well If i did not know, then its not my fault is it? the marriage would continue. sometime not knowing the truth is the best.

chukkynwob:

The way we view woman is wrong...

A man and a woman together performed an act,then you ask the man to sit on a 'moral high horse' and declare the woman is loose.

How about that they are both loose? Or you shouldn't judge the woman?

Those that live is glass houses don't throw stones

I agree with you. Both made a in my opinion a transgression against their marital obligation...
But I agree with you. The man is a fault as well because it takes two to tango. BUT The woman reserves the right to say NO and inform her husband that his friend try to come on to her.
Or maybe she came on to him. Admittedly by the poster, it was him who repeatedly stopped it from moving forward.
Don't get me wrong. I think the friend who did this is also wrong, but the third party will not know his wife is ...you know... And his friend is a ...you know... Unless someone comes forward.

My concern is about the husband who is in the dark here.

PAGAN 9JA:


My bro, If I knew, that would be the end of the relationship. I cant bear to face her again. A marriage is formed upon trust. I do not run a charity where anyone can come into my house and do as they please with my wife and family.

well If i did not know, then its not my fault is it? the marriage would continue. sometime not knowing the truth[color=#000099][/color] is the best.

No, I feel you man. Trust me, it's happened to me. I did some detective work and found out.
There is always that "feeling" when you know something it's just not right but you can't put your finger on it.
Your right thou, if you dig in too deep you might uncover things you don't want to find out. But Yo' on the real man. I rather know. Ha ha ha ha...

Give thanks.

obadiah777: NO ADVICE FOR A SITUATION LIKE THIS BRUV. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS JUST WAIT FOR THE WRATH OF GOD. READ GALATIANS 6 VS 7 AND COLOSIANS 3 VS 25 AND MORE IMPORTANTLY LEVITICUS 20 VS 10 'If a man commits adultery with another man's wife--with the wife of his neighbor--both the adulterer and the adulteress must be put to death. THE LORD GOING TO PUT YOU TO DEATH BRUV. JUST WAIT FOR IT. IT WILL NOT TARRY. IT WILL COME

On a more serious note, why do christians shy away from scriptures like Heb 10:26, 27, 'that there's no forgiveness for deliberate sin, but a fearful prospect of judgment' . I don't believe the consequences must be death but you gotta reap from your toil of labor. Pray your friend does not put a bullet in your brain because that can be the damn seed you'll reap!

You were intimate with your friends wife!!! .Clap for yourself.kpa kpa kpakpakpa kpaaaaaaaaaaaa.

From_Guiriga:

No, I feel you man. Trust me, it's happened to me. I did some detective work and found out.
There is always that "feeling" when you know something it's just not right but you can't put your finger on it.
Your right thou, if you dig in too deep you might uncover things you don't want to find out. But Yo' on the real man. I rather know. Ha ha ha ha...

Give thanks.

wow hmm .. . ..i see.