coefoe: Hi, my fiance works with one of the reputable commercial banks here in Nigeria. He was employed to entry level in 2010 and got promotion to the next level last year. The problem now is that he's alwalys complaining about not enjoying the job. During weekdays, he's usually very cranky and gets annoyed easily when we talk on phone. When i'm at his place, he goes to bed early and when he wakes up the next morning to dress for work, he looks sad and hisses continuously.
Since I no longer enjoy his company as my partner and his behaviour is beginning to strain our relationship, i had to sit him down to talk to him. I asked him what he thinks we can do that will make him enjoy his job? He said he doesn't know what to do; since it's not like he can easily get a new job.
He then called me yesterday and told me he wants us to migrate to the US to start a new life. He has been to the US once and he has one or two family members there. But my fear is that, do you think there is life for us in another man's land? We are getting married soon and i've never had the thought of settling down outside the country. Do you think resigning and travelling to the US will solve my fiance's problem? Can he get a satisfying job over there? He's got only B.sc and ICAN. Can we raise a happy home over there as foreigners? These are my concerns. Pls i need sincere responses. Your advice will go a long way. Thanks.

~vicky~:
am not saying that settling down in the US is bad,if your man didn't not succeed while in 9ja, sorry to say this he wont do the same in the US.

omega25red: This migration that he is interested in, how will it happen? does he have a green card? or work permit? what type of visa are you both going to try to get?
These are some questions to ask yourself.

Also, you should probably read up on the travel section because there are lots of people like you who are contemplating migration and they have no idea as to what they are getting into.

If i may ask what exactly does he hate about the job? is it that he is working too hard and feeling under appreciated? or does he feel like he is not earning what he is worth? or does he want to move out of the country because his brother or someone in the states are showing off money which makes him feel like he is wasting time

~vicky~:
am not saying that settling down in the US is bad,if your man didn't not succeed while in 9ja, sorry to say this he wont do the same in the US.

Gloriagee:
@ OP - this is a decision only ur BF can make. If he stays back in Nig, he may be miserable n blame u for his choices. Not sure why some ppl think going abroad solves all ur probs. He's definitely miserable in dt job but there r no guarantees he'll be happier abroad. Not sure his degree n ICAN may get him a job there. Know some ex bank mgr in Nig that had to go the nursing route in the US. Others do menial jobs. I'd say make informed choices n PRAY. It's only God that knows the ending from the beginning.

coefoe: Hi, my fiance works with one of the reputable commercial banks here in Nigeria. He was employed to entry level in 2010 and got promotion to the next level last year. The problem now is that he's alwalys complaining about not enjoying the job. During weekdays, he's usually very cranky and gets annoyed easily when we talk on phone. When i'm at his place, he goes to bed early and when he wakes up the next morning to dress for work, he looks sad and hisses continuously.
Since I no longer enjoy his company as my partner and his behaviour is beginning to strain our relationship, i had to sit him down to talk to him. I asked him what he thinks we can do that will make him enjoy his job? He said he doesn't know what to do; since it's not like he can easily get a new job.
He then called me yesterday and told me he wants us to migrate to the US to start a new life. He has been to the US once and he has one or two family members there. But my fear is that, do you think there is life for us in another man's land? We are getting married soon and i've never had the thought of settling down outside the country. Do you think resigning and travelling to the US will solve my fiance's problem? Can he get a satisfying job over there? He's got only B.sc and ICAN. Can we raise a happy home over there as foreigners? These are my concerns. Pls i need sincere responses. Your advice will go a long way. Thanks.

coefoe: And where exactly in my post did you see "unsuccessful"?

and where did u see that word too in my post?

ednut1: abeg run from dis guy jare, after una go US, he get CFA but d company refuse to promote him cos hes a 9ja black, nd technicians are being promoted, den his depression will start again, d dudes weak jare, how will he handle other life challenges, just sayin

2buff:

Why do primary 6 students feel the need to comment on mature things?
Any small thing "run from the guy!", "kick her out!", blah blah blah.
If you check yourself, with a true eye, you are no better than these men or women you seem to enjoy condemning to loneliness, so by proxy you are one of the people who should be "ran away from".

If people thought like you, no union between man and woman could ever work.
Get off your computer and actually go have some life experience.

coefoe: To those viewing, pls keep the advice coming. May be you have a relative who was in this shoe (resigned from a 'well paying' job) and left Nigeria for the US. Did he/she later regret the action?

coefoe:
No! He says the pressure is too much... His team have to always meet up some ridiculous targets. He also complains about not having time for himself... The whole thing boils down to the situation of the country. If there were enough jobs, at least he wouldn't have to feel stuck to this one... I just want him to be happy

Mamacita007: yes he can migrate to another country. it depends on wat hes coming here to do or two of you should go for your masters so dat u can get better jobs here or in naija. Keep encouraging him not to give up because bank work can be very stressful.