2Legit:
yes o. i cant handle it
why shd i want to handle having children out of wedlock? you r right i cant handle children out of wedlock. take your immoral handling of papaless chidlren away from my sight now b4 i count 3

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2Legit:
why she born for man dat doesn't want child?

guruofsat:
Disadvantages of marrying Someone who have a Baby
Tip

The case to face
1.You are not the first on her heart
2.You Might face a lot of challenges in futures

Tip 1

Ask the woman that she should point one out of you between The BABY and YOU and Her Mother and Her Father, who she love most? and she should step how the love great in his heart,ask her to swear and to be honest

Samples of what will be the result
1.She will select The kid
2.fellow by her The mother
3.She will pick you ask number 3 sometime she might pick you for number 2
4.The father or You can even be Number 4

If the Baby recognize his blood father that is another Disadvantage!because if the blood father came to visit ,the house mood will change with the kid

No matter what you gave to the kid if the kid see his father he or she will prefer to be with his father than you at that moment,

And if the baby is more than 3 year is i advise you,you think twice b4 you fall in a infatuation you call a true LOVE

i want to tell you,anytime the woman look at the ex man kid he will always think of him for Good or Bad,which divert you woman attention at that moment

and if the baby notice you are not the biological father,and you are try to punish he or she for mistake he or she might look at you like a Stupid man,and her heart will full of jealous,

Tip 2

After you have labour the woman ex man kid.the man might come in future and request for the child only if the child didnt not have a brighter future he will not bored



Solution 1

Only if the baby accept you as the father from the bottom of his heart,or they never tell he or she that you are not is biological father

Solution 2

There is a court paper to guide you that you are the owner of the kid


All my friend we have to be honest Blood is ticker than Water

anyway True love is blind,only if you are blind you are ready to face alot of stupids thing in futures

And remember getting marrying you are not the only one getting marrying the Both family must agree to be one too if you want to have happy family

if you accept the lady and you parent refuse

, you can post your idea




Please forgive me that I couldn't finish tip 1

But this so silly to ask her to choose between a child she birthed(like after the 9 months of discomfort,and delivery pains) and you.... Vert silly thing to do....it's like telling a man, don't hang out with the boys to watch football anymore...

And also very silly because she will still go through that process of 9 months discomfort and deliver pains for him too, to give him their own kids.

ravenesque:
2Legit, you made some very valid points. I was born and brought up in London (I'm still Nigerian either way) and I know for a fact that the large majority of single mothers that I know (Nija or otherwise) got pregnant because it would be easier to secure accommodation/benefits and funds and general sympathy. In some cases people got pregnant for the sake of holding on to their boyfriends or simply because they thought having a baby was cute.

Some of them were even in competition with friends etc: 'this person has two, I need two also.

I remember an uncle telling my cousin that she was actually becoming an old cargo so it would be better for her to forget about marriage and at least find a guy and get pregnant so that no one would think that she was a witch or worse, a barren witch. I know that there are people who gave birth because they procrastinated over the issue for so long/didn't realise that they were pregnant until it was too late and had the child for that reason only and not because they wouldnt have dearly loved to have an abortion, (nothing to do with being brave, resillient and responsible at all).

Whether anybody is comfortable with the facts or not is irrelevant, simply put, not all single mothers are responsible, nurturing, kind and lovely people. They are simply people like any other who happen to have given birth without the full participation of the other concerned party. Some are very good people and parents, some are ok and some are quite rubbish.

Further more having a baby does not mean that your womb is intact or that you are fertile. What it means is that your womb 'was' intact and you 'were' fertile prior to having your baby. Having a baby is not a straight forward procedure and many complications can arise during and after the event. Having a child already is not a guarantee of anything.
There are people who manage to have one child and no more.


Being single and childless could be due to the fact that you are careful and protect yourself well at all times (not just when you feel like it) and not that you are a risky area.


It has been clearly stated in the posts of others, however incase clarification is needed: Widows and victims of rape are in no way connected to this subject matter.

Peace.

JustGood:
Plenty women for Nairaland don commit in the past and e be like say many of dem don get pikin wey papa no gree take. dat's why dem dey say e good to marry woman wey born pikin b4
make young guys shine dem eyes make dem no go fall for deception of the woman wey don born for anoda man b4 o. Dat one na d 1st comma for ur marriage because the pikin no be ya own and e no go easy to dey train anoda man pikin.

If the woman na betta woman, d papa of the first pikin for still dey with am

Spermdrops:
@Poster

Was it not a man like you that impregnated her?  If most men have not assisted in committing abortions left, right and center. . .most would have had kids too!

So how many have you killed or how many do you have that you do not know about?  Surely, someone will marry you with all the sins you have committed too.

2Rich4U:
There is nothing wrong in marrying a woman with a child. It tells you something about her that she faced up to her responsibilities and not shy away from them. Alot of girls will rather get an abortion than raise a child by themselves thereby some end up having abortions multiple times.

Do you think they will tell you they have had abortion before, probably not, so if you love the woman with a child go ahead and marry her.

At bolded, indeed.



- Obviously they will DENY, MURDER IS MURDER IN THE WORLD OR IN THE WOMB.

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Esss:
@ topic

Women with kids?? No go area. Except she's gonna ship the kid off to his/her daddy when we get married.

Step-kids are total A-holes to their step parents. Disciplining those kids is not even in the equation, they are insolent, you are always seen as wicked, Nothing you do is ever right, anything you say to them is an insult, any nice thing you do is trying to buy their love, you are always seen as the replacement fellow who is doing their original parent, they hardly ever accept you, they go out of their way to make your life hell and the worst part is you are not allowed to kill them.

I'd rather marry a woman with a pet than a woman with a child. No offense to step kids or kids from broken homes.