Macelliot:
I don't think it's necessary.
Afterall, you are an opposite sex.
I don't think an opposite sex can give me a good & geniuned advice.

Macelliot: I am 18yrs, depressed about my sex life.
I usually have unwanted erection with strong sexual urges always, which makes me to masturbate.
I hate myself whenever I masturbates. I feels tired, weak, anxious, confused, whenever I encounter the same ugly situation.
I felt hatred for sex. I don't even what to have sexual urges for now. I can't control myself.
I began an online search and I found out that some Antidepressant drugs sides' effect decreases libido.
I think that would be better, but what type of Antidepressant drug will I use?
Apart from antidepressant drugs, please, what will I do to eradicate this problem?
Thanks.

HumbledbYGrace: I went to them lastweek and they gave me painblock, stressing that we as people like giving ourself diseases we don't have, without my psychiatrist diagnose their hands are tied. I have to wait for another week for my clinic card from home for them to give me meds. Can't find the misplaced meds.

alutacontinua:

Oops! You don't even av an iota of belief in me, well, der's no point trying then-apparently, you think I got nothing to say.


However, dude, next time, don't write people off like that-that's a very 'uncool' post you got up there!
Lots of females can help your situation, in lots of ways! I ain't gonna boyher again, anywayz!

Cheers!

Phder: I hope people won't turn this thread into a pity party.

As an individual suffering from BPD I've had really great moments during several hypomania episodes. During those episodes, I count my condition as a blessing.

No pity party please. It doesn't help.

Following you on twitter. @HumbledByGrace.

haibe:

Your advice is totally on point except that he should avoid girls completely for 4 months, that's practically impossible. He should rather see those girls as sisters by changing his mindset. . Even if he decides to avoid seeing girls, it doesn't guarantee that mast.urbation will stop, there are other factors that can forster this.

DeLamb:
There is nothing wrong with you. you do not need any drug. Most people at your age experience such sexual urge, its just a normal natural physiology. Don't feel guilty about that, if self servicing helps to calm the urge, then its ok. but moderation is the key.

DeLamb:
There is nothing wrong with you. you do not need any drug. Most people at your age experience such sexual urge, its just a normal natural physiology. Don't feel guilty about that, if self servicing helps to calm the urge, then its ok. but moderation is the key.

bettermike: Yo girlie, take it easy now. I dont think he said anything offensive. You can never advise a man on this kinda issue since you are female and know little how it affects men. Let me give you a simple example. Women secrete very much less liquid during sex, very unlike your male counterparts. More liquid = more important nutrients lost. When one repeats the act frequently (more than once a month), in no time will it lead to a very serious deficiency which is a clear reason for Macelot's persistent tiredness and other symptoms he is presently experiencing. Point is, the effects of selfservicing or frequent sex differs significantly in males and females. There are so many other things involved that i wont be able to expose ritenow. By the way, MACELOT, please also do try to delete these following words completely from your vocabs: fvck, mojo and sex. Plus try to stop singing along to any song that has a sexy undertone to it (be it wizkid or rihanna or anyother). Believe me, our body has a way of acting out things we say. If you succesfully restrain your self while you're awake, your body wil stil have its way while you're asleep. Am talking about wet dreams which will be eventually taking one back to square one. Take heed bro. I wish you the very best.

bettermike: Lets be honest with ourselves bro, do you actually think it will be possible to see those potential hot bedmates as sisters? (considering his age). Will it be possible to hang around them and not stare at the pointers? Infact, if you ask me, i'd advice him to join the catholic priesthood till his hormones balance out again. Avoiding girls (only) is not a guarantee. However, with WILLINGNESS, quiting the habit is definitely guaranteed. There will be relapses once in a while but his strong will to quit will pull him through.

neneslim: Our job as iumans is to hold on to the thoughts of wat we want, make it absolutely clear in our minds what we want, and frm that we start to invoke one of the greatest laws in the universe, and thats the law of attraction. U become what u tink abt most, but u also attract what u tink abt most.
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haibe:

common you don't expect someone at this age not to come in contact or be in relation with girls, we aren't in the 19th century. .. In class you may just have to relate with girls unless somethings may go wrong if your lecturer is type that give joint group assignments.

Now the problem with maturationn is mainly lust and lust can be fostered through different means, you don't have to be with girls always to generate lust, words alone by peers can cause lust, even if he decides to be a Catholic father and to avoid girls for 10years, it doesn't still guarantee the stop to mast.urbation. The main way to stop this mast.urbation is to just give respect to this ladies like yoi would to someone you cherish, you cannot avoid girls for 4 months, that is one of the unrealistic thing I have heard in a while, you get in contact with the opposite gender through different means and so the best option for him is to get used to their presence.

Am sure people that don't masturbate still have relationship with ladies, its possible since they must have trained themselve into doing this without fostering any lustly affection.

so bro a more realistic advice will be to have a clean relationship with ladies by letting your thoughts and desire dwell on clean and godly things, this is the only possible way. Staying away from ladies is just too unrealistic, it may even make him an hypocrite in the long run after finding out it doesn't solve the problem.

HumbledbYGrace: just saw it, I deleted my twitter a week ago, I always remove it once in a while for no reason @ all. Will get it back and halla back, thanks.

@ all, I guess we could have a group or something outside nl Just a suggestion. Where we could talk, no pity parties allowed?

HumbledbYGrace: just saw it, I deleted my twitter a week ago, I always remove it once in a while for no reason @ all. Will get it back and halla back, thanks.

@ all, I guess we could have a group or something outside nl Just a suggestion. Where we could talk, no pity parties allowed?

Big.game:
Mehn all this talk about depression is really saddening. I haven't really been subjected any form of depression but i do get how it feels, i have a male and female friend who suffers from this illness, and yesterday the girl said something on facebook about wanting to die, i was really shocked to read such, i felt sympathy for her, i have given her some advices to stay strong but am not sure she is compliant, i really don't want to lose a good friend, what should i do?

bettermike: Honestly, you've raised good points. However, i believe you misinterpreted my points abit. Ofcourse there's no way one will not meet girls on a daily. What i actually meant was staying away from prospective dating or sexual relationshps for 4 months (which is very feasible). Believe me, if he stil harbours any second though regarding sex, it wont be long before he returns to the daily habit once again. And ofcourse, when he walks by the street, seeing girls, it should be easy to look away. Point is, he's got to stay clear of girls for 4months straight. AS A MATTER OF FACT, here's is an extreme therapy for MACELOT if he can do it. Every 3hours, repeat these following words to yourself for the next 2weeks or more. (1) I HATE SEX. (2) I HATE BREASST. (3) I HATE GIRLS. Please dont hate girls o, i believe you wil get married to one of them someday. This is just a short term measure till you gain ful control of your senses.

bettermike: Honestly, you've raised good points. However, i believe you misinterpreted my points abit. Ofcourse there's no way one will not meet girls on a daily. What i actually meant was staying away from prospective dating or sexual relationshps for 4 months (which is very feasible). Believe me, if he stil harbours any second though regarding sex, it wont be long before he returns to the daily habit once again. And ofcourse, when he walks by the street, seeing girls, it should be easy to look away. Point is, he's got to stay clear of girls for 4months straight. AS A MATTER OF FACT, here's is an extreme therapy for MACELOT if he can do it. Every 3hours, repeat these following words to yourself for the next 2weeks or more. (1) I HATE SEX. (2) I HATE BREASST. (3) I HATE GIRLS. Please dont hate girls o, i believe you wil get married to one of them someday. This is just a short term measure till you gain ful control of your senses.