Had met this guy 5yrs ago when I was in Nigeria. I was 20 and he was 24. We were so much in love and we still are. We promised each other our love and also promised to age with each other and we still maintain that promise. He had just proposed to me but my parents refused simply because he just graduated and has no money and job yet but instead they had persuaded me to go with one of the three bastardly rich men that proposed to me that I had rejected. All da ppl I know said that I must be crazy for rejecting one of them that's from a very well known rich family just for a poor guy that just want to use my influence to come to America. I have always told them it's not all about money and I really can't believe that they keep saying this thing about him coming to America thru me after all no body knew I was gonna win a Visa lottery. I don't know what to do. I am so much in love with him just like he is although I have not seen him in 3yrs but we talk evryday on the phone
My question is:
Is this really a true love or am I deceiving myself and if it's not please can you share with me what true love really is.

itz true love and go with ur heart and ur parents will come around. I'm suprised that parents still do such things esp. when I see dem in Nigerian movies, do wat u believe cuz wat is money as u said cuz it ain't everything, if i may ask, u igbo?

Edygirl,only u deep inside your heart would know if this is true love or not but methinks if you could get through with the relationship for 3years there gotta be something there
about your folks sayin all those things,amidst all they say, always remember that you come first,you'll have to live your life with whomever you choose to be with,whether rich or poor, you posses the choice,so plzzz choose right.
And about this guy you are in love with,he may seem not too-well to do now, but you never know what the future holds for him,so one more time i'll say listen to your heart and choose right.
ma prayers go with u

well said edygirl, no codition is , (u know da answer), r ur parents in Nigeria or in da states with you? u can help da guy 2 get a job as in searching 4 job and even let him know of this site so he can make use of the job section and make friends who might be of help. u r in ma prayers

Ma parents are in Nig and ma love is an architect. I know he will make it here when he comes.

wow, an architect, datz a good profession once he land a job even in Nigeria,  wish  you to good luck

thank u hun

me i would advised u to follows ur heart, ur mama is no be the one that will live ur life for yous, u are sure the boy woulds makes it in us, then takes her with yous, explains wwell to your mama why u loves the boys

eddygirl, no one can make this choice for u except u.those who say follow your heart are right but then it doesn't mean u should be agressive or arrogant towards your parents. They want the best for u and what they see sitting u can't see even if u are on top of an iroko tree.

anyway enof of the parables. what i would say is follow ur heart but be matured and ready to deal with what ever comes out of it. if it works fine, if not then every experience is a lesson and u would have learnt a lot from it to better u for the future.

Take care girl and don't fuss too much cos u never do anything write when u fuss. relax do ur part and pray committing the rest to God.

Take care.

Edygirl,you are not decieving urself,you are in love with ur guy and please don't let anybody talk u out of it,not even ur parents,sometimes l wonder if they think they can choose our spouses for us,sweetie just listen to ur heart and pray to God that ur parents would have a change of heart and accept him.Wishing u all the best.
Take care

i think you guys are in the right place, not everything has to be about money especially when it comes down to someone you will be with for the rest of your life, and if you guys get married you could bring him to the U.S and enjoy your lives without much interference from your parents.

Everyone can't be wrong and also ur mind is not playing tricks on you
U are right.
U guys should try set out ur piorities and achieve it as steps for u
guys to be together or finally to the altar.
ALL THE BEST.

edygirl:
Had met this guy 5yrs ago when I was in Nigeria. I was 20 and he was 24. We were so much in love and we still are. We promised each other our love and also promised to age with each other and we still maintain that promise. He had just proposed to me but my parents refused simply because he just graduated and has no money and job yet but instead they had persuaded me to go with one of the three bastardly rich men that proposed to me that I had rejected. All da ppl I know said that I must be crazy for rejecting one of them that's from a very well known rich family just for a poor guy that just want to use my influence to come to America. I have always told them it's not all about money and I really can't believe that they keep saying this thing about him coming to America thru me after all no body knew I was gonna win a Visa lottery. I don't know what to do. I am so much in love with him just like he is although I have not seen him in 3yrs but we talk evryday on the phone
My question is:
Is this really a true love or am I deceiving myself and if it's not please can you share with me what true love really is.

its lust,I'm sure the guy is very cute.

Your happiness first, you are so happy with this guy and to cap it up, you are very proud of him... He's the right person for you as at today if what you wrote is to be put into consideration.