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| Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by omotenah(f): 8:00pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
My partner recently just asked for my facebook and twitter password? I've been reluctant to give him but he's been acting strange since then and said if I have nothing to hide, then why can't I give him.. Right now I'm kinda confused, is it ok for him to have my password? I use the same password for all my social networks and even e-mails |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by kevoh(m): 8:08pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
Capital NO! Forget trust for now, think of what he can do in the future if the relationship turns sour! |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by estherk(f): 8:09pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
If u love him u can let him have d password[color=#000099][/color] |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by omotenah(f): 8:18pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
yea I've thought of dat and that's more reason why I've been reluctant but he's been adamant and acting very very strange these days kevoh: Capital NO! Forget trust for now, think of what he can do in the future if the relationship turns sour! |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by omotenah(f): 8:19pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
Okay! thanks for your advice estherk: If u love him u can let him have d password[color=#000099][/color] |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by ITbomb(m): 8:30pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
I gave my ex my password, she just look around for a few days after she became tired as I did nothing suspicious. When she left I change the passwords. Not that he might be looking at your stuff every time but maybe just to prove that you have nothing to hide especially if it is leading to marriage or you are already married. 2 Likes |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by zaziakoni(f): 8:44pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
i give my fiance my password for everytin i open even before he ask me including my ATM pin. so to me u can give him, u wl hve notin to loose if u have notin to hide. are u tinkin d relationship will go sour? den it will, if dats wat u have on ur mind, i suggest u stop thinkin of such, if u dont, dat will always be d first tin on ur mind wit every little problem and for how long will u continue moving from one man to anoda 1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by bluuu: 8:53pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
not giving ur partner ur password doesnt mean u v sth to hide.even if u v nothing to b guilty of in ur chat,he can read meaning to things just cos of sentiment |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by Dbryan: 9:00pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
bluuu: not giving ur partner ur password doesnt mean u v sth to hide.even if u v nothing to b guilty of in ur chat,he can read meaning to things just cos of sentiment...............thank u o jare |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by Nobody: 9:02pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
bluuu: not giving ur partner ur password doesnt mean u v sth to hide.even if u v nothing to b guilty of in ur chat,he can read meaning to things just cos of sentiment Bluu is kicking it. Proud of you sweetie. OP you heard the lady. |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by bellong: 9:05pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
Your partner = Your husband I wonder why it has to become something to be posted to the social media before giving him. You guys are supposed to be one if the meaning of marriage is the same to you. It shouldn't even get to the level where he is the one asking you for your password. Same for him as well. If husband and wife can't have access to each other's social media account, I wonder the type of relationship that is. 1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by Nobody: 10:15pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
But why does he want your password in the first place? What is the message being passed across exactly? 1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by ypepe: 10:30pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
Pls is ur partner not ur hubby? Pray, tell me why u won't give him ur passwords. Don't u trust each other? In case of emergency what happens? Unless its a k legged union, I wonder why u two won't hv access to these important things. They r done for d future. For d children, for retirement. Everything don't hv to be suspicious this or that. Pls pple should stop killing their union with their mouth. If u found out giving it out was unhealth, u can change them with reason and not suspicion only. 1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by mgbeketoto: 10:32pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
If he needs it that bad. . .he wants to use it to post some shyte AS YOU. . .OR COMMIT FRAUD on those boards like some NLANDERS do with shared passwords. . . with family and friends. . . .causing trouble all over the place with their 'MR AND MRS' shared handles. At your own risk! RED FLAG!  I will do no such thing. . .EVERYONE IS ENTITLED TO A LITTLE PRIVACY IN LIFE AND MARRIAGE. I know a lot of couples who found out that THEIR HUSBANDS AND WIVES LOOTED THEIR BANK ACCOUNTS AND ABSCONDED WITH THEIR LIFE-SAVINGS. . .not to mention apply for extended lines of credit WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT. . . to financial ruins. YOU BERRA BE CAREFUL! Make sure you can defend yourself. . . IF AND WHEN THE SHYTE HITS THE FAN O! DO YOU THINK CONDITIONS IN LIFE ARE PERMANENT?  I am older AND WISER. . .AND NOT THAT TRUSTING! Don't ask me mine. . .and I don't wanno know yours! Simple! Sounds like you are married to a BUSY BODY!  1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by slimyem: 10:40pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
Facebook and twitter password? Kini big deal? Is he not your husband? Why are you hesitant about letting him have it? Why does he even want it so bad?  If you had said he's being requesting for atm pin or work related passwords..then this thread might have been worth starting but in this case... 1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by mgbeketoto: 10:40pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
I've been reluctant to give him but he's been acting strange since then and said if I have nothing to hide, then why can't I give him.. He has resorted to 'emotional bullying' ni? HA! E nefa start! The more reason I WILL NOT GIVE IT TO HIM. I don't like threats! He can eat SHYTE for all I care. My husband knows better! I am waaaaaaaaaaaay too stubborn for such EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL! Na you sabi my dia. I am not that DESPERATE TO BE LOVED OR LIKED. . . He cannot have it! Period! Lemme have the divorce papers. . . I WILL GLADLY SIGN THEM!!! Thank our lucky stars for 'gainfully-employed' husbands and fathers. . .MINE WOULD NOT EVEN DARE!!!! I DON'T CARE FOR HIS PHOCKING PASSWORDS EITHER! Is that supposed to be a PROOF OF LOVE OR TRUST? With a NIGERIAN MAN?  Never!!!! 1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by greatgod2012(f): 10:42pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
For you to have brought the matter to NL means you're suscipicious of something bad from him, whether presently or in future. You know the type of partner you have, if you know you're comfortable with giving him, then do and if you're not , tell him as well. It will make both of you to know the level you both put each other. Or Ask him why he want the passwords, if his answer is "areint we one", then give him, if he says "so that i can monitor what you post online" then he's going to make you miserable with your posts, because he's going to read different meanings to your post, tell him direct that you cant, and life continues. 1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by tellwisdom: 11:15pm On Jan 05, 2014 |
Ok, what is the password??  1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by Nobody: 12:07am On Jan 06, 2014 |
Op, do not give him the password and don't ask for his! Whatever happened to PRIVACY? And for his "emotional bullying"? Let him b ring it on! Haba! Kilode gaan? |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by bluuu: 12:36am On Jan 06, 2014 |
tnks ewuro. if d partner is hubby n his dispostion , rxn to issues s calm n gives me his password too, i may give it after thinking it tru(sentiments will always affect his judgement)but if its a bf( good disposition or not),NO i think op s talking abt bf n his emotional blackmail. big NO |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by Nobody: 12:55am On Jan 06, 2014 |
bluuu: not giving ur partner ur password doesnt mean u v sth to hide.even if u v nothing to b guilty of in ur chat,he can read meaning to things just cos of sentiment Urrrm, no. Him demanding her password means he doesn't trust her! Besides, have you asked the OP is she has his password too? I've never asked my wife for her password, I've never cared to have it. It was she herself who gave it to me back in 2009, when she needed my help with some computer-based issues. I never logged onto any of her accounts after that, and it's been that long I did, I can't even remember what it is. Passwords will demended by jealous, insecure bullies, who feel that once they're dating you, or married to you, they own you. Well, they don't! And it's also worth bearing in mind, a cheat will always find a way, if they're that way inclined, even if you remove the internet, mobile phones, letters, use of a car etc. Cheats existed way before the internet and cellphones, and will continue to exist. 3 Likes |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by Nobody: 1:06am On Jan 06, 2014 |
Siena: Quite simply put, this is exactly the message being passed across! And precisely the reason why I will not give my password because I won't be able to get past this. I truly have zero tolerance for this type of rubbish. If you don't trust me and you feel the need to spy on me, please break up with me and go your way. Simple. My opinion. 2 Likes |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by Nobody: 1:10am On Jan 06, 2014 |
ileobatojo: If you don't trust me and you feel the need to spy on me, please break up with me and go your way. Simple. Spot on. |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by Nobody: 4:03am On Jan 06, 2014 |
Oh Siena thank you so much for that post. |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by Nobody: 4:04am On Jan 06, 2014 |
estherk: If u love him u can let him have d password[color=#000099][/color] Ok so if she doesn't give it to him then she does not love him? I would so like to roll my eyes right now but I can't. Some comments are so..... |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by taryour(f): 7:55am On Jan 06, 2014 |
Kini big deal Give him the password and save yourself some headache jare, there are more things to worry you than facebook and twitter passwords. Wait a minute op,what have you done sef to warrant your hubby demanding your password You must have triggered him to such reaction. Either you willingly give him or not,with the password or without the password he can and will fish out any info he wants. Let peace rain abeg and give him the password already. 2 Likes |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by oluplus(m): 9:49am On Jan 06, 2014 |
Do you have his? if no, please ask for same. |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by shizzle11(m): 10:13am On Jan 06, 2014 |
ileobatojo:Talk is cheap! If you mean the bolded, tell him to his face and come back here to tell us your divorce story. If you like allow yourself to be deceived by those saying don't give him. When you get divorced, non of them will be there for you. I don't support such attitude from men because i consider it domineering. But if he is insisting and you truly have nothing to hide, why don't him give him the password. The young man must have suspected something after all, if you feel you have no guilt why not consent to his request, after all he is your husband...some women ehn? I smell rat.... 1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by Nobody: 12:15pm On Jan 06, 2014 |
shizzle11: The truth is the truth, whether you're in pain about it or not. |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by TV01(m): 2:06pm On Jan 06, 2014 |
We are all ideologues - at best  !. The question is, "which of us will you listen too?@OP, I didn't respond to your post at first as my partcular ideology does not recognise a "partner" relationship. However, if in this instance your partnership is of the conjugal type, I'll say this; You may have - and mayhaps through no fault on your part - married an insecure man. If your relationship is conjugal, this flaw is at the very least of great concern to you, as how this plays out will affect the substance of your marriage. You take responsibility. Others - knowingly or unknowingly - may have given him pause for thought and prompted him to act in this manner. Or, you may have - and perhaps inadvertently - given him cause for concern. The advice does not change. Seek to understand the what, when, why and how, and work for the long-term interest of your union. It doesn't mean he is a bully and it certainly doesn't mean that "divorce" should be contemplated or is even on the cards. This advice is blind to whether you "love" him or not, just the fact that you may be married to him. If you are a wife, be wise. Taryour and Shizzle11 have spoken well. If not please ignore me . TV |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by jumzzy448: 4:46pm On Jan 06, 2014 |
shizzle11:Op, if you guys are married, then take shizzle's advice. What's there in giving him your password except you don't trust yourself and you feel he might find out some things. Funniest thing is he might even have your password and will never open your accounts. Hubby has my passwords but i'm very sure that he has never for once opened my facebook or any of my accs before. Feel free to give him abeg. |
| Re: Is It Ok To Give Him My Password? by shizzle11(m): 6:02pm On Jan 06, 2014 |
ileobatojo:Why should I be pained it isn't my problem you know?Like i said earlier, its obvious you are the one who is refusing to tell your self the truth. |
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