Please i need help seriously. av had so many relationships with one common feature which is that the guys dont call me but claim to love me. i am a kind that does not like asking a guy for tins like money etc becos i dont like being turned down;and i literally assume that a guy should know wen to give gifts to his girl.
am in a new relationship now and the guy is also exibiting same traits of not calling and not giving even when i gather all the courage i have to ask. should i continue to accept it AS MY FATE IN LOVE or leave him. i love him though.

What's the basis of a relationship, do you base your relationship on what you can get from the guy only?

Do you call him or txt him at least 2

Well, if you are in a relationship that the guys aint calling you, i blv that is to tell you that he is not fully commited, however, be sure that it is not his work, i guess, you see it his responsibilty to give you money and gift, gifting is something that comes naturally from the mind and heart of the man, and if he refuse to give you anything at all, maybe he thinks u dont deserve it.
Try not to be pushy.
Dont be too much in his face.
Dont present yourself too cheap to him.
Let him know how not calling you is making you feel.

cutesharon:

Please i need help seriously. av had so many relationships with one common feature which is that the guys don't call me but claim to love me. i am a kind that does not like asking a guy for tins like money etc because i don't like being turned down;and i literally assume that a guy should know when to give gifts to his girl.
am in a new relationship now and the guy is also exibiting same traits of not calling and not giving even when i gather all the courage i have to ask. should i continue to accept it AS MY FATE IN LOVE or leave him. i love him though.

how often do u call these guys?

if u don't give, then don't expect to get.

mayby you are the independent types and the guys just get that vibes. in anycase, as per the calling aspect, maybe the guy is still straightning out his thoughs about the relationship. the good aspect is that if he eventually starts calling you, it will be out of love.

all these guys, do you love them, or do u just fell u should be in a relationship

another question that u should sincerely answer is this,

Does the Guy ACTIVELY know and appreciate you guys are in a relationship or does he just see you as a friend that likes him, always calling him and he can get intimate with when available, what i am saying is , ARE YOU JUST ASSUMING YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM, OR ARE YOU ACTUALLY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM AND HIM WITH YOU?

do u assume relationships too fast in friendship, this might give an insight to the trend of your guys not being as commited as you are

kiss_angel:

another question that u should sincerely answer is this,

Does the Guy ACTIVELY know and appreciate you guys are in a relationship or does he just see you as a friend that likes him, always calling him and he can get intimate with when available, what i am saying is , ARE YOU JUST ASSUMING YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM, OR ARE YOU ACTUALLY IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM AND HIM WITH YOU?

do u assume relationships too fast in friendship, this might give an insight to the trend of your guys not being as commited as you are

That is a very intreresting thot
hmmmmmm

all the same gal, just take it easy, be genuine and real to your self and take as much as you can handle. when you cant take it no longer, your bodi sef go automatically shut off and life continues anyway. every faild relationship is just a learning ground. for me, it always gets better.

for the records NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU

atleast, except if its spiritual though, [sub][/sub]just kidding

my dear am suggesting that u should stop the relationship entirely and make up ur mind not to have any other boyfriend just trust in God and have faith that one day Mr right will be on your way, the one that cannot leave you forever.

you sound like an uniteresting, and boring girl to be with. u need to change. u scare guys away with ur quietness and u think this trait should make them see u as a homely and reserved girl.
Look girl, come out of ur shell, be open, spice up ur life and people around u will be spiced

maybe i will just wait and see how dis particular relationship turns out. am actually in the relationship and i am not boring. i only want to love and be loved in return and i love attention(my love language). is that too much to ask

cutesharon:

maybe i will just wait and see how this particular relationship turns out. am actually in the relationship and i am not boring. i only want to love and be loved in return and i love attention(my love language). is that too much to ask

nothing wrong is asking for love and be loved in return, however, all depends on how u asking for the love, like i sais, dont be pushy, let the man work a lil for it.