HELLO TO YOU ALL!
IT IS A PITY TODAY THAT ALOT OF YOUNG LADIES ARE OFTEN BEEN DECEIVED BY THE IMMEDIATE-TRANSIENT RICHES OF SO CALL MEN THAT WILL NOT MARRY THEM FOR ANY REASON - THOSE MEN THAT HAS NO VALUE!!
THE EARLIER OUR YOUNG LADIES COME TO THIS BLATTER-BITTER TRUTH THE BETTER FOR THEM. REMEMBER, NO BODY CAN CHANGE YOU BUT YOUR OWN SELF! THOSE WHO HAVE COUNTERED THE WOMAN'S GRACIOUS WORK AND THE TIME SPENT SHOULD KNOW THAT THERE IS REWARD FOR EVERYTHING IN LIFE!
I DON'T HAVE MUCH THING TO SAY FOR NOW BUT A WORD OF ADVICE TO ALL OUR YOUNG-MARRIAGEABE LADIES TO NOTE THAT NO MAN WILL EVER MARRY INDECENT AND FLAMBOYANT UNSERIOUS LADY - SINCE MOST PEOPLE ARE NOW AGITATING CONTRARILLY; YOU ALL CAN GO AHEAD WITH WHAT YOU THINK IS SEEMINGLY RIGHT BUT BE SURE TO REAP WHATSOEVER YOU SOW!
I BELIEVE THERE MAY BE SOME IN THE HOUSE THAT SUPPORT REMARRIAGE AND DIVORCE; I WANT TO SAY THAT IT IS CONTRARY TO THE DIVINE WILL OF GOD AND IF YOU WANT TO SEE GOD AT THE END OF THIS TRANSIENT-TEMPORAL-EVIL WORLD YOU MUST KEEP TO THE STANDARD OF GOD IN MARRIAGE.
THANKS AND GOD BE WITH YOU ALL.
EAT
PHC

Their overbloated egos will not let them agree to the Physical and even Spiritual superiority of the man

Some reasons could also be spiritual, nobody mentioned dat.

What about those young girls who say theyb date married men just because they know that when they get married some other girl will definately date their husband. It really sickens me to hear them talk like this. They say its inevitable. How can you be saying negative things from your mouth. Why they think that every married man must have extra-marital affairs is beyond me. I had really big issues with these train of thut way back in school. I was the laughing stock, just because i refused to date married men. I'm no saint, but I knew that whatever you do, will come back to you in a million fold. But when you stay clear from doing such, God will allow for miracles to work in your marriage. My best advice to single ladies is to stay off someone elses husband.

Some ladies are waiting for the fictional Mr Perfect.

afta dem do too much yanga tolotolo dem go stay unmarried for ever. or maybe guys fit dey take dem warm up when weather cold

Madam Laura who says u need to be married in order to have children?
No doubt marriage is good but sometimes it really sucks.
Funny enough all those runs girls i knew way back in school are sooo married
while the so called decent girls are desperately searching.
Sometimes its not the fault of these girls that they are single,
some people husband don enter seminary, some don go the other side (una go agree with me say men dey kpai more than women).
At the end of the day d remaining men no go fit go round for the available sisters.
Fact is not all women will get married in life.
U r single doesnt make u different. Look for other ways to make ur life fulfilling.
Life is much more than just getting married and havn kids.

Nezerst, U R sooo right!People, we need to understand that all these runs do not stop girls from getting married.I have also seen all the naughty girls in my class married - and are lucky at it too;while most of the decent ones are NOT.
Marriage is a lovely thing and most marriageable girls(whether flirts or not), want to get into it.Alot of factors are responsible for this, including men's avoidance of responsibility.

unmarried big guurls?
where are they?
show them to me, i need ONE right NOW

hi tearface, what a funny name i must say.
since only both of us are online here, i think we should get to know each other,
what do you think?

cooldude62:

hi tearface, what a funny name i must say.
since only both of us are online here, i think we should get to know each other,
what do you think?

I dey here too and i dey watch

If you try flirt, u would get banned!!!

Tear rubber how na?

@post
As someone stated above, because we're waiting to MR.RIGHT!

Who wants to be married to MR.WRONG and burdened later on with the anticipation of having to delete him later on?

i think there r about 5% men who doesn't want to get marry the would have a bf to have a baby for them than marry them that is why lots of sexy girl does not want to marry ?,

Mesmerize:

@post
As someone stated above, because we're waiting to MR.RIGHT!

Who wants to be married to MR.WRONG and burdened later on with the anticipation of having to delete him later on?

una go wait tire

Reasons

*Wrong decisons
*bad attitudes
*Ugliness
etc

JustGood:

Reasons

*Wrong decisons
*bad attitudes
*Ugliness
etc

choice is the key word

@Poster

U r very right sista.

well, we can assume that the world comes with change and change for individuals are different.
people don't see marriages as the ultimate anymore.

This topic makes sense. I just hope that the sensible ones can retrace their foot steps, before its too late.

mejourity of them select too much, they want a just perfect man, while waiting and waiting age will be increasing as well but they are too ignorant to know that they are not gettting younger, i wonder what a mr right means to them, is't really possible to marry a just match as a husband? after waiting to long seeing that time is no longer their friend, they will be looking for aged divorced or any1 can sarve men to hold on to,i know 3 girls like that, funny but too silly of them as they are regreting it now.  To those young shine shine babe out there, use ur time well, don't be too selective but be wise though.

Most of them are always waiting for their perfect textbook finished product guy and they never seem to realise that some guys are raw material and they are the ones that are required to make the guy into a finished product thus they are responsible for tailoring the guy to their specification and likewise to the guy but alas they will keep on frontin and since thay have money they are secure. If there were not finacially bogus, there might be a need to secure this by getting hooked up with someone that can have it guranteed.

because most are looking for already made man that can give them security in life.

they are very picky and want mr perfect and forgetting that time is not on there side and some are just not lucky enough to find a husband no matter how hard they try, so they atleast concentrate on getting finacially secured and stable .

some dont even want marriage and when they are ready to have kids they just look for a good guy to be there baby daddy.marriage is not everything at the end one can still be happy in life and have there own family without marriage but security is very important in alot of women´s life so that come´s first for them.

Friends, I have personally been so concerned about seeing many beautiful girls(grown ups), I prefer calling them ladies being victim of not-getting- married crises or after-marriage crises. My concerned has led me to start packaging a book to help our precious sisters out of this crises. However the first step to come out of every problem is to accept resposibilty of the problem. My advice to my female friends in questions is not to loose hope and nerver choose negative part. But you will need to learn smart stuff like what a man want in woman.Cultvate the majastic,attractive and correct diginty of woman hood. The later takes time and concistence to come by, but when you possesse it, any where you show up you will not be told that there are thousands of men out there searching for such scarce ladies to be the mother of there children. For those already married, don't quit yet despite how tough it is now, you can still win your man and make him your angelic mortal. Well if you are intrested in getting a copy of my book( You can send me mail via cash.choice@yahoo.com) Thanks.

Thank you for this wonderful advice honestly my own mother did not tell me these things you mentioned her. I am also confident of my self that a good guy will find me worthy to a mother and a wife.I choose the right part though need to make some positive amendments for a better tomorrow. You are the bomb.Like my Father always say that good wine need no bush.is worth reading allover and over again.Kudos

I think there are several reasons why 'big girls' are unmarried. Like the poster said, some ladies made poor judgment calls earlier in life.

In addition, I feel the way boys and girls are raised does not help matters. Parents often raise their kids such that they are incompatible as a couple.
- The girl is 'protected' from male influence for the most part of her life and then given a short window of 3-5 yrs to find the right guy and close the deal, while the boys are allowed to interact with the opposite sex over a wider period.
- The girls are taught to be wary of flirts, while boys, if not encouraged, are indulged in having multiple girlfriends in sequence if not concurrently.
- The girl is taught to pursue her career so as not to be dependent on the man, while the boy is told that career women  don't make good wives, as they are less submissive
- A single girl  gets more pressure as she gets older, while a single guy is indulged in his excuse of trying to establish himself in life.

A lot of 'good' girls don't get hooked as they are inexperienced in relationships, and thus fail to see the hand writings on the wall early enough, or close the deal when needed. I have seen several cases who felt the last girlfriend was pressurizing (read nagging) them for marriage, only for them to be proposing in less than six months into the new relationship. There is definititely a method to the madness.

A lot of girls only think about what they need or want  in a relationship or the kind of guy they desire. They don't spend enough time contemplating what such a guy would want or need, and consequently don't have enough to offer such that the guy considers them for the long haul. I always advice my single female friends that knowing what you want in a man is half of the solution, the other half is making sure you have what he wants as well. Relationships are two-way streets, be prepared to bring something to the table.

Being successful career wise could definitely limit the sample space available to a lady, as men, mostly for their ego, want their wives to be less successful than they. Thus a few guys are intimidated and feel threatened by such ladies. Some men go as far as not wanting their wives to have an opinion in the relationship, preferring (as a colleague once said)" that her job is to keep her mouth shut, spend my money and look good". Of course most women too would rather marry a man that is more successful than they (at least until they start finding such men to be limited in availability)

The attitude of I don't need a man does not help. Do not point the gun if you have no intentions of shooting. Everyone likes a relationship in which they are needed. We are all born into the world as a single, and could probably survive without the opposite sex, but it is also well known that the right partner makes you a better being. If either does not need the other, then there is much less incentive to put ones best effort into the relationship. There is no shame (for either gender) in being dependent on your spouse/partner. It does not say you couldn't make it on your own, but rather that having that person take care of it makes you better person.  My mathematical view of marriage is that 1+1 =1 spiritually, and 1+1 > 2 physically and materially.

Some big girls are still single from no fault of theirs, but just for the simple fact that that is the card life has dealt them

biina:


A lot of girls only think about what they need or want in a relationship or the kind of guy they desire. They don't spend enough time contemplating what such a guy would want or need, and consequently don't have enough to offer such that the guy considers them for the long haul. I always advice my single female friends that knowing what you want in a man is half of the solution, the other half is making sure you have what he wants as well. Relationships are two-way streets, be prepared to bring something to the table.

The attitude of I don't need a man does not help. Do not point the gun if you have no intentions of shooting. Everyone likes a relationship in which they are needed. We are all born into the world as a single, and could probably survive without the opposite sex, but it is also well known that the right partner makes you a better being. If either does not need the other, then there is much less incentive to put ones best effort into the relationship. There is no shame (for either gender) in being dependent on your spouse/partner. It does not say you couldn't make it on your own, but rather that having that person take care of it makes you better person. My mathematical view of marriage is that 1+1 =1 spiritually, and 1+1 > 2 physically and materially.

Some big girls are still single from no fault of theirs, but just for the simple fact that that is the card life has dealt them

Very well said indeed.

If i must say anything, then it has to be frankly said. U see, the issue of marriage is a very sensitive one. As for the ladies, its God that directs one to a good man. There are no good men out there, only just a few are serious. At the same time, we ladies have to be serious too. I am married with a son and I love my family so much but i tell u, prayer is the key. What is bad needs prayers and what is good also needs prayers. I have seen a good man turning to a bad one and I have seen a bad one turning to a good one. Above all, we must be very careful and not allow worldly things take over our lives. Ladies, there is time for everything the desire to be big girls(bis girls) is the begining of loneliness for life. No man will respect u anymore, forget the fact that u are rich, they will help u spend ur money and run away. Everyman wants a well mannered girl from a good home. HARD WORK will make you richer and u have nothing to loose if u work hard, u'll only be rewarded for ur hard work. GOOD LUCK to all the ladies out there!

I am a guy. All I have to say is that you said the truth. Most of these ladies are after the immediate benefits.Think of it, a lady tipped 2 bottles of beer on a catalogue served her by a waiter,while the guy tipped a bottle.Think of it,a lady jokely told a guy about the fun she had with her married MD few hours before the guy came visiting.Tell them please. Infact what is the value of a girl who chose to go nude in spite of her Mr Right advice against it. The guy will be begin to have a rethink

aderonke12:

If i must say anything, then it has to be frankly said. U see, the issue of marriage is a very sensitive one. As for the ladies, its God that directs one to a good man. There are no good men out there, only just a few are serious. At the same time, we ladies have to be serious too. I am married with a son and I love my family so much but i tell u, prayer is the key. What is bad needs prayers and what is good also needs prayers. I have seen a good man turning to a bad one and I have seen a bad one turning to a good one. Above all, we must be very careful and not allow worldly things take over our lives. Ladies, there is time for everything the desire to be big girls(bis girls) is the begining of loneliness for life. No man will respect u anymore, forget the fact that u are rich, they will help u spend ur money and run away. Everyman wants a well mannered girl from a good home. HARD WORK will make you richer and u have nothing to loose if u work hard, u'll only be rewarded for ur hard work. GOOD LUCK to all the ladies out there!

Please preach to those young ladies who claim to be focused but lack MORALS and RESPECT cos of their status @ work.

:-x