berem: A niger delta militant? Your own don better!

First of all,you're not collecting the money because its a compensation for the heart break he gave you. You must collect the money because it is part of our National cake. This is time for you to enjoy oil money.
Infact,make you build office for him head. No dull abeg!!

paranorman: Eya.. Pele.. I understand your Ex's reason for wanting to compesate you. Prob he's gotten remorseful and wants to set things right. I think you just forgive him and move on; if thats want he really wants and nothing more from you, forgive him.. About the money part, i say no. U are worth more than that and beleive me, ur man will come knockin at the door of ur heart and will love u genuinely*. Stick to ur self esteem and nver let one Ex wach dem down the drain... Ur man will come. Just be good.

sevule: @ poster

Why would you want ANYTHING from your ex? You acknowledged he treated you badly and yet you are actually thinking of letting him compensate you? Are you now placing a price on your self worth?

Accepting financial compensation from your ex is akin to a fish swallowing a bait on a hook. He can use whatever he gives you now as a hook to remain relevant in your life.

You said you have a business so why for goodness sake are you thinking about accepting a financial reward from your ex? Is it because of the advice your friends gave you? My advice to you is to let your ex know thta you have forgiven him and tell him CLEARLY [/b]that you would [b]NOT accept anything from him. After this cut off ALL contact with him as he is now married and move on with your life.

andromida: The idea that this man mistreated you is something you should look into because it takes two to tango you actively participated in the relationship so how can you blame him for everything.

The question is why were you with someone who made you soo unhappy?

Why did you remain faithful to a man you were not married to and who had no value for you?

Being pretty and attracting different men is not enough because you may be attracting different versions of your boyfriend.

This man cannot be your friend, he probably wants to add you to his harem the money is the lure so refuse him.

jenny2007: I was with him for almost three years on and off. we were in different cities during the duration of the relationship but with regular visits. this man mistreated me, i was never happy with him, in fact its the worst relationship i have ever had. theres nothing that he didnt do to me except physically assaulting me, still i stayed with him praying everyday that he will change.

i'm a pretty lady and i always getting attention from guys yet i remained faithful to him despite the distance. all of sudden he cut contact with me and i decided not to bother to ask him why becos i had had enough myself. ex started calling me again though i didnt answer his calls. a month later i saw pictures of his wedding online, the girl he married is someone i had found out that he was cheating on me with in the past , though he denied it back then. she was even pregnant on their wedding day, i was shocked when i saw the pictures and cried my heart out.

after his marriage i found some information about this man which i never knew before , he is a niger-delta militant with 2 babymammas who he beats at the silighest provocation. this is someone that told me he deals in oil and gas o. now this same man has started calling me and begging me to forgive him for the way he treated me while we were together and that i should mention anytin that i want and he will do for me, whether monetarily or not. i told him to go to hell with his pleading and money, however my friends are advising me to whatever he offers me and leave him.

what should u i do?

chrisbaba1:

[size=13pt]You wont be there when the guy threatening her or setting her up o. Women aint really wiser than men sha, at allllll, Guys set baits uno, this is simply a bait and all her friends are giving her bad advice.....[/size]

berem: the guy did not set her up and threaten her when they dated for three years,its now that he is married that he will set her up abi?
He's the one who is offering a compensation and not the girl begging for it. I see nothing wrong about it.

chrisbaba1:


He didn't have to threaten her then, it was straight up beating. best thing for her is to tell him she forgives him and refuse anything he has to offer, plus never be a friend.

berem: but she said he didn't beat her when they dated.why should he beat her now he's married? The guy wants to compensate her ni. Kini big deal?

paranorman: Eya.. Pele.. I understand your Ex's reason for wanting to compesate you. Prob he's gotten remorseful and wants to set things right. I think you just forgive him and move on; if thats want he really wants and nothing more from you, forgive him.. About the money part, i say no. U are worth more than that and beleive me, ur man will come knockin at the door of ur heart and will love u genuinely*. Stick to ur self esteem and nver let one Ex wach dem down the drain... Ur man will come. Just be good.

oshyno: Women and money. Tell me another thing abeg.

U stayed tru to him - why won't u when ur soo fixated on his money as in d Bayelsa big boy em be.

Thaz why it puts me off wen u chiks say "even with d way I luv him n doesn't cheat on him bla bla bla , he still did dis to me "

When all u think of is d cool sweet life ur gono live wen u marry him why won't u remain faithful to such a player.

Cry me river Jordan abeg.

pro01: With enough money and enough cold-blooded player willpower, you'll dispense an infinite amount of bullshyte to MOST Naija women, and they would swallow it joyfully. It doesn't matter if she is the typical broke 'long-throat' Naija girl, or a silverspoon girl, or a supposedly independent career woman or business woman. . . .they are all drawn to a rich man like flies to poo, and are prepared to take a million times more bullshyte from such a guy than they'll ever tolerate with the average Joe. I have personally witnessed numerous unbelievable instances; and it keeps happening.

Would this chick have stayed that long - and endured all the supposed "maltreatment" - if Mr. Militant/Oil & Gas big boy was a regular Wema Bank cashier? Abeg tell me another story.