Orikinla: No normal woman will continue to live in the bondage of a man that maltreats her and calls it love.
You don't know what is love.
Living in bondage is not love, but living in fear.
Thank God you did not marry him and pray for the woman he has fooled into marriage.

[size=18pt]Why do women bullied by men think they have no better choice?[/size]

It's a psychological thing. Self image. It starts by belittling u. Making u feel like he is d best for u and no other man can love u. This kinda men no the women they can do such too. Mostly very nice girls. Homely girls who just want to be loved. this men can be nice when they really want to and for that moment she will think that he is d best thing that happened to her. And when he maltreats her she believes it's her fault. The guy will say " you made me do this". It's not as easy as u think. Most guys commenting, their sisters might be in very brutal relationships. Love will make her conceal it. Love makes us do crazy things. I just read this morning how a guy killed himself for a woman in calabar. just pray nobody u no falls prey to such people.

jenny2007: I was with him for almost three years on and off. we were in different cities during the duration of the relationship but with regular visits. this man mistreated me, i was never happy with him, in fact its the worst relationship i have ever had. theres nothing that he didnt do to me except physically assaulting me, still i stayed with him praying everyday that he will change.

i'm a pretty lady and i always getting attention from guys yet i remained faithful to him despite the distance. all of sudden he cut contact with me and i decided not to bother to ask him why becos i had had enough myself. ex started calling me again though i didnt answer his calls. a month later i saw pictures of his wedding online, the girl he married is someone i had found out that he was cheating on me with in the past , though he denied it back then. she was even pregnant on their wedding day, i was shocked when i saw the pictures and cried my heart out.

after his marriage i found some information about this man which i never knew before , he is a niger-delta militant with 2 babymammas who he beats at the silighest provocation. this is someone that told me he deals in oil and gas o. now this same man has started calling me and begging me to forgive him for the way he treated me while we were together and that i should mention anytin that i want and he will do for me, whether monetarily or not. i told him to go to hell with his pleading and money, however my friends are advising me to whatever he offers me and leave him.

what should u i do?

What advice do you expect from me since you've already told him to visit hell with his pleading and money which I think is the best response for him.
lolz....I had to pause to check your profile especially your pix while reading this when I got the point where you said you are pretty and bla bla bla.
But seriously,what kind of relationship was thatYou dated a guy for over 2 or 3years without the knowledge of his occupation.F.uck on and off,that is not an excuse.
.........my advice for you is break every connection between both of you and face your life.What is he pleading or compensating you foris that he wants you backdo you have the intention of going backwhy asking us since you replied him already

U don dey pick his call abi?....okay o

2sExy1: What a life... ! Why wouldn't you stay in such relationship when you are seeing money.

So fvcked up a country... You would have been rottening in jail by now.

Why won't you stay in such a a relationship and hoping things will change for better when your eyes were on money?

See as una dey jump on anything well packaged even though they are rottened inside.

You were dating thief without knowing... Why would you know?

Just move the fvck on!

nice point my brother...u dey mind all these beetches...fvck them. I dont advise them at all.

It is only God that can compensate you. Don't listen to your friends. Run for your life cos u will never know the next evil plan he has for you. Run,run,run

paranorman: Eya.. Pele.. I understand your Ex's reason for wanting to compesate you. Prob he's gotten remorseful and wants to set things right. I think you just forgive him and move on; if thats want he really wants and nothing more from you, forgive him.. About the money part, i say no. U are worth more than that and beleive me, ur man will come knockin at the door of ur heart and will love u genuinely*. Stick to ur self esteem and nver let one Ex wach dem down the drain... Ur man will come. Just be good.

i swear u r paranoid. what? refuse the money? think again.

My dear jenny,just thank God for what he did for u,move on and don't receive any compensation from him. Since u say u r pretty,a reasonable guy will come for u. No allow am see u again o,if u do,e go chop ur kpomo,and u go turn 3rd baby mama.

God dey ooo

slex: Call me cold or heartless but i dont feel pity for you. Why? You were in a bad relationship for 3 yrs?? He didnt show you care yet you stayed?i ll tell u why u stayed. Cos he told you he works in oil and gas sector. You see your greed of chopping oyel money has landed you in this mess. He had numerois babes with kids outside and he didnt even marry the other two. C mon, u stayed cos of the money you were enjoying thats all . And i guess one bobo who really cares about you was there and u kicked him away cos he is not an oyel worker. Truly some ladies get the guys they deserve.

my brother nice points. God bless u jor...that is how they are...i can never in this life advise any lady at all. Like u said, there could be a man then that was good for her, but becos of oyel money she took him for granted...naija ladies ole!

slex: Call me cold or heartless but i dont feel pity for you. Why? You were in a bad relationship for 3 yrs?? He didnt show you care yet you stayed?i ll tell u why u stayed. Cos he told you he works in oil and gas sector. You see your greed of chopping oyel money has landed you in this mess. He had numerois babes with kids outside and he didnt even marry the other two. C mon, u stayed cos of the money you were enjoying thats all . And i guess one bobo who really cares about you was there and u kicked him away cos he is not an oyel worker. Truly some ladies get the guys they deserve.

. The guess is as good as mine. In as much as I'm a lady, it pains me when i see a lady been in r/ship cuz the guy has money. Can't u make money on ur own? Op just forget that guy ooo, delete him from ur life $ start a new one with someone who knows ur worth. Thank me later.

oshyno: Women and money. Tell me another thing abeg.

U stayed tru to him - why won't u when ur soo fixated on his money as in d Bayelsa big boy em be.

Thaz why it puts me off wen u chiks say "even with d way I luv him n doesn't cheat on him bla bla bla , he still did dis to me "

When all u think of is d cool sweet life ur gono live wen u marry him why won't u remain faithful to such a player.

Cry me river Jordan abeg.

you hit the point she thought of how big she goin to live wen she finally marry oil money man &remain faithful but she failled women are the cos of their 92% of problems if he come with big car now she go mumu follo am.women & money tufia

Hmm. OKAFOR'S THEORY about to be fulfilled!

jenny2007: I was with him for almost three years on and off. we were in different cities during the duration of the relationship but with regular visits. this man mistreated me, i was never happy with him, in fact its the worst relationship i have ever had. theres nothing that he didnt do to me except physically assaulting me, still i stayed with him praying everyday that he will change.

i'm a pretty lady and i always getting attention from guys yet i remained faithful to him despite the distance. all of sudden he cut contact with me and i decided not to bother to ask him why becos i had had enough myself. ex started calling me again though i didnt answer his calls. a month later i saw pictures of his wedding online, the girl he married is someone i had found out that he was cheating on me with in the past , though he denied it back then. she was even pregnant on their wedding day, i was shocked when i saw the pictures and cried my heart out.

after his marriage i found some information about this man which i never knew before , he is a niger-delta militant with 2 babymammas who he beats at the silighest provocation. this is someone that told me he deals in oil and gas o. now this same man has started calling me and begging me to forgive him for the way he treated me while we were together and that i should mention anytin that i want and he will do for me, whether monetarily or not. i told him to go to hell with his pleading and money, however my friends are advising me to whatever he offers me and leave him.

what should u i do?

. I happen to know him personally and I must say you're lucky he did not marry you. That guy has no respect or value for women.

andromida: The idea that this man mistreated you is something you should look into because it takes two to tango you actively participated in the relationship so how can you blame him for everything.

The question is why were you with someone who made you soo unhappy?

Why did you remain faithful to a man you were not married to and who had no value for you?

Being pretty and attracting different men is not enough because you may be attracting different versions of your boyfriend.

This man cannot be your friend, he probably wants to add you to his harem the money is the lure so refuse him.

This and tell him that he has given you the greatest compensation:

Not been married to you

Thank God daily, He really loves you.

Now move on

Hehehe .. Militancy is part of the oil and gas biz.

What should you do? Don't tell us you never knew what he was doing to get money, besides the "odu" he told you as an excuse?? Like you said..get him a 1st class ticket to hell and make sure he boards the flight! Nows your turn to be mean...don't contemplate!!

okay

mencade5: nice point my brother...u dey mind all these beetches...fvck them. I dont advise them at all.

no mind them my brother... Their matter don tire me...

mencade5: my brother nice points. God bless u jor...that is how they are...i can never in this life advise any lady at all. Like u said, there could be a man then that was good for her, but becos of oyel money she took him for granted...naija ladies ole!

Honourable i hail oo

Onyiido: . The guess is as good as mine. In as much as I'm a lady, it pains me when i see a lady been in r/ship cuz the guy has money. Can't u make money on ur own? Op just forget that guy ooo, delete him from ur life $ start a new one with someone who knows ur worth. Thank me later.

My dear onyiido mos def nobody wants to suffer. We all love to enjoy talk less enjoying our relationship but money is not everything. Money is good but it can bring its own damage. My advice to her is to move on and she should look deep for a guy that really cares

FORGET HIM. NO CONTACT AT ALL.

My opinion.

andromida: The idea that this man mistreated you is something you should look into because it takes two to tango you actively participated in the relationship so how can you blame him for everything.

The question is why were you with someone who made you soo unhappy?

Why did you remain faithful to a man you were not married to and who had no value for you?a

Being pretty and attracting different men is not enough because you may be attracting different versions of your boyfriend.

This man cannot be your friend, he probably wants to add you to his harem the money is the lure so refuse him.

Brilliant piece.

Op, you stayed with a man who mistreated you? I m sure the dude is loaded financially. You guys will rather date a rich criminal than date honest broke man. So why are u complaining? The problem with u girls is your high insatiable love for money.

lynpetra: Abeg make I talk my own as e dey my head.Una know say I dey talk as e dey be me.
@op,this dey f^k you ontop say him no dey treat you good.Now he has babymamas and he is married.Abeg you no want gain anything from the relationship?Ok,I believe you have your own money,no probs,but you don c where money belle full person?You better bill am now wey him heart soft before him change mind.Which kind yeye pride be that one wey you dey do ontop man wey chop kpomo clean mouth kon enter another restaurant chop fish?Still carry the bones go house?

I pray oo, make I lose husband and money at the same time.God forbid!I must see one hold.The way you explain the guy matter sef,to take money better pass to get am as husband.



As for I.diotts wey go quote me talk nonsence,I dey toilet dey wrap shiiit wey I go stone person.

jenny2007:



Point of correction, i wasnt with him becos of money and in the three years that i dated him he only gave me money 3 times. i have my own business and have always been independent. he actually didnt like me working to earn my own money becos hes one of the men that a woman's place is just in the bedroom abd kitchen.

By d way wat r u looking 4 wit ur ex, did u two av an unfinishd business or wat, d guy mistreated u, physically abusd u, den he comes in sheeps clothing appologizin n sayn he wana make tinz ryt wit u, n u thinkn of taking heed to he words? Wat is wrong with u? M sure its dat same tin dat made u stay wit him den wen he was beatin ur a$$ dats still makin u tink of considering wat hez sayn, u nid 2 groom ur mind, groom ur thinking, dnt settle 4 less, u ought to knw d difference btwn wats right and what's wrong.
Do u want to be used by him again? R u finkin he'll jst give u money n he'll leave? Who told u dat, he will av hez way wit u, use u n dump u, n he'll move on

The koko DON dey hungry am agaain, run as fast as you can with your two like legs close

If she said she doesn't know she was dating a militant, she is a BIG liar...

andromida: The idea that this man mistreated you is something you should look into because it takes two to tango you actively participated in the relationship so how can you blame him for everything.

The question is why were you with someone who made you soo unhappy?

Why did you remain faithful to a man you were not married to and who had no value for you?

Being pretty and attracting different men is not enough because you may be attracting different versions of your boyfriend.

This man cannot be your friend, he probably wants to add you to his harem the money is the lure so refuse him.

oil and gas...that's the magic stick.hahaha

prettyboi1989:
By d way wat r u looking 4 wit ur ex, did u two av an unfinishd business or wat, d guy mistreated u, physically abusd u, den he comes in sheeps clothing appologizin n sayn he wana make tinz ryt wit u, n u thinkn of taking heed to he words? Wat is wrong with u? M sure its dat same tin dat made u stay wit him den wen he was beatin ur a$$ dats still makin u tink of considering wat hez sayn, u nid 2 groom ur mind, groom ur thinking, dnt settle 4 less, u ought to knw d difference btwn wats right and what's wrong.
Do u want to be used by him again? R u finkin he'll jst give u money n he'll leave? Who told u dat, he will av hez way wit u, use u n dump u, n he'll move on

Did u read d thing? No beating.

paranorman: Eya.. Pele.. I understand your Ex's reason for wanting to compesate you. Prob he's gotten remorseful and wants to set things right. I think you just forgive him and move on; if thats want he really wants and nothing more from you, forgive him.. About the money part, i say no. U are worth more than that and beleive me, ur man will come knockin at the door of ur heart and will love u genuinely*. Stick to ur self esteem and nver let one Ex wach dem down the drain... Ur man will come. Just be good.

I agreed too.. One thing I know about abusive men is they tune the abuse down,but change it takes more to change...4give him but "Please don't take his money" if you do he will be consoling himself with the fact that he paid you off...

carefreewannabe: FORGET HIM. NO CONTACT AT ALL.

My opinion.

but men with dat kind cash no too dey.

ferdimako:
Did u read d thing? No beating.

What is physical abuse? Hunh its laffing 2geda abi?

ferdimako:
but men with dat kind cash no too dey.

I don't care, personally.