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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Nobody: 5:25am On Sep 12, 2014
Your best friend should be your boyfriend.
She should tell her bf to step up his game or she end the relationship. Cheating is cheating.

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Nobody: 5:26am On Sep 12, 2014
I wouldn't say i believe or i don't believe in it..Depending on how it's being handled....so long as you could handle it well with out letting it affect your relationship...the question is can you really do so?
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Pdizzle(m): 5:28am On Sep 12, 2014
voodoo85:
i think its much more than physical cheating. sex may not mean anything but when u r sharing your soul with smbd thats the worst
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by dking123: 5:30am On Sep 12, 2014
Dcaliphate:
is the boyfriend going to marry her? a lady is free to select any guy she deems fit until there ia a commitment so dont talk about facing an uncertain relationship 'squarely'. udo.

But if her bf finds out and decides to leave let no one cry.

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by ugoezeik(m): 5:36am On Sep 12, 2014
wmen nd dogs are Siemens twins. giv wman fish she wil say she need meat, giv her fried rice she wil say she prefare garri ijebu, giv her toast bread she say she want burns. my question is, if dis issue nw is d opposite hw wil she take it. I wil advice men to kive wit it because their name is what their really are. woman( wore onto man)

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Jokay07(m): 5:37am On Sep 12, 2014
Arcasie: she has a boyfriend but shares a deep connection with another guy
deep connection with an outsider is the genesis of cheating. Your deep connection shud start or be with ur lover and anything apart from dat is an ''outside the arena'' game!!
Arcasie: their relationship is not sexual or anything but she just enjoys how interesting, witty, and understanding the guy is when they talk or chat and she tells him everything that she is going through
Op, are u nt tired of listening to her? tell the gurl to confess and save your time, what is the essence of relationship when someone can't share feelings to his/her lover. In this case, No trust, No love.
Arcasie: Its gotten so bad he's the 1st person she thinks of calling when she wakes up and her boyfriend doesn't even know about him.
now the deep and emotional connection has been established on a fast track. OP, when you get to office, ask her if she is love because this is a green light to the guy. The thought of the guy has occupied her heart wch is only meant for her lover.
Arcasie: she may get involved and she says its just a really great friendship and nothing more because she is not attracted sexually.
she is nt deceiving herself but deceiving Op, why won't/can't laid by a guy dat u are emotionally attracted to? Cut off the crap

Arcasie: is she still cheating if she is not sleeping with the guy
late question, ask her if she had started sleeping with d guy already.

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Nobody: 5:38am On Sep 12, 2014
Arcasie: A friend told me about a situation she is going through and that got me thinking about this emotional cheating thing.

she has a boyfriend but shares a deep connection with another guy. their relationship is not sexual or anything but she just enjoys how interesting, witty, and understanding the guy is when they talk or chat and she tells him everything that she is going through. Its gotten so bad he's the 1st person she thinks of calling when she wakes up and her boyfriend doesn't even know about him. I tell her to keep her distance from the guy cuz she may get involved and she says its just a really great friendship and nothing more because she is not attracted sexually.

is she still cheating if she is not sleeping with the guy?

The second guy is obviously more attractive to her
What is she still doing with the boyfriend?
She is not married,so what is stopping her ,she can leave him and face the more desirable bobo
What is the use having a boyfriend when your heart belongs to someone else
Just switch over and tell the old boyfriend that you are done.such is life
No need living a lie,it will backfire when it comes out for it surely will
She is a single lady and this is the time to go with her heart

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Nobody: 5:40am On Sep 12, 2014
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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by kazyhm(m): 5:40am On Sep 12, 2014
She beta be careful coz she has an ex already n she is cheating on ha new boifrnd wit ha ex!! As I often hear " woman don't knw who dey really love until afta marriage "
But in dis case she dosn't undastand wen sex is ordinary friction BTW two walls
Having sex wit sumone dosen't mean dating
A word is enough.....................................................[color=#000000][/color]
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Henrypraise: 5:43am On Sep 12, 2014
D op's description is wat I call cheating.

D diff btwn a man fu*kin outside n a woman fu*kin outside is dat d man won't get connected n do all des emotional stuff wit his mistress/ gf, des aspects ar d rights of his wife, but a woman does not av boundaries.

Abt d ops description, in no tym she will start comparisms btwn her bf n her "friend zoned" male friend n on one day, u will hear a shit de called tru love. Emotional cheatin is worse dan anytin.

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by obimurphy: 5:45am On Sep 12, 2014
Arcasie: A friend told me about a situation she is going through and that got me thinking about this emotional cheating thing.

she has a boyfriend but shares a deep connection with another guy. their relationship is not sexual or anything but she just enjoys how interesting, witty, and understanding the guy is when they talk or chat and she tells him everything that she is going through. Its gotten so bad he's the 1st person she thinks of calling when she wakes up and her boyfriend doesn't even know about him. I tell her to keep her distance from the guy cuz she may get involved and she says its just a really great friendship and nothing more because she is not attracted sexually.

is she still cheating if she is not sleeping with the guy?
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Skimpledawg(m): 5:46am On Sep 12, 2014
Ceasar1: I really don't know if this is cheating or not.

- But seriously she's getting too emotionally attached and this can repel with a devastating backlash, heart bruises inclusive.

One thing I do know for sure is she's emotionally hooking up with the wrong guy and she needs to stop.
Wah makes yu feel dats d wrong guy? Dude, we cnt state for sure whu is d right person for us, as for mua, any1 mah heart beats for continuosly shuld b d right psn....is like dat 'soul mate' thingy we hear bout in films!

#maOpiniontho# lipsrsealed

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by hillit: 5:48am On Sep 12, 2014
...She will soon luk 4 an avenue to quarrel wit d bf so she can switch ova( ur friend is not trustworthy). Watchout! She is abu to break wit her bf
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by papat26(m): 5:52am On Sep 12, 2014
let choose one and stop deceiving her self
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by papat26(m): 5:53am On Sep 12, 2014
let her choose one and stop deceiving her self
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by datguru: 5:56am On Sep 12, 2014
Thats friend zoning
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by kevoh(m): 6:02am On Sep 12, 2014
C-H-E-A-T-I-N-G. angry

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Nobody: 6:06am On Sep 12, 2014
Dcaliphate:
is the boyfriend going to marry her? a lady is free to select any guy she deems fit until there ia a commitment so dont talk about facing an uncertain relationship 'squarely'. udo.
Yeah, we have freedom to select any guy we want....Do you know the plans her boyfriend have for her??...Dont you think he ll be disappointed if he finds out they are very close and share somethings together??....Will you be happy if someone you love is doing this to you??...

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by kobonaire(m): 6:06am On Sep 12, 2014
One day the relationship may become physical ...
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by kobonaire(m): 6:10am On Sep 12, 2014
ugoezeik: wmen nd dogs are Siemens twins. giv wman fish she wil say she need meat, giv her fried rice she wil say she prefare garri ijebu, ......( wore onto man)
hope you know you have also included your mama and sister in that bizarre description .... by the way isn't Siemens a German company??

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by phadat(m): 6:11am On Sep 12, 2014
That guy dull oooh , so you mean the guy is the first thing on her mindwhen she wakes up cryThat guy dull oooh , so you mean the guy is the first thing on her mindwhen she wakes up, she really needs to prioritize is the guy really worth the break up of her current relationship and cut the connection with him before it's too late
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Nobody: 6:11am On Sep 12, 2014
Arcasie: A friend told me about a situation she is going through and that got me thinking about this emotional cheating thing.

she has a boyfriend but shares a deep connection with another guy. their relationship is not sexual or anything but she just enjoys how interesting, witty, and understanding the guy is when they talk or chat and she tells him everything that she is going through. Its gotten so bad he's the 1st person she thinks of calling when she wakes up and her boyfriend doesn't even know about him. I tell her to keep her distance from the guy cuz she may get involved and she says its just a really great friendship and nothing more because she is not attracted sexually.

is she still cheating if she is not sleeping with the guy?
my question is does she gt jelox wen anoda girl is around d guy?? Nd does it hurt u wen d does sumtin bad to u!! If YES den u r CHEATING!!!!
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Toks2008(m): 6:12am On Sep 12, 2014
@OP,yes she is still cheating and that can lead to a break in her real affair.

My marriage got destroyed as a result of emotional cheating.

My ex got to know one guy who she said she was matchmaking wth her friend but gradually got carried away and the guy will chat wth her for long on other issues to the extent that he strted shown interest in her.

He would call her on phone for long period dat when i call her,the one wll be engaged.

I sat her down to dscuss it wth her statn emphatcally dat im not against her havn friends male or female but should maintain proper decorum and again i dont like the fact that this guy cals her by the maiden name but shld addrrss her as Mrs,afterall he knew her aftr she got marid. But just like every lady willsay "HE IS JUST A FRIEND" And guys should watch it whenever their ladies use these words.

To cut the long story short one day,i entered her shop after calin her for mnutes n her phone was engaged and wen she saw me enter,she terminated the call and that nyt for the frst time i decided to check her phone and i realised dat this guy have ben expressn desire for her but rather than put a stop she was enjoying the whole thing and even asked tbe guy to read about her zodiac while in actual sense she ought to tell the guy to read about her friend.

Why im wrting all these sermon is to pkint out the ease of gettn involved in an emotional affair expcially bythe ladies and bfore they say jack,they become attached.

I cald her to xplain the crazy chat and she jst waved it aside and i smashed the android phone and after rhat the marriage began crumbling until it finally broke up wen i dscovered even a worse one on a facebk chat of hers accidentally where a guy wrote that he called her to make him cum

This is a tragic case of emotional infidelity because all she always say is they are juat friends and i kept wondering why she always get herself nvolved with dirty minded irresponsible low lifea as friends.

If u are a lady in a commited affair please avoid getting close to any male other than ur man to avoid emotional infidelity cos that will destroy your affair big time and most times the guy u got so attached with may not be into you as you are made to believe.

Watch it

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by kobonaire(m): 6:14am On Sep 12, 2014
ALKARULEZ615: Viewing this topic: ********and'45 guest(s)
Only 3 girls? See wetin girls dey do guys....
Hoes aint loyal...
I f'king know I am viewing this topic and do not need some nincompoop to tell me what I already know and can equally see at the bottom of the page
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by jabanz(m): 6:15am On Sep 12, 2014
Emotions involved-yes
calls him everyday-.yes
confide in him-yes
cheating? -whatelse undecided

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Chartey(m): 6:16am On Sep 12, 2014
MizMyColi:
You see, that's one mistake females are very prone to make.
Feeling and acting like they're married, when they're not.
We call it, "being faithful".

It becomes really irksome because, in most scenarios, these boyfriends are more like figure heads, they bring either little or nothing to the table.

Truth is, if as a single, I start developing extreme feelings of closeness to another, and in all honesty, it isn't sexual........
Then there most be something that guy is doing right, especially emotionally.


No, I'm not advocating that she dumps her man, uhn, uhn.......that'd be plain foolish, because for all we know, she just might be infatuated with this guy. Need I also point out that the male folk are better pretenders.

She needs to ask herself questions:
What is it about this guy that trips me so?
Is my boyfriend, despite his flaws, really all that I desire in a man?
Do I have needs that I haven't been as open in communicating, with my boyfriend?


That said, she has to take a break from the new guy already, yes she must take that break, to recollect herself emotionally (of course! It requires discipline).

I also know that when you commit to get married to an individual, more oft than not, someone else shows up, who makes your partner look like a big time learner......She just might be in that phase now. It's called Emotional Infidelity

I'll leave you with this quote I shared here just recently, hope it leaves you with some form of guidance smiley

"I'd rather be the prize you felt you deserved, than be the option you felt forced to settle for. If we BOTH don't feel blessed to have one another, then we shouldn't be together."
~Rob Hill Sr.

Good Morning.

I had to scroll up after reading to really make sure I wasn't the one who typed this. You even used the words I wanted to use.

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Nobody: 6:17am On Sep 12, 2014
kunlesehan: Having a female as a best friend is like having a chicken as a pet,...you will eat it some day.
lol

u r sighted

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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Nobody: 6:17am On Sep 12, 2014
MizMyColi:
You see, that's one mistake females are very prone to make.
Feeling and acting like they're married, when they're not.
We call it, "being faithful".

It becomes really irksome because, in most scenarios, these boyfriends are more like figure heads, they bring either little or nothing to the table.

Truth is, if as a single, I start developing extreme feelings of closeness to another, and in all honesty, it isn't sexual........
Then there most be something that guy is doing right, especially emotionally.


No, I'm not advocating that she dumps her man, uhn, uhn.......that'd be plain foolish, because for all we know, she just might be infatuated with this guy. Need I also point out that the male folk are better pretenders.

She needs to ask herself questions:
What is it about this guy that trips me so?
Is my boyfriend, despite his flaws, really all that I desire in a man?
Do I have needs that I haven't been as open in communicating, with my boyfriend?


That said, she has to take a break from the new guy already, yes she must take that break, to recollect herself emotionally (of course! It requires discipline).

I also know that when you commit to get married to an individual, more oft than not, someone else shows up, who makes your partner look like a big time learner......She just might be in that phase now. It's called Emotional Infidelity

I'll leave you with this quote I shared here just recently, hope it leaves you with some form of guidance smiley

"I'd rather be the prize you felt you deserved, than be the option you felt forced to settle for. If we BOTH don't feel blessed to have one another, then we shouldn't be together."
~Rob Hill Sr.

Good Morning.

...How about if this particular guy doesnt feel anything for her??maybe he just sess her like a normal close pal....what if the guy is a woman-wrapper??
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Toks2008(m): 6:19am On Sep 12, 2014
kobonaire: One day the relationship may become physical ...

Ofcourse almoat all physical affairs begin from within.

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