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Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by ALKARULEZ615(m): 6:19am On Sep 12, 2014 |
chidyhels: Your best friend should be your boyfriend.even if d BF "steps up" to Mount Everest...she'd stil cheat...most girls cheat...infact A*L GIRLS cheat... |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by shanktang(m): 6:19am On Sep 12, 2014 |
'The first person she wants to call when she wakes up' that says a lot already, she's already emotionally attached, and how can u define love without the emotions, it means she's already having dreams about him while at sleep, the earlier she tells herself the truth, the better, who does she really, want. And on the question, if its cheating on not, I don't know what else to call it, if the other guy is already taking the call of her boyfriend early in the morning, and taking the better place of her emotions. Hey. |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Mintayo(m): 6:20am On Sep 12, 2014 |
Which one is emotional cheating again, cheating is cheating please. |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by poiZon: 6:22am On Sep 12, 2014 |
to me its not cheating. :how will u call this cheating when it's a relationship that definitely will lead to no way? if the girl is under courtship or is bethroted to the guy then i will say she is cheating but under this boyfriend- girlfriend status, she is just just fine. and also what if the new GUY IS THE MAIN MAN DESIGN TO BE HER MR RIGHT IN FUTURE? Say person feeds u, pay ur school fees, dey give u all what not no mean say na him go marry u, maybe GOD send him ur way to be a primary hlper till the SECONDARY GET package. /gUYS TAKE note! 1 Like |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by ALKARULEZ615(m): 6:22am On Sep 12, 2014 |
kobonaire: I f'king know I am viewing this topic and do not need some nincompoop to tell me what I already know and can equally see at the bottom of the pagenow wey u don show urself say u hear english...oya rest |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by IYIMAN: 6:23am On Sep 12, 2014 |
Babymama1:. TRUE,, |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Toks2008(m): 6:30am On Sep 12, 2014 |
temigracie: ...How about if this particular guy doesnt feel anything for her??maybe he just sess her like a normal close pal....what if the guy is a woman-wrapper?? More often the guy may not really digg her. As he chats with you he does samewith other ladies. Honestly some ladies are fools and i mean a big time DUMB ASS. Please tell me,what siught of a man will continue to show interest in a lady who is engaged or married but a wayward bastard from the pitts of hell who has no regard for the santity of marriage andofcourse such a man will never value his own marriage. I have a principle that makes me diatant myself from any lady who tells me she is married,engaged or in a comitted relationship. I dstance myself from you no matter how i feel towards you and i have met ladies who have been seperated from their hubby yet i still believe seperation to me is not divorce. So honestly most ladies are so dumb and clueless that they will be in a committed relationship and just mess it up because they are infatuated to one low life who is probably just interested in screwn them and dumping them to move on to the next looosed dumb ass. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Nobody: 6:38am On Sep 12, 2014 |
she has no respect 4 her man. let her re-evaluate the relationship, to determine who she really wants and stick to him. but ryt nw she is cheating. and this kind of cheating were d heart is fully involved is worse than just avin casual sex 1 Like |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by leonshom(m): 6:39am On Sep 12, 2014 |
temigracie: ...Yeah, she is... well said ! |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by xkobans: 6:42am On Sep 12, 2014 |
poiZon: to me its not cheating. May God deliver your next victim. |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by kenex4ever(m): 6:43am On Sep 12, 2014 |
If u ask me, I would say d OP is d girl in question. U better choose one b4 it's too late 1 Like |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Kbraims(m): 6:44am On Sep 12, 2014 |
Dia ar so many type of cheatn,dis 1 is called partial cheatn... |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Toks2008(m): 6:45am On Sep 12, 2014 |
Babymama1: I simply laugh at the naivety of some ladies who claim they are in search of a man who will truly love them and appreciate them. Why i laugh is because deep inside these ladies,they know if a man truly desires and appreciates them but what they are actually looking for is totally different from what they claim. I have heard many ladies set standards as regards the type of man they want and there is absolutely nothing wrong in that except the fact that they cross the line by wanting to be with a man they have strong feelings for and even if they meet a man that truly desires them,as long as they don't have feelings for such man,its a NO. I'm sorry to tell you this truth; many ladies will end up been an object of ridicule in their affairs until they learn the fact that all you need is a man that will truly love,appreciate and value you and every other thing is secondary. Don;t be carried away by his money,looks or razzmatazz but be sensitive to know if he sincerely wants you and cherish you. If you are fortunate to have a prince charming who also truly desires you,good for you but never make this a must. Yes i agree that your feelings towards this person is important but your marital happiness does not lie in what you feel for him rather its the way he feels towards you. Of what use will it be if you end up marrying a man you are crazy about but will make you cry all the time? Of what use will it be if you end up with that man that has all you want except the fact that he turns you to a punching bag? Some ladies are actually fortunate to end up with man of their dreams but to be on the safer side,be sensitive to know if that man truly desires you because not every man that comes for your hand in marriage truly loves and cherishes you because many guys these days marry for selfish reasons. Trust me,its better to be with a man who truly wants,desires,appreciates you than to end up with a man you want but does not really wants you. Don't let any man manage you,whether you are short,too tall,lanky, fat,"ugly", cute,thin...i can assure you that there is a man out there who will love and appreciate you just the way you are. And the best part is that you will also fall in love in a short while with any man who truly shows you he cares even if he is a short fat ugly man.(watch beauty and the beast) and you will agree with me that all a woman needs is a man that will love and cherish her all the days of her life. That is the man you need,and not necessarily the man you are crazy about. Hope this helps 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by G12(m): 6:47am On Sep 12, 2014 |
Look at you all, someone has found her soul mate and y'all are here defending another nigga that would dumb her tomorrow for another b!tch. |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by jamillion: 6:49am On Sep 12, 2014 |
Well! I believe all depends on understanding frm both party.. |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by tellwisdom: 6:49am On Sep 12, 2014 |
You women are the most confused and foolish specie in our time. Why did you accept to date him in the first place when you knew you had no feelings for him??...This is the reason why i punch people on the face |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Nobody: 6:49am On Sep 12, 2014 |
temigracie: ...Yeah, she is...u lie babe...i nor support u at all...see...every body has dat somebody dey can confide in.....and it must not be ur lover...me sharing my tot with u and i feel safe while doing dat does not mean am cheating on my partner..like she rightly said...she is not sexualy attracted...she has found solace in a friend...dats just it...my opinion tho.... 2 Likes |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by 4C2215131: 6:50am On Sep 12, 2014 |
voodoo85: I keep telling folks sex is over-rated, just pheromones at work (not saying one should go about humping or getting humped by all and sundry). The OP's colleague relationship (if she had any in the first place ) is not about to hit the rocks BUT it's hit a huge boulder and is shattered already. She should spare her 'boyfriend' the sorrow and call it quits as the emotional flirting-fling thing she has on the side will be the demise of the relationship. This has gone beyond just having a 'friend' with a listening ear and loving disposition. This here situation is a precursor to a full blown cheating relationship. Just a matter of time. 1 Like |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by holyeye1989(m): 6:50am On Sep 12, 2014 |
Dcaliphate: So what do you mean is the boyfriend going to marry her? Do you know the type of relationship they are into? Pls you don't deceive urself that's the greatest decite.cheating is cheating weda he is going to marry her or not.pls honesty is the best legacy. 1 Like |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by G12(m): 6:52am On Sep 12, 2014 |
Toks2008: abeg all wetin u type na pure assumption. Nothing bad was said about the other guy apart from, so stop making wrong hypothesis already. The guy could be more loving than her bf. |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by eemalex(m): 6:55am On Sep 12, 2014 |
Arcasie: A friend told me about a situation she is going through and that got me thinking about this emotional cheating thing.Wow and there is dis girl that does dis to me, so she is actually cheating on her bf. Isalright |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Toks2008(m): 6:55am On Sep 12, 2014 |
You can be together and grow old together if both of you are willing to work it out. Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love. People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.” Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there, doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they call at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens) and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment just to start that same circle all again and later realize the former partner was way better than the present one and then some people opt out once more to start that same circle all over with another new person and at this point the world starts looking at you as a clueless no good person who can never be happy with anyone. The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person, it’s learning to love the person you found. Did you read that last paragraph?please get this once more; The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person, it’s learning to love the person you found. Loving someone is not by accident,its not a feeling,its a conscious decision by the people involved to be together and weather the storms together and not looking for an easy way out. The storms of lack,incompatibility childlessness, family scuffle,infidelity,bitterness,and many more. Until both of you are willing to make it work,only then will GOD come in to make it happen. Because two people can never work together except they agree. 15 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by femi4: 6:57am On Sep 12, 2014 |
MizMyColi:What give you the impression that the bf is not faithful or does not bring anythin to the table. The fact that she is getting worried about the level of closeness with the new guy shows that she still know the worth of her bf. |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by rattlesnake(m): 7:00am On Sep 12, 2014 |
It is Fantasies that worrying Ur friend....things are not always as they seem from afar..... |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by 4C2215131: 7:04am On Sep 12, 2014 |
patrickdarlins: u lie babe...i nor support u at all...see...every body has dat somebody dey can confide in.....and it must not be ur lover...me sharing my tot with u and i feel safe while doing dat does not mean am cheating on my partner..like she rightly said...she is not sexualy attracted...she has found solace in a friend...dats just it...my opinion tho.... Why do people mostly base 'cheating' on the concept of extra-relationship sex. Sex is just a manifestation of something deeper that has gone wrong. A mis-connection, a drifting apart, lack of belief et al. Sex is the way that the anomalies in a relationship manifests itself. More like the symptom of an inner disease, the disease being a state of dis-affection with your other half. It's the betrayal that hurts the most. That feeling that your other feel or think you are not worthy enough to be their all and all despite how much you love and care for them. This inference you draw from an act such as the OP described. If you don't feel 'safe' in divulging facts with your significant other then what is the essence of the relationship? Maybe it's just a physical one eh? If you can't trust your better half with your time, life, body and thoughts what's the point in being in a relationship? Remember this; someday sex will pass away, it's a natural progression-she's in menopause and he can't get it up anymore, what sustains the relationship then til death comes knocking is the friendship the OP's friend has found in someone else rather than her man, so what's the use of holding on to something you don't have in the first place. So if I were the unfortunate bloke, I'm walking away...(In Craig Davids voice). 4 Likes |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Project400: 7:05am On Sep 12, 2014 |
She's cheating on her future husband with her boyfriend & her bestfriend. 1 Like |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by 4C2215131: 7:07am On Sep 12, 2014 |
rattlesnake: It is Fantasies that worrying Ur friend....things are not always as they seem from afar..... Sho' you right. Like that girl that got married to a six foot cut out of the Twilight guy. (Don't mean to be sarcastic though...couldn't help myself). |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Lakayanah: 7:07am On Sep 12, 2014 |
I don't know what everyone is ranting about there are some people that if the world should come to an end you would not want to have anything to do with them sexually. God will have to create another set for them to multiply and subdue the earth. But they can be good friends and you would want to tell them everything about yourself. |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Nobody: 7:09am On Sep 12, 2014 |
INFATUATION! So she now thinks the new dude is so understanding and witty just over the phone lol I laugh. Mind you guys including me can fake reality, tell you what you want to hear and make you feel like it's a fairytale until you actually get the chance to spend time with them. Truth is she is attached emotional to the new guy and she can't object sex if they happen to be together. On a second thought I hope she is not just digging gold from his bf because I see no reason she should remain with someone that is not understanding, witty and bla bla bla. It's all a mirage and will fade away after sex. 3 Likes |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by poiZon: 7:10am On Sep 12, 2014 |
xkobans: hmmmm, its like u dont get me. but all d same life is beautiful when u live by the rules! |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by Arsenate(m): 7:13am On Sep 12, 2014 |
G12:but of course the new guy will appear perfect at the beginning. they are obviously not living together with the lady so she is not aware of his flaws. trust me he is not as perfect as she thinks. most guys, anyway, don't marry the ladies (wives especially) they snatch from another man. guys aren't as dumb as ladies. he'll always have it at the back of his mind that he might the next victim. cos smart bros know hoes ain't loyal. 3 Likes |
Re: Do You Believe In The Concept Of Emotional Cheating? by tuoyoojo(m): 7:14am On Sep 12, 2014 |
I have one question to ask Is this the guy in d zone that most guys dread? "Friendzone" |
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