tete7000:


It's really funny a feminine can come out and support this argument. Traditional religion and customary laws recognise and encourage polygamy, Christian marriage advocate monogamy - one man, one woman. How then can you tell me the two are one and the same? If you are a Christian woman, will you mind your husband have many wives? If yes, I doubt you are Christian indeed for that will conflict with the faith you profess, if no why are you living two-faced live? Based on this argument alone, you can see the laws upon which the two are based are contradictory and they cannot be one and same. Unfortunately when Christianity advocates these values, it is basically to uphold family structure and protect womanhood and wellbeing of children. It is thus unfortunate and sad when I see women come out and support this kind of idea. That people don't practice something does not invalidate the nobility of such thing. Infact it on basis of practice or non-practice of Godly vales that we have judgement with heaven and hell as rewards.

When our fathers were practicing polygamy was the societal values invalidated?

[quote author=Olufemiolaolu post=31021140][/quote]
Not "every woman".

koyyess:
And what are white dresses and suits made of, wood? Your post is filled with hate and hypocrisy. Very childish of you. It's your kind of woman that will complain of infidelity on the part of her husband when in actual fact, people who eventually attend her traditional wedding know that the African culture permits polygamy. Why wouldn't most women prefer white weddings?

It seems u find it difficult to comprehend simple write-up! First, u addressed me as a woman; that shows how blind u are to simple write-up. I'd suggest that u read properly before commenting! If u don't know what to comment, just move on!!! You must not exhibit shallowness for everyone to see. U are the one that sound childish if a closer look is taken at ur post because u absolutely missed the point by trying to comment in a hurry! The issue of suits being made from wood? I don't get it...in fact, u need orientation!!!

macof:


Then which ever of your forefathers that accepted a retrogressive religion that insults their identity as an independent people must be a moronic slave like you

Just like your choice and the choiice of those who sent you to school, made you accept to drop your language for English and the choice that made use accept the technology to type those nonsense makes you a slowpoke. I have no doubt about that. It's quite sad and unfortunate that many like you who suppose to be housed in a psychiatric home have been empowered with technolgy and social media to come around, type trash and given power to influence innocent and unsuspecting people with your sick and idiotic ideas. When you don't want to be a slave, you should have rejected white man education and remain in the bush probably hunting and engaging in subsistence farming like your forefathers did. Mumu, ode, dindinrin thinking with his head upside down since God knows when.

Amusaopeyemi:

Not "every woman".

Nice 2 knw

Rapmoney:

It seems u find it difficult to comprehend simple write-up! First, u addressed me as a woman; that shows how blind u are to simple write-up. I'd suggest that u read properly before commenting! If u don't know what to comment, just move on!!! You must not exhibit shallowness for everyone to see. U are the one that sound childish if a closer look is taken at ur post because u absolutely missed the point by trying to comment in a hurry! The issue of suits being made from wood? I don't get it...in fact, u need orientation!!!

Obviously you are the one that lacks comprehensive skills that's why you've failed to make sense out of it. But let's just assume I thought you were a woman, what could have been the reason?- it's because you actually reason like a silly woman that can't make meaningful argument and be objective about it. So everyone should read your silly post and dump white weddings huh? In your silly dreams.

food for thought

tete7000:


Just like your choice and the choiice of those who sent you to school, made you accept to drop your language for English and the choice that made use accept the technology to type those nonsense makes you a slowpoke. I have no doubt about that. It's quite sad and unfortunate that many like you who suppose to be housed in a psychiatric home have been empowered with technolgy and social media to come around, type trash and given power to influence innocent and unsuspecting people with your sick and idiotic ideas. When you don't want to be a slave, you should have rejected white man education and remain in the bush probably hunting and engaging in subsistence farming like your forefathers did. Mumu, ode, dindinrin thinking with his head upside down since God knows when.

This moronic son of a slave keeps proving me right. I can see ur foolish forefather that accepted a ridiculous religion has spilled his trait of foolish onto his children
In ur stupidity you think I cannot speak my language or hunting and farming are all black Africa does, am nt a slave like u that is worthless to society and a disgrace to humanity...only a self inflicted slave like you wouldn't know how to speak his language or know of his history.
white man education Look at this eediot, go ask ur stuupid white masters who taught them science and philosophy and gave them education. Moronic slave will always be a moronic slave and white shiit licker.

koyyess:
Obviously you are the one that lacks comprehensive skills that's why you've failed to make sense out of it. But let's just assume I thought you were a woman, what could have been the reason?- it's because you actually reason like a silly woman that can't make meaningful argument and be objective about it. So everyone should read your silly post and dump white weddings huh? In your silly dreams.

Another slowpoke. We can see boldly the sort of sexists you are.
So women are incapable of meaning argument? Am sure ur mother will be cheering

I agree with you @ Poster.

White wedding is gradually relegating Traditional wedding to the background.

The annoying part is that it costs much more than the Court and Traditional weddings put together.

If only we can introduce Rings and Certificates to our Traditional wedding, we won't need this irrelevant church/white wedding again.

It is a WASTE OF MONEY...period!

macof:

Another slowpoke. We can see boldly the sort of sexists you are.
So women are incapable of meaning argument? Am sure ur mother will be cheering

Another dumb oaf who lacks comprehensive skills. It's your type that can't differentiate between a 'woman' and a 'silly woman'. Keep your mother talk to your self- your background history is damn too boring.

koyyess:
Another dumb oaf who lacks comprehensive skills. It's your type that can't differentiate between a 'woman' and a 'silly woman'. Keep your mother talk to your self- your background history is damn too boring.

Ur silly pastor is dumb. And compared to u my comprehension skills are off the charts

keep deceiving urself. Here's wat u posted...
" I thought you were a woman, what
could have been the reason?- it's because
you actually reason like a silly woman"

Why would u think him a silly woman? Why not a silly man?
You know wat u wrote and trying to running around it. jst pathetic

macof:

Ur silly pastor is dumb. And compared to u my comprehension skills are off the charts

keep deceiving urself. Here's wat u posted...
" I thought you were a woman, what
could have been the reason?- it's because
you actually reason like a silly woman"

Why would u think him a silly woman? Why not a silly man?
You know wat u wrote and trying to running around it. jst pathetic

And what has a pastor got to do with the your assertive trash?. I don't need to tell you that women are generally emotional beings and can reason , talk and act based on that. Of course, that is not to say that there aren't exceptions( its just a general observation). So when I said the op reasons like a silly woman, I'm not just talking about any woman- I'm just being specific and as a man, I expected more from him . He has no problem with civilization but he forgets that civilization comes with being liberal. His posts were purely subjective- he reasons like a silly woman. Get it?!

koyyess:
And what has a pastor got to do with the your assertive trash?. I don't need to tell you that women are generally emotional beings and can reason , talk and act based on that. Of course, that is not to say that there aren't exceptions( its just a general observation). So when I said the op reasons like a silly woman, I'm not just talking about any woman- I'm just being specific and as a man, I expected more from him . He has no problem with civilization but he forgets that civilization comes with being liberal. His posts were purely subjective- he reasons like a silly woman. Get it?!

This guy is so daft. now I see you lack basic comprehension and intellect

Here's ur post again
1st one... " It's your kind of woman that will
complain of infidelity "
When the person u referring to isn't a woman, u said nothing about "reasoning like a woman, or silly woman" after realizing he was a man

Again u posted
"I thought you were a woman, what
could have been the reason?- it's because
you actually reason like a silly woman that
can't make meaningful argument "
Your mother would be so proud.

very clear motives to ur posts. If u can't even grasps your own words then am sorry u need to check a psychiatrist

koyyess:
Obviously you are the one that lacks comprehensive skills that's why you've failed to make sense out of it. But let's just assume I thought you were a woman, what could have been the reason?- it's because you actually reason like a silly woman that can't make meaningful argument and be objective about it. So everyone should read your silly post and dump white weddings huh? In your silly dreams.

Get lost!!! I have no business with people like u on this forum! Next time when u see my thread, save urself the stress and move to another thread!!! Nobody begged u to comment!!! SMH

macof:


This guy is so daft. now I see you lack basic comprehension and intellect

Here's ur post again
1st one... " It's your kind of woman that will
complain of infidelity "
When the person u referring to isn't a woman, u said nothing about "reasoning like a woman, or silly woman" after realizing he was a man

Again u posted
"I thought you were a woman, what
could have been the reason?- it's because
you actually reason like a silly woman that
can't make meaningful argument "
Your mother would be so proud.

very clear motives to ur posts. If u can't even grasps your own words then am sorry u need to check a psychiatrist

Your st*upidity is oozing over this thread. You must have been among those clueless students that would sit on the school fence and smoke weed while the english class went on. Perhaps all you should have done was to seek clarity before coming here to disgrace yourself. When I said - 'your kind of woman', didn't it occur to you that I probably could have been referring to the op's preference of a woman? It's an ambiguous phrase you iidiot. When you read, try reasoning from a broader perspective. It's not too hard, try exercising your brain more- it helps daft and shallow minded negros like your silly self.

Rapmoney:

Get lost!!! I have no business with people like u on this forum! Next time when u see my thread, save urself the stress and move to another thread!!! Nobody begged u to comment!!! SMH

Next time before you come up with this shiit. Make sure you are completely secluded from any form of civilization influenced by westerners. Till then, your hypocritical post will continue to look like a pile of cow dung, the size a dirty,abandoned duplex.

macof:


This moronic son of a slave keeps proving me right. I can see ur foolish forefather that accepted a ridiculous religion has spilled his trait of foolish onto his children
In ur stupidity you think I cannot speak my language or hunting and farming are all black Africa does, am nt a slave like u that is worthless to society and a disgrace to humanity...only a self inflicted slave like you wouldn't know how to speak his language or know of his history.
white man education Look at this eediot, go ask ur stuupid white masters who taught them science and philosophy and gave them education. Moronic slave will always be a moronic slave and white shiit licker.

You are one of the Nigerians the other tread claims are suffering from mental illness. Byeeeeee

apart from the show-off-thing that many nigerians are common with,the sin-issue raised by op,bothers one alot.you can imagine that even some pentecostal leaders would bring out doctrinal reasons why you must do a church wedding.so, it's like a must especially as a committed member.this was my experience with a friend.let's face it;'the church has promoted it more.' God help us.

I really love girls that do not believe in the white rubbish. My type. Thanks op, we need to wake up from this brainwash.

koyyess:
Your st*upidity is oozing over this thread. You must have been among those clueless students that would sit on the school fence and smoke weed while the english class went on. Perhaps all you should have done was to seek clarity before coming here to disgrace yourself. When I said - 'your kind of woman', didn't it occur to you that I probably could have been referring to the op's preference of a woman? It's an ambiguous phrase you iidiot. When you read, try reasoning from a broader perspective. It's not too hard, try exercising your brain more- it helps daft and shallow minded negros like your silly self.

Lmao the slowpoke knows how I was in school. Pls tell me more about myself that I don't know
Olofo osi, obviously that's the kind of immortality students of whatever trash and garbage school you attended possess.

You you twist and turn again your stupidity was so clear that nobody needs to ask for more clarity now u play dishonesty. Like I said earlier KEEP DECEIVING YOURSELF
sexist fool

tete7000:


You are one of the Nigerians the other tread claims are suffering from mental illness. Byeeeeee

well am not the one who has a low mental faculty like u

Yinkame123:
our suitable ladies are refusing getting married to eligible suitors because they cannot afford the so-called white wedding

misplaced priorities imo, if true.

joywendy:


lol!

Thanks, but pls don't. I brought this upon myself by commenting on something i had little knowledge on and letting my emotions guide me.

It is all part of life, at least i have learnt something today

Very good.

"... letting my emotions guide me", very obvious.

Well, I learnt too.
At the very beginning, I thought you were right to an extend until i started reading peoples quote.

Thanks to nairaland.

The answer is simple, get married in the manner/fashion that would make the marriage valid in the eyes of your personal society/community. If you know that your parents and people wouldn't recognize a trad wedding only then make sure they're satisfied. I'm pretty sure you already know what your people expect, especially women, we know that the man has to satisfy our culture before taking us away. So that's the end of that... Simple questions require simple solutions.

koyyess:
Next time before you come up with this shiit. Make sure you are completely secluded from any form of civilization influenced by westerners. Till then, your hypocritical post will continue to look like a pile of cow dung, the size a dirty,abandoned duplex.

Ur comments mean nothing and make no difference in this thread. By the way, am in my Stevie Wonders' mode I don't even see the haters

individual differences......... its shouldnt be a one side agreement guys, if ur babe want a white wedding! u dont hv a choice.

macof:


Lmao the slowpoke knows how I was in school. Pls tell me more about myself that I don't know
Olofo osi, obviously that's the kind of immortality students of whatever trash and garbage school you attended possess.

You you twist and turn again your stupidity was so clear that nobody needs to ask for more clarity now u play dishonesty. Like I said earlier KEEP DECEIVING YOURSELF
sexist fool

Just saw this empty ghetto trash you call speech. You and Rapmoney were mistakenly made for each other- dumb, deluded, illiterate fagg*ots.

haibe:
The real.truth is that majority of Africans have at least an atom of inferiority complex, however that of the Nigerian ladies is to the extreme.

Wedding is wedding, white wedding is just a white tradition of visiting the church for marriage binding, you don'thave to do this Iif you have wedded in the Nigerian way but since it is the dream of every lady to wear that beautiful wedding gown, they won't give up on this white wedding, oh yes, it is because of the sparklings and materiality that comes with this wedding that most ladies love it, not because they love God so much to want to visit a church for wedding..

So true everything you said

Rapmoney:


Who says certificate cannot be issued after a trad marriage? Would it not be the normal thing to do? And for your info, I never complained of white wedding being too expensive. When will you have sense The clothes we wear is just a case of world wide civilization!!! What are clothes made from? Cotton plants! Don't cotton grow in Africa? Or is it found only in the West? When has wearing clothes made from cotton become foreign culture? Abeg go sleep joor!

I agree those are lies that whites propagate about Africa that we didn't wear clothes prior to their coming to Africa which is a big fat lie.

What does Babban Riga, Agbada and Grand Boubou have to do with whites? When whites came to Timbuktu why did they remakr at the way people like Sonny Ali Ber and a few others dress. It's major bull crap how the lady you quoted is so brainwashed. Most women are brainwashed though and believe that white males are the saviours of Earth.

Very well said, I thank God that most young people are now being smarter, wiser and more african. Let us help restore our beautiful culture which is our identity.

Ishilove:
Who said it is a sin to sleep with your wife when her bride price has been paid and other necessary rites performed??

Smh. Colonial mentality

A pastor, Pastor Chris Ojigbani said white wedding is not biblical, and I agree with him totally. The weddings done in the bible were done in jewish traditional customs, so who can now tell me traditional/customary weddings are not necessary? What rubbish.

I have made up my mind a long time ago that I am not doing a 'white/church wedding'.

The best wedding is the African traditional wedding, a true way of living and dressing which is for Africans. We have for too long lived in the image and likeness of other races and other cultures. We have accepted their dress, their diets, their languages, their gods, their customs, etc. And what has it done for us?. Nothing but inequality and hatred. Dont follow those of our race who have converted to hate self and kind.