Fellow intellectuals in the NL forum, pls, i need ur intelligent advice on this matter. My fiancee and my mum are not really "gelling" the way i want them to be. And its giving me a lot of nytmares. I love my gal, and i love my mum and i want them to love each oda. But, its not happening.
i asked my gal y d repulsive r/ship btw both of them, she only told me that she feels uncomfortable in my mum's presence. Asked my mum same que, she said nothing. Just CONFUSED! I want a marriage where my wife will c m mum as her mother and my mum will take her like ha daughter.


Abeg, Wetin I go do!?

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ericpaul158705:
Fellow intellectuals in the NL forum, pls, i need ur intelligent advice on this matter. My fiancee and my mum are not really "gelling" the way i want them to be. And its giving me a lot of nytmares. I love my gal, and i love my mum and i want them to love each oda. But, its not happening.
i asked my gal y d repulsive r/ship btw both of them, she only told me that she feels uncomfortable in my mum's presence. Asked my mum same que, she said nothing. Just CONFUSED! I want a marriage where my wife will c m mum as her mother and my mum will take her like ha daughter.


Abeg, Wetin I go do!?

Dude u have a major problem
u cannot marry the girl if u have not full resolved this major problem
Call ur mother and ask her what is the problem?
Call both od them together-- tell them u need both of they to be happy

Sit your girl down and have a heart to heart talk. Tell her what your mum likes n what she doesn't so that she'll avoid what she (your mum) doesn't like. I think from there, your mum will get to like her * that's if there is nothing extra they are both hiding from you

Both your mum and your wife to be are lieing to you. There is something they are not telling you. The ealier you found out wht it is and resolve it the better for your future marriage. I cant imagine being in your situation oo, cos me by the time i handle both of them, there will be true confession

Feels uncomfortable in your mum's presence.




Sounds like she is scared she might notice something.

Like there is a skeleton in her cupboard.

ericpaul158705:
Fellow intellectuals in the NL forum, pls, i need ur intelligent advice on this matter. My fiancee and my mum are not really "gelling" the way i want them to be. And its giving me a lot of nytmares. I love my gal, and i love my mum and i want them to love each oda. But, its not happening.
i asked my gal y d repulsive r/ship btw both of them, she only told me that she feels uncomfortable in my mum's presence. Asked my mum same que, she said nothing. Just CONFUSED! I want a marriage where my wife will c m mum as her mother and my mum will take her like ha daughter.


Abeg, Wetin I go do!?

My humble advice is: Dump the girl without a second thought...

I am pretty sure "Yøu don't know what a MOM is boy?

Google what a MOM is...

Op you have carefully fish out whatever the problem is and settle it now else go get boxing materials and a first aid box because your house will be used as the boxing ring when you finally marry her!

Dude! Your story is not complete, so i can not really advice you properly
. Does your mum approve of the relationship?
. Is your mum a likeable person?(I have an aunt that will find fault in what even Jesus does)
. Is your babe the type that prefer to marry an orphan(so there will be no mother inlaw to share your attention)?
Answer these questions truthfully, talk to both of them separately to know why they don't get along.

@op.....either ur gal is cheating on u or there is something wrong about her that ur mum has noticed

DonaldGenes:



My humble advice is: Dump the girl without a second thought...

I am pretty sure "Yøu don't know what a MOM is boy?

Google what a MOM is...

dnT listen 2 him o o.jst becs d mum nd his fiancee r nt getn along does nt mean d issue kannot b tackled,we have so many marriages that were like that before and 2day they are best of frnds.if the lady was your sister would you say thesame thng?

Are you close to your girls' mum?

gunners160:
dnT listen 2 him o o.jst becs d mum nd his fiancee r nt getn along does nt mean d issue kannot b tackled,we have so many marriages that were like that before and 2day they are best of frnds.if the lady was your sister would you say thesame thng?

Just to make it crystal clear, Ask yourself " How many possible Girlfriends have you had since and how many Mom do you have?

Can yøur girlfriend clean up your $hit day in day out perhaps you were very sick, Boy,use your head

Can she take a bullet for Yøu? If yes,then use your head

faithugo64:
Op you have carefully fish out whatever the problem is and settle it now else go get boxing materials and a first aid box because your house will be used as the boxing ring!

Are you incredibly High or what?

Wtf you spewing?

DonaldGenes:

Are you incredibly High or what?

Wtf you spewing?

sori sir but the post was not directed to you!!!

DonaldGenes:


Just to make it crystal clear, Ask yourself " How many possible Girlfriends have you had since and how many Mom do you have?

Can yøur girlfriend clean up your $hit day in day out perhaps you were very sick, Boy,use your head

Can she take a bullet for Yøu? If yes,then use your head

sori 2 say wat u jst wrote is flabby.i am really flabbergasted that u r using d fact of weither she kan take a bullet 4 d guy or not.if we r 2 go by that,kan the mum also take a bullet 4 d op?besides,who knws mayb d mum is at fault bt d lady decides 2 kip it withn rself.the op neva pointed out dat his fiancee is bad or hv poor morals,y then r u suggestn break up when d issue kan b tackled verbally.pls b4 givn advice lets try 2 hv empathic understandng

DonaldGenes:



My humble advice is: Dump the girl without a second thought...

I am pretty sure "Yøu don't know what a MOM is boy?

Google what a MOM is...

dumb her because of what? OP is hiding somethings, think of it,what if she's your sister

They cnt juz hate demslvs like dah... Der must b a rizin. Dig deeper

.

Your fiancee needs to work on herself. She can't continue acting like this.

Maybe she is shy and timid. Maybe she is scared of not pleasing her like she want.

There's little or nothing your Mom can do. Afterall, she can't force your fiancee to have a normal conversation with it. Tell your fiancee to leave her protective shell...

It's either your wife to be is a pretender

or your mum needs some space

Your wife to be has to step up her games a bit cos she won't find it funny if she comes in this way or could it be that your mum doesn't fancy her.
Well, whichever it is ensure, this issue is resolved before tying the knots.
You wouldn't want to open a thread in the family section on this same issue after you must have married her.

3cycle:
Are you close to your girls' mum?

Sure, Very well. We speak on phone regularly. But its not happening in my gal's case

I see things, but I can't post it here.

Thanks guys. i so much appreciate all ur comments and advices. As far as i know, my gal s not a bad person neither my mum someone that doesnt like people. she does. My gal normally tells me that she feels she s bin assessed and watched whenever she s in my mum's presence. And my doesnt say any bad thing about her (my gal). Just dont understand these women.

Acidosis:
I see things, but I can't post it here.

Y?

3cycle:
Are you close to your girls' mum?

what has tha got to do with the post?

There's something abouh her which your mum is nat comfortable with.

Have a heart to heart talk with the two. Your mum ought to see her as her daughter and your gurl ought to see your mum as her second mum.

#goodluck

My brother be ready to be there Dad(your mum and fiance). Equal personality I guess

NinoBrown888:



what has tha got to do with the post?

Stop stalking me please.
I might deactivate my account if you don't.
I don't know how to tolerata your type.

ericpaul158705:





Sure, Very well. We speak on phone regularly. But its not happening in my gal's case

I guess she's the quiet type, give her some time and don't force her to go close to your mum. With time they will understand each other.

3cycle:

Stop stalking me please.
I might deactivate my account if you don't.
I don't know how to tolerata your type.

lol