Never thought that I would be back here saying this, but the wedding had to be called off as we ran into a complete brick wall. I found out some info that she didn't tell me for obvious reasons. It's really deflating when you think you know someone and then find out that you don't.

I honestly wished this could have been a story with a happy ending, but I guess it won't be. Signing out.

serubawon:

Never thought that I would be back here saying this, but the wedding had to be called off as we ran into a complete brick wall. I found out some info that she didn't tell me for obvious reasons. It's really deflating when you think you know someone and then find out that you don't.

I honestly wished this could have been a story with a happy ending, but I guess it won't be. Signing out.

Noooo! So sorry to hear that as I have been following your saga for quite some time.



I know what you mean about thinking you know someone, but it's better a broken engagement than a broken marriage anyway.

Don't worry, I know you will find your happy ending eventually!

serubawon:

Never thought that I would be back here saying this, but the wedding had to be called off as we ran into a complete brick wall. I found out some info that she didn't tell me for obvious reasons. It's really deflating when you think you know someone and then find out that you don't.

I honestly wished this could have been a story with a happy ending, but I guess it won't be. Signing out.

awwwwwww and i was ready to dance alanta @ ur wedding!

ikamefa:

  awwwwwww  and i was ready to dance alanta @ your wedding!

Not to worry,Dayo's place is always available especially for 'private alanta moves'.lol

@OP,Everything works out fine for God's children.Be of good cheer !

ikamefa:

awwwwwww and i was ready to dance alanta @ your wedding!

Not to worry,Dayo's place is always available especially for 'private alanta moves'.lol

@OP,Everything works out fine for God's children.Be of good cheer !

complete brickwall that sounds final with her. well mayb you can hook up with pritigrrr now.

ifyalways:

Not to worry,Dayo's place is always available especially for 'private alanta moves'.lol

na winch dayo be dat one?

@Nekai. Thanks, but I doubt it. I think I'm beginning to agree with the fact that real love comes around only once.

serubawon:

@Nekai. Thanks, but I doubt it. I think I'm beginning to agree with the fact that real love comes around only once.

4 d fact that i have been following yr story. not to worry, just dont zero yr mind just like taht, something good will come up soon IJN

Oh no! That's terrible.
Anyway maybe the stars have aligned for you to get with pretty girl. , just saying.

Wow!!!

i am new to nairaland and dis is d 1st story i have read that touched my heart. initially i thought it was a fake story by one of dese crazy men, but guess what, i actually know serubawon.d story sounded so familiar that i started doing some investigations of my own. don't worry serubawon, i wont leak d goodies on u, however just to let u know i know u think about dis, u attend one of d rccg's in houston right? d 1 on bissonnet to be precise.i gues u get d picture. u might have seen me but i dont tink u know mme at all. also i know d lady u dated. her name start with a.

well since u dont have a picture, i can say with confidence ladies dat he is handsome oooooooo. dis is going 2 be a lot of fun. me'll be watching u in church dis sunday serubawon. takia!

nemesis:

i am new to nairaland and dis is d 1st story i have read that touched my heart. initially i thought it was a fake story by one of dese crazy men, but guess what, i actually know serubawon.d story sounded so familiar that i started doing some investigations of my own. don't worry serubawon, i wont leak d goodies on u, however just to let u know i know u think about dis, u attend one of d rccg's in houston right? d 1 on bissonnet to be precise.i gues u get d picture. u might have seen me but i dont tink u know mme at all. also i know d lady u dated. her name start with a.

well since u dont have a picture, i can say with confidence ladies dat he is handsome oooooooo. dis is going 2 be a lot of fun. me'll be watching u in church dis sunday serubawon. takia!

. Who is this?

serubawon:

. Who is this?

As the name goes, it's NEMESIS. Like, ''ur worst nightmare''. She claims to know you. Probably does, so wat does she wanna achieve? To catch ur attention and probably get to meet her? Lol. Women. Someone will always know someone. Just move on wit ur life dear.

Wislet:

As the name goes, it's NEMESIS. Like, ''your worst nightmare''. She claims to know you. Probably does, so wat does she wanna achieve? To catch your attention and probably get to meet her? Lol. Women. Someone will always know someone. Just move on wit your life dear.

@wislet. 4 ur info, i'm not afta serubawon.just happen to know him and y do u tink i want to meet him. na wa 4 u women o.if i decide to reveal masef 2 him,den dats my prerogativ.i just tink it will be fun watching serubawon trying to pick me out of a crowd.come 2 tink about it,u neva know what might happen

^^^ I like you already.

Is he truly handsome? I can leave my husband for him?

nemesis:

@wislet. 4 your info, i'm not afta serubawon.just happen to know him and y do u tink i want to meet him. na wa 4 u women o.if i decide to reveal masef 2 him,den dats my prerogativ.i just tink it will be fun watching serubawon trying to pick me out of a crowd.come 2 tink about it,u neva know what might happen

Lol. ''u never know wat might happen''. Yes my dear, i agree with u- women sef. For real. U know u wanted to pique his interest wit ur statement, so he'll go searching.lol. Admit it. Anyways dat was a not-so-smart strategy. Now de young man wil be jumpy cos he doesn't know who is snooping/after his privacy.

Wislet:

Lol. ''u never know wat might happen''. Yes my dear, i agree with u- women sef. For real. U know u wanted to pique his interest wit your statement, so he'll go searching.lol. Admit it. Anyways dat was a not-so-smart strategy. Now de young man wil be jumpy cos he doesn't know who is snooping/after his privacy.

@wislet
nobody dey afta d poor man privacy jare.na public place i dey c am.serubawon where u dey na?i tot u would have joined d discussion by now ke.by d way,i saw u in church o. u wore a black suit nd its nice when a man fills out a suit nicely.im not trying to freak u out,but i needed to say that so u will know dat i really know u o.ur kids r really cute.good genes abi?

jennykadry:

^^^ I like you already.

Is he truly handsome? I can leave my husband for him?

@jennykadry. yes he is very cute nd no u cant leave ur husband 4 him.give us single ldies a fightin chance nd dont be greedy.i wish i culd post a pic of him but dat wuld be extremely out of taste nd wrong.dat reminds me,who is dis pweety girl sef.she is d only 1 dat looks like competition o.serubawon pls dont take dis personally o,but im really gettin a buzz with dis anonymous thingy.from what i know of u,ur a nice guy nd i wont disrespect u in any way.dats a promise.d chances of u knowing who i am is like a milion 2 one.dont worry,ur secret is safe wit me.ciao all.

nemesis:

@wislet
nobody dey afta d poor man privacy jare.na public place i dey c am.serubawon where u dey na?i tot u would have joined d discussion by now ke.by d way,i saw u in church o. u wore a black suit nd its nice when a man fills out a suit nicely.im not trying to freak u out,but i needed to say that so u will know dat i really know u o.your kids r really cute.good genes abi?
@jennykadry. yes he is very cute nd no u cant leave your husband 4 him.give us single ldies a fightin chance nd dont be greedy.i wish i culd post a pic of him but dat wuld be extremely out of taste nd wrong.dat reminds me,who is dis pweety girl sef.she is d only 1 dat looks like competition o.serubawon pls dont take dis personally o,but im really gettin a buzz with dis anonymous thingy.from what i know of u,your a nice guy nd i wont disrespect u in any way.dats a promise.d chances of u knowing who i am is like a milion 2 one.dont worry,your secret is safe wit me.ciao all.

Lol. U're real funny. Hehe. @jenny, LOL. U can try. Lmao. Our dear man already has a new r/ship & is hooked! So any aspiring lady- errrrrrmmmmm.lol @serubawon, dont be alarmed dear. Guess she's harmless.lol. Besides, wat u got to worry abt? A good woman plus beautiful children? Heck, anyone can know! Hav a great day.

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^^^Ki lo de please leave Van out of this

BTW nice tips. God bless your daughter. That girl will gbadun you dieee

@Serubobo

Please I am single and free, you wanno play?

chaircover:

@Nemesis you are going round this the wrong way and I hope you haven't missed your chance of "meeting" this handsome guy.

Now even if you go up to him and introduce yourself, you will scare him off because he will be worried that you will come here and spill any juicy beans for NL to feed on if the going gets rough.

Next time when you see someone you like, you find ways of subtly moving closer to him, and even though you are doing the chasing, you let him think that he is doing the chasing 

Both of you attending the same church even makes it so simple for you; someone you see at least every Sunday. step one is to Join his church department.

One Sunday park your car so close to his that he has to wait for you to come back before he can even open his car door then apologise profusely & put on your best smile, introduce yourself and if you have the nerve to, invite his family for lunch as an apology for keeping him waiting.

Plan B is to park very close to his car, then after service open your bonnet. Brothers don'tlike damsels in distress and he will likely come over to help you. The ball is then in your court.

If you cant do that then "aaccidentally drop your books (not bible o!) in front of him and if he is a gentleman he will get down to pick them up. Give him a pepsodent smile and say thank you. The following week go up to him, flash another smile and say thank you for last week.

Try and sit in front of him in church. Wear simple but elegant clothes and tie your gele a certain way so that you are noticed. Nothing loud or vulgar. Always smile, speak softly and wear light feminine perfume. So no Angel or Christian Dior Hypnotic Poison.

Try and be friends with his own friends, Be nice to his children, Gosh there is so much you can do to grab his attention.

Once you have his aattention and assuming that he likes what he sees then you can be friends and things may or may not progress from there; at least you tried.

Too many women wasting away waiting for a guy that they like to notice them. Make a subtle first move and step back for the guy to do the chasing . . . everyones happy.

I know you cant use any of these tips with serubawon cos he already knows these ones thanks to my loud mouth but I am sure that you can think up new ones to catch him 
Good Luck with the chasing 

oloju kokoro ni Jenny. She wants everything  I had to beat her off My Mr VV.

Good one dear. This is exactly wat i've been subtly trying to make the mama understand without spilling it here, but she's not quick to catch such things. Plus her trying to form like she's not interested in the guy, like i was a baby! Even Serubawon go know dis one. Lol.,,,though i think she's kinda late- de guy's already well hooked, with a good woman to boot! Hmmm. Plus, with this kinda tact (lack of) on her part, they mightn't last. He comes across as a really smart guy- de mind reading type.

True sha. I have to agree that she's going about it the wrong way. Serubawon is so protective of his kids, Infact he does not joke with them at all and she(nemesis) talking about the kids has actually spoilt any plan of serubawon being with her.

This is not the way to go about it. I also love the way he's ignored a lot of her replies. Very mature man, I must say.

i just like this kin one, enjoying it. Where is the guy now, i hope Nemesis did send him away.
chaircover gave you cool idea. also try to join choir, even if you no get good voice, stand for choir back

ummm, back to reading only mode.

Yea. And it's gonna put his defences up. I guess most ladies would be out of luck now cos he'd smell their pretenses a mile away. @serub, lol, i could almost see de smirk on ur face.

@nemesis please stick with chaircover advice.
I think you came on too strong,guys enjoy the hunt no matter how hard they pretend they don't!

Now at poster am sorry for your loss, but to come over here to NL and post how life is tough as a widower, how u lost ur wife, how women hunt you down in pack, how scared you re of relationship, how financially well off you are and how u finding it not too rosy bringing up your 2 kids is just plain silly and cheap, please, please, please, please, this will do the memory of your late wife no good and this I know you will be ashamed to show your kids this post of yours when they grow up.

One will think as an intelligent man you should know what to do (Did I hear the brother say YES) and please, please, please there are so many single and attractive loaded black brother out there financially, so dont for one moment think those rags of a women hovering all over you are worth their salt, why will any lady worth her salt hang around a widower with 2 children, please wake up and face reality, this rag post has got 7 pages now, dont desecrate the memory of your wife.

^^^ Why will any good thinking and smart lady bother with a widower and 2 kids, tell me the ladies that dont love new or good thing and a widower is not a good thing or a smart move, am also disappointed in all the ladies on this post, this just goes to show how cheap Nigeria women have become, am loving my life in England and have sinced moved on.

MOBO999:

^^^ Why will any good thinking and smart lady bother with a widower and 2 kids, tell me the ladies that dont love new or good thing and a widower is not a good thing or a smart move, am also disappointed in all the ladies on this post, this just goes to show how cheap Nigeria women have become, am loving my life in England and have sinced moved on.

@mobo, sometimes it pays to reason well before commenting. Did i say 'sometimes'? ALL the time. Who told you anybody here was interested in him <except one?>. And how does this discussion generate to insulting Nigerian women? U better be careful the way u run ur mouth where Nigerian women are concerned. And wat do u mean by saying he can't find a good woman? In ur myopic view(since u continually refuse to see beyond ur nose), being a widower is now a curse? U dont even worth a reply from anyone.

MOBO999:

Now at poster am sorry for your loss, but to come over here to NL and post how life is tough as a widower, how u lost your wife, how women hunt you down in pack, how scared you re of relationship, how financially well off you are and how u finding it not too rosy bringing up your 2 kids is just plain silly and cheap, please, please, please, please, this will do the memory of your late wife no good and this I know you will be ashamed to show your kids this post of yours when they grow up.

One will think as an intelligent man you should know what to do (Did I hear the brother say YES) and please, please, please there are so many single and attractive loaded black brother out there financially, so dont for one moment think those rags of a women hovering all over you are worth their salt, why will any lady worth her salt hang around a widower with 2 children, please wake up and face reality, this rag post has got 7 pages now, dont desecrate the memory of your wife.

This thread has been on for almost 5 years now and not once has anyone said anything offensive till now. I had to read your post twice and then calm down before I could reply. I'm sorry if you feel that way and if the way I express my feelings rubs you the wrong way, then kindly find another thread to express yourself. A lot of times I read the posts on this thread and it encourages me. I'm not the first guy to become a widower and unfortunately, I won't be the last. My late wife's memory has never been tainted till you came onto the scene and that makes you someone I would love to meet face to face and sort it out like men (i.e. if you're a guy to begin with). I've read Nemesis' posts, but decided not to answer because I felt it was better for me to hold my peace. In your case, I'll make an exception. Since you're the intelligence expert and you know it all, what the heck are you doing on this thread in the first place? It seems we're all beneath you, so kindly take your 'intelligent suggestions" to another thread where they might appreciate it (i.e. if anyone can actually appreciate anything emanating from someone like you). As much as I would love to really tell you my mind, I'm sure I would be an immense disappointment to all the other posters who have at one time or the other commented on this thread. This thread is supposed to be for mature individuals, so I guess you get the point.

@wislet, thanks for the backup. It was appreciated. You sounded like you were about to tear him a new ****** (sorry about that).
@nemesis. I appreciate the comments and more so your discretion. I'm not particularly bothered, but you were getting a little bit scary.

I apologize to everyone for letting off some steam, but this MOBO999 individual was beginning to get on my nerves.

@serubawon, dont bother wasting time on Mobo. He deliberately winds people up and many of us just ignore him.

I agree with you, his comments this time are very distasteful and disrespectful and he has stepped over the line between his dry and boring black women insults and tainting the memory of a very much loved one. However, dont let him get to you because that is what he wants.

I think you have/are doing really well under the circumstances. You are not the only widower/widow on NL, and I am sure that this thread has been a source of encouragement for many.