My honourable Nairalanders please I need your help. Its a long story but I'll summarise I just finished my service and travelled down to a relative's place just to change environment while waiting for a job. I joined a church and after a while decided to be a worker.few weeks later, I started receiving advances from several sisters of which I was able to ignore but there's one in my unit who has refused to back down she even came to me openly to proclaim her love and all that but the confusing part is that this lady which is a student is engaged to another student in her school and claims to love him too. Even though I feel a thing for her because of her beauty, intelligence godliness, and her been fun to be with yet I still maintain my ground of not accepting her advances but the pressure from her keeps increasing but I don't want any trouble.please what is the best way to handle this situation? Please I need matured and urgent advice. Thanks for your usual help and support.

the heart of women is desperately large... who can know it.?

loving forty pple at once.. is very possible with them..

my brother.. well, what has been engaged can be disengaged..

but be very sure of the choices u make.

@ kilokeys you're very correct but how can I be a party to her breaking her engagement especially when I knw the guy even though he's not my friend but he's a minister.

coache:
@ kilokeys you're very correct but how can I be a party to her breaking her engagement especially when I knw the guy even though he's not my friend but he's a minister.

just have it in mind.. a sharper guy might come along and she might still dump u for him..

its sad how girls exhibit the monkey syndrome by default
... she should break up with d pastor, stay single a while before u guys hit it off

its a common problem nowadays, a friend confronted one recently why she took the decision and not wait for the actual guy, she claim its her parent. Infact she is more confused than anything now. I just hope the guy take her out of town to far away tumbuktu in timberland. The guy is in the process of breaking his SIM sha because if the cat get out of the bag. Na world war ooooooo. ladies stay with your through love many do it for money only to realise that there is more to life than faking up reality.

Op do you have any serious intentions about her? I doubt. If you did, your topic would have been "I am in love with an engaged girl"

In other words, run for your own sanity and peace of mind

Op!what goes around,comes around.don't av anything 2 do with ha or u av urself 2 blame.

kilokeys:


just have it in mind.. a sharper guy might come along and she might still dump u for him..

its sad how girls exhibit the monkey syndrome by default
... she should break up with d pastor, stay single a while before u guys hit it off

Truth is I'm not sure I want to date her should she break her engagement cos it will be painful to the pastor cos we're all humans no matter our positions emotions will still be there and further more, I'm in a distant relationship of which I love my girl so much and I can say she kind of worships me (if I'm permitted to use such term)
I just want her to knw the implications of her actions and if she dnt love the pastor she should break off and be single instead but not for me.

disloman:
Op!what goes around,comes around.don't av anything 2 do with ha or u av urself 2 blame.

Agreed but how do I make her understand my decisions?

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Richiy:
Op do you have any serious intentions about her? I doubt. If you did, your topic would have been "I am in love with an engaged girl"

In other words, run for your own sanity and peace of mind

I totally agree with you but as a lady, how best do you think I should politely make her see reasons why her desires can not be allowed to survive without her feeling I'm treating her like a loosed girl?

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coache:

I totally agree with you but as a lady, how best do you think I should politely make her see reasons why her desires can not be allowed to survive without her feeling I'm treating her like a loosed girl?

This is the time to take extreme measures, assuming you have talked her and she has refused to listen. You have to start cutting ties with her and reducing the closeness of your relationship. This would send a message to her. BTW, you are only there temporarily sef. It would all pass.

Relocate if you can or you change church

coache:

Agreed but how do I make her understand my decisions?

U tell ha ur mind n stick 2 them xcept u sef wan tongbe

Richiy:



This is the time to take extreme measures, assuming you have talked her and she has refused to listen. You have to start cutting ties with her and reducing the closeness of your relationship. This would send a message to her. BTW, you are only there temporarily sef. It would all pass.

Thanks dear, you're so on point I'll do just that. Thanks again.

disloman:
U tell ha ur mind n stick 2 them xcept u sef wan tongbe

Thanks boss I'll maintain my stand and abt the latter part of ur statement.......I'm not that kinda guy. Thanks again

How can a student engage a fellow student. for how long will she wait?
The thing is that you don't love her. She wants to settle down asap.

Something fishy here, op talk true na... The story suppose be "she is engaged but i can't leave her alone" kidding o..no bashing

talktrue1:
How can a student engage a fellow student. for how long will she wait?
The thing is that you don't love her. She wants to settle down asap.

she's in her second year and engaged to a final year student so there's a chance of it working out especially as the guy in question is a pastor.

You complicated the whole issue somehow. If truly you love your girl as claimed by you, try to display her pix and always talk about her (calling her too) anytime that other girl is around. I think you're hiding your girl's identity from people. Sample her pix in your phone even as a screen saver. Thanks.

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