Here's the thing, an ex called me last week(my first boyfriend) to invite me to his wedding, the issue now is that I don't know if I should honour the invite, he said his wife insist he invites me(he didn't want to )I know he did love me and he was quite the model boyfriend then(he could pass for the types in mills$boons )and we have talked since the break up but I never thought he wouldn't invite me to his wedding, and now to call me to say his wife insists he invites me is kinda shocking/confusing, I always knew I would honour the invites I have the time to attend to,still I'm wondering if I should sit this one out, I partly want to go because it will be like a kind of reunion with old friends(even some who have to travel from very far for this) yet somehow, I feel like not going, he didn't sound happy to invite me, he was cold.

Would you go if you were the one?

Yes.

didn't read your post though.

tpiah01:
Yes.

didn't read your post though.

Lol, Tpia please don't let coogar see this post of yours.

Since the break up wasn't an acrimonious one,you can go if you feel like it. No harm done.

Only if I'm invited.

Yes.

I have been There before.

I will go if we ended our relationship in peace.

tpiah01:


didn't read your post though.

is not a must though

He didn't want to invite you maybe because you presence will stir up old feelings. Just saying! Still honour the invite, there's nothing there cold voice or not, take it like you wrote, "as a kind of re-union with old friends".

Bring jollof rice take away

To me, it's okay since it is d wife's wish.


Jst be urself there.

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woky:
is not a must though

No, it's not.

Was the break up a hell o' a drama?
Why think he'll never invite you to his wedding?

If what I'm thinking is right, it's best to sit out.
But if there isn't any sticky string btw ya, Go.

Yeah. Don't think too much.
Just honour the invitation, Daisy.

Dress well and attractive also. Very important.

Aprime:
Was the break up a hell o' a drama?
Why think he'll never invite you to his wedding?

If what I'm thinking is right, it's best to sit out.
But if there isn't any sticky string btw ya, Go.

Yeah. Don't think too much.
Just honour the invitation, Daisy.

Dress well and attractive also. Very important.

I said I never thought he wouldn't, not that he'll never.

There was a little drama but we both decided to be mature about it.

Do you have the impression that he doesn't want to have you there?

Mindfulness:
Do you have the impression that he doesn't want to have you there?

I'm not sure, not like he doesn't want me there per se, more like, it could be a distraction.

What's the relationship between you and the would-be wife. How did she know you to insist you grace her wedding

freecocoa:
I'm not sure, not like he doesn't want me there per se, more like, it could be a distraction.

So what does your gut feeling tell you?

Why does his wife want you there? Is she a friend?

ronald4lif:
What's the relationship between you and the would-be wife. How did she know you to insist you grace her wedding

My dear that's the part I find shocking and confusing.

I don't know his wife.

Mindfulness:


So what does your gut feeling tell you?

Why does his wife want you there? Is she a friend?

I don't know her.

freecocoa:
I don't know her.

You have not answered my other question.

If he sounded cold, pls don't go. He hopes you won't come but is only inviting you to please his wife.

And why on earth does she even want you there?

Mindfulness:


You have not answered my other question.

Oh!

Well I won't lie, I have mixed feelings, I don't know if it'll be comfortable for him or even me.

freecocoa:
My dear that's the part I find shocking and confusing.

I don't know his wife.

Then when next he brings up the issue of whether you will attend or not be reluctant to give a definite answer or say no. When he mentions that his fiancée is insisting you show up again then grill him about how did she knows about you. What has been he telling her about you and for what purpose.

This you must find out and from there you would be able to arrive at a better decision, to attend or not.

freecocoa:
Oh!

Well I won't lie, I have mixed feelings, I don't know if it'll be comfortable for him or even me.

Then you do not need this thread to know the answer to your question.

Wife wants ex to see something

cococandy:
If he sounded cold, pls don't go. He hopes you won't come but is only inviting you to please his wife.

And why on earth does she even want you there?

I guess I should not go, whenever I run into an old friend of ours, they always say something about he and I, my sister said maybe they've said it in her presence or something, so the lady just wants to meet me.

Mindfulness:


Then you do not need this thread to know the answer to your question.

A part of me reaaaalllyyyy want to go, I've made my peace with the break up a long time ago but I seem to just wonder, if you know what I mean.

ronald4lif:


Then when next he brings up the issue of whether you will attend or not be reluctant to give a definite answer or say no. When he mentions that his fiancée is insisting you show up again then grill him about how did she knows about you. What has been he telling her about you and for what purpose.

This you must find out and from there you would be able to arrive at a better decision, to attend or not.

I doubt he'll call again, I just gave him a maybe though.

freecocoa:
A part of me reaaaalllyyyy want to go, I've made my peace with the break up a long time ago but I seem to just wonder, if you know what I mean.

If you want to go and feel comfortable with the decision, then go.

I think it's really weird that the wife wants you there. Why??
To rub it in your face that she won the 'prize'? Or is she just one of those overly-pleasant people who don't know what awkward means? Because insisting that you attend her wedding seems kinda awkward to me