FrancisTony:
To the extent of having a blurry vision and swollen face, I don't think she should continue with the wedding..

If he really has an anger issue, she should ask him how many times he has beaten his mum or dad, boss, sisters/brothers, randomn peeps et al when they annoyed him & if the answer is NO, she should know the he has zero respect for her and she shouldn't marry that kind of a guy.

Kitme:
An online friend sent this.

*lets out a deep breath*

She alone knows this guy better than we all do.
While I would warn her that chances are that he will turn her into a punching bag should they get married (especially if at this stage, he is not making any visible sign of changing for better)....It would be a tad unrealistic of me to urge her to leave him, especially seeing as it's a growing mentality among our ladies of today that Husbands are scarce and half loaf is better than puff-puff.


Help me ask your friend this question.
What do you want in your intimate relationship and how far are you willing to go to get it?

What are the basics to you?

Can you honestly live with an abusive person?Can you take it if tomorrow he turns out to be someone who shows no respect for your dignity and womanhood?

Kit, I know you might be expecting a straight up answer from me...but I've learnt to handle issues of relationships with diplomacy and tact.

What if he truly regrets his actions and has resolved never ever to hit a woman in his life again?

What if that's the kind of person he has always been? Is there a chance that he has always shown wife beating tendencies?


Please don't dismiss the fears of your friend, they are genuine.

I don't know about her o.

But if I were in her shoes....I would put things on hold and think things through first.
I will.

If I decide to marry him after that, I want to be sure that I wasn't pressured into doing so because I was under pressure of how far the wedding preparations have gotten or what people might think.

I think what matters above all is that it's her life and her choice, whatever she makes of it is her responsibility.
As long as her decision gives her a sense of peace and quiet, I as her friend would definitely support

mayorkyzo:
Hmm you wannna marry someone and don't know he has temper issues..he would change doh..cant cancel a wedding cos of one slap else there would be no couples in nigeria...

Kitme:
An online friend sent this

He hit me few weeks to our wedding after an heated argument, my vision was blurry, my face swollen and immediately he did apologise and took me to the hospital.

He claimed he has anger issues and bad temper.

Should I continue with the wedding??
Won't I suffer future bruises?
Can he change for good??
What do you think, Kit??

Cc: Lalasticlala, Mizmycoli, FrancisTony, Cococandy, Truckpusher.

Please let's advice her!!
Cc: Lalasticlala
Mizmycoli, cococandy, francisTony

MizMyColi:


*lets out a deep breath*

She alone knows this guy better than we all do.
While I would warn her that chances are that he will turn her into a punching bag should they get married (especially if at this stage, he is not making any visible sign of changing for better)....It would be a tad unrealistic of me to urge her to leave him, especially seeing as it's a growing mentality among our ladies of today that Husbands are scarce and half loaf is better than puff-puff.


Help me ask your friend this question.
What do you want in your intimate relationship and how far are you willing to go to get it?

What are the basics to you?

Can you honestly live with an abusive person?Can you take it if tomorrow he turns out to be someone who shows no respect for your dignity and womanhood?

Kit, I know you might be expecting a straight up answer from me...but I've learnt to handle issues of relationships with diplomacy and tact.

What if he truly regrets his actions and has resolved never ever to hit a woman in his life again?

What if that's the kind of person he has always been? Is there a chance that he has always shown wife beating tendencies?


Please don't dismiss the fears of your friend, they are genuine.

I don't know about her o.

But if I were in her shoes....I would put things on hold and think things through first.
I will.

If I decide to marry him after that, I want to be sure that I wasn't pressured into doing so because I was under pressure of how far the wedding preparations have gotten or what people might think.

I think what matters above all is that it's her life and her choice, whatever she makes of it is her responsibility.
As long as her decision gives her a sense of peace and quiet, I as her friend would definitely support

Kitme:
An online friend sent this

He hit me few weeks to our wedding after an heated argument, my vision was blurry, my face swollen and immediately he did apologise and took me to the hospital.

He claimed he has anger issues and bad temper.

Should I continue with the wedding??
Won't I suffer future bruises?
Can he change for good??
What do you think, Kit??

Cc: Lalasticlala, Mizmycoli, FrancisTony, Cococandy, Truckpusher.

Please let's advice her!!
Cc: Lalasticlala
Mizmycoli, cococandy, francisTony

Mologi:
Rubbish!
Do you think men are saint,even the pope would do his mind if angered.
What caused the hitting,that's what you should be asking.If the bride had told him rubbish about his family...wouldn't he be vexed.

Pls you ppl should take time before destroying a young marriage

Kitme:

Truly, you're a limited edition.
I couldn't give her a straight answer too, because
1) I wasn't there when it happens
2)I don't know how condescending she sounded during the conversation

Thanks for your advice,

Hannysmilez:

wow...I just pray you would meet ur match. But ehn,just thank God u're nt my husband.

Hannysmilez:

wow...I just pray you would meet ur match. But ehn,just thank God u're nt my husband.

Truckpusher:
He will hit her again, mark my words and I'm sure she must have seen the red flags but choose to ignore like everyone of us does simply because we fail to see them through that eye after all they are the love of our life.

I once told my girlfriend that the day she would show any sign of aggressiveness towards me deserved or undeserved or push me to the edge that would make want to hit her, then the relationship is over for good.

Everything can be talked about no matter the level of your anger and vexation or you can simply walk away for the moment - In fact any form of verbal abuse is a red flag and I will not condone such from any person and I expect the opposite sex to do the same.

Truckpusher:
He will hit her again, mark my words and I'm sure she must have seen the red flags but choose to ignore like everyone of us does simply because we fail to see them through that eye after all they are the love of our life.

I once told my girlfriend that the day she would show any sign of aggressiveness towards me deserved or undeserved or push me to the edge that would make want to hit her, then the relationship is over for good.

Everything can be talked about no matter the level of your anger and vexation or you can simply walk away for the moment - In fact any form of verbal abuse is a red flag and I will not condone such from any person and I expect the opposite sex to do the same.

excellencyabia1:

since you wouldn't tolerate don't do it to another or you will attract it

Kitme:
An online friend sent this

He hit me few weeks to our wedding after an heated argument, my vision was blurry, my face swollen and immediately he did apologise and took me to the hospital.

He claimed he has anger issues and bad temper.

Should I continue with the wedding??
Won't I suffer future bruises?
Can he change for good??
What do you think, Kit??

Cc: Lalasticlala, Mizmycoli, FrancisTony, Cococandy, Truckpusher.

Please let's advice her!!
Cc: Lalasticlala
Mizmycoli, cococandy, francisTony