faith551:
Why would I even have sex with a lady am not married to without condom?
I know having kids is a nice experience, but am not ready to be called papa junior yet

trisha01:
We've heard it ALL before. Right, ladies?
"I know I should've insisted on using a condom ,
but he was just so hot/amazing/charming/
sexy/rich/famous/out of my league that I
didn't want to risk ruining the moment."
Let's just take a moment to explore what that
actually means, shall we? So basically, what's
being said here is that you didn't want to risk
ruining the moment by insisting the guy wear a
condom, but you were totally down with risking
your entire life, health and future?
Condom negotiation really comes down to self-
esteem, self-respect and self-love. If we
actually respect ourselves and our bodies—if
we truly commit to practicing self-love and
protective measures to keep ourselves safe and
healthy at all times—we wouldn't even think
about compromising our sexual health and
safety for anyone.
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And please don't go by the "he/she looks
clean" line based on their level of attractiveness
or sex appeal because the reality is, the sexier
and the better looking they are, the more sexual
opportunity they have. What that REALLY
means is more times they got lucky and
managed to sweet-talk some poor sucker
(pardon the pun) into doing the deed unprotected
after using their token, adorable pouts and
playing the oh-please-but-i-really-like-you
card.
Next time you're in a similar situation, here are
some witty counter-responses to address
these 7 slimy old excuses a guy may use to
coerce you into having unsafe sex:

1. "But I love you."
Yes, and the things we love can often kill us like
chocolate, laughter, dancing, combat computer
games and taking selfies whilst on vacation.
Whether you love me or not, there's no way I'm having sex with you without a condom because
I love myself enough to care about my body
and my health. Conversation OVER.

2. "But I work out/I'm a health freak."
Boy, I know you can lift, but do you even read?
Maybe if you spent as much time educating
yourself about sexual health as you did bench
pressing, we wouldn't need to have this
conversation. Read my lips, Hercules: No
condom, no sex.

3. "But I'm a medical professional (or other
health professional of some sort)."
Yeah, so was Dr. Jekyll, and Lord knows he
had a hell of a lot to Hyde. What you do for a
living doesn't correlate with how sexually
responsible or safe you are. Just think cocaine
and sex worker-addicted ex-neurosurgeon Dr.
Suresh Nair, found guilty of the manslaughter of
two Sydney escorts. Having to argue with you
about why I insist on using condoms is the
OPPOSITE of sexy. I’m done explaining myself
to you.

4. "None of the other women I've been with
insisted on condoms. Maybe you have
something you're not telling me."
Well yes, as a matter of fact, I do have a few
things I'm not telling you about (like, oh I don't
know, dignity, intelligence and self-respect for a
start!). Comparing me to other women you’ve
been intimate with and questioning my sexual
health status simply because I am sexually
responsible and practice safe sex isn’t really
my idea of pre-intimacy. I'm glad I've seen your true
character. Thank you, I'm leaving now.

5. "But I'm married/I have kids."
So did Robert Reed from the Brady Bunch but
that didn't save him now, did it? (R.I.P. Mike
Brady.) Sorry, but your DILF status doesn't
make you any less susceptible to STI's. My
stance on safe sex is non-negotiable, and if
you're not willing to respect my personal
choices, I don't think our relationship needs to
continue.

6. "We don't need to use condoms because
you can't get pregnant."
Well, technically speaking, neither could the
Virgin Mary, but baby Jesus was living proof
that stranger things have happened. And
besides, an unwanted pregnancy is the least of
my concerns when it comes to unsafe sex. I
don't know about you, but I'd much rather have
a bump on my belly than someplace else. With
God as my witness, I don't risk my sexual
health and safety for anyone. No condoms, no
sex. Amen.

7. "But no one our age uses condoms. That
safe sex stuff is just for young people and
doesn't apply to us oldies."
Honey, your sexual health knowledge is just
about as outdated as your genitals. There has
been a dramatic global rise in STI's among
seniors in the last few years, so as long as
we're having sex, condoms are as necessary
and applicable to us as they are anyone else.
Age does not equal STI immunity. Get with the
program Old Boy—no condom, no crumpet. Got
it?
Oh, and just in case the anachronous "I'm
allergic to latex/condoms" spiel gets thrown
your way, please note that non-latex condoms
made from polyisoprene are available in all
major stores, supermarkets and convenience
stores.
And to keep you one step ahead of the old "I
don't have a condom with me" defense, step
up and be a woman of the Millennia; keep a
couple of HEROs in your handbag or purse just
in case. For women living in the year 2015,
carrying condoms doesn't make you a LovePeddler, it
makes you smart, prepared and responsible.
Practicing sexual health protection measures
doesn't suggest promiscuity, but it does
scream self-love and respect.
By not standing up and asserting your right to
practice safe sex to the men out there who
insist upon challenging responsible sexual
health practices, you are actually contributing
to the problem. You're making it extra difficult
for the women who ARE confident and
unashamed to stand their sexual ground.

Don't be that girl.

ginawest:
some will even say "my d*ck is too big"

PunkyVeer:
@ #4

If he said that, I'd be scared to even sleep with him with a condom. That means going raw is a habit for him.

Youngpo413:
Naija ladies hates condoms,they will be very happy if yyou fuccck raw,forget all their use condoms "tori" its copy and paste and in reality they don't mean it.

PunkyVeer:


Wow, really? Maybe they haven't seen someone dying of AIDS before.

Jolllyjoy:
I think a guy is supposed to insist on using condoms knowing fully well he isnt ready for undue responsibilities..



All those immature dudes.

arnold123:
it is only a stewpid bitatch that don't now how to target her ovulation period

Jolllyjoy:
what a mentality!

Jolllyjoy:
what a mentality!

arnold123:
I saw ur pic ur fuaking ugly