intbizoil:
Guys should demand respect and loyalty from their woman. If you don't get such then speedily send her on her way. If her interest has veered away from you then thats a sure red flag.

Tallesty1:
Marry her bro, and you will have the right to demand respect and loyalty from her.



They're better earned though.

tunnamania11:

How do u expect a guy to consider marrying a girl that doesn't accord him respect ?
Do you think such marriage would last a year?

Tallesty1:
Women rarely disrespect guys that respect themselves.

Tallesty1:
Do you have friends?

Khd95:
Ignore her too,for a week(s)
then watch her reaction,if she doesnt change,continue to ignore her,ladies love attention like weyrey,so deny her one.

Oliviaarims:
The OP hasn't said she's disrespectful. She's simply facing other aspects of her life... Spending time with her girlfriends. I see nothing wrong in that. Maybe she needs a break... Some distance or sth. OP, she's probably going through a phase and she feels perhaps u're not the best person to help her pull through.... Or it could be that u're the reason for this new development.



Just try to be understanding and give her some time. Reduce the number of visits u pay her.. Reduce ur calls too. Just give her time to do what she wants. She'll come around in no time

Richy4:
Please next time, try and write in plain English language or something that someone can understand. I am not so sure but let me summarize what I thought you were trying to say

<<<< You were dating a girl 2 years older than you
<<<<You have a concern that she does not care anymore
<<<< she spent a lot of time with her friends and you are not comfortable with it... correct?

If all I have summarized was correct, then you need a little bit of growing up to do. for the fact that she was dating you or you were dating each other does not mean she will be there all the time for you. she has friends you know? those she knew before she met you. you do not expect her to abandon all her friends because you are the boyfriend.

Secondly, you are not married to her yet. if you do, that means you will not even permit her to visit her parent once in a while
There's a prayer point I usually do anything time I manage to go to church and they say pray for your family. I will say God please do not allow my female cousins to fall into the hand of possessive men..... this is because they are more deadlier than AIDS.

Finally, I know you loved her, but she needs some breathing space. a little time out. please understand that and when you put ring on it, it will be a different matter. for now you are just a thieve, you are stealing the show without her parent's knowledge. and thieves do not talk when they are stealing... when you became the owner, then you will be free to talk...



please ignore the advice if what I summarize was not what you meant. I DON'T READ THAT KIND OF SHORT HAND. I thought you needed urgent advice

Philtim:
thnks olivia

Philtim:
nice one....but lemme correct ur summary a bit...am older dan she is pls,nd again am engaged to her nd its jst a matter of time before i put a ring on it.d truth is am never possessive in any aspect neither am i bossy...but i wasnt asking for too much trying to save my relationship.but it seems she doesnt care.

Thank you for correcting my summary.. But you are punishing me again by writing like this after pleading with you that I hated this kind of abbreviation....

Would you kindly give me two examples of her "I don't care" attitude that she has exhibited that is pissing you off.
There are some that are pardonable and there are some that needed to be addressed. just give me an example so that people might help to judge if it needed to be addressed immediately before you put the ring or just the normal ladies ways of acting.....

Please for my sake, no more short hand