Am an outgoing girl dat loves life & loves 2 laugh.but lately,dis no-job thing has kinda made me a fertile ground 4 any Hot dude 2 spit out his ullshit abt getn laid,my friends hv changed etc.the thing is,am almost like a hermit,no friends,no laughter & no groove.am thinkn of volunteering 2 work in an orphanage.but,really guys i need ur help on wat 2 do wit me right now.i dnt like the new me one bit! thanks y'all.

my dear, i do understand your plight. i was once in such a situation myself and worse still was that i broke up with my ex in that jobless state; so you can imagine the hurt that i went through.
i am of the opinion that any good thing that you can find or lay your hands on, please gainfully engage yourself. that will keep you occupied and you'll have no time for entertaining the rubbish some freaks might bring your way. that orphanage work is just a right step in the right direction. you can never tell the kind of personalities you'll meet there in the course of doing this job. they might be the ones God might use to kick start your career in life.
Just be positive about life. when the night seems darkest, the dawn is just about to break.

Dvampire,thanks alot! ur msg really lifted my spirit.

honey just be ursef and think straight.
sth gud is coming ur way

I think the devil finds work for idle minds, i suggest you take up a hobby or learn a new skill in the meantime before you get yourself a job. it will keep you busy physically and emotionally--you might even earn some money without waiting for a guy to pay your bills.

this is y am scared of goin into a relationship.heart break . cuddle just take thns easy.

@dvampire
you have got a good point there.

dvampire i think u are a christain.God bless u man.cuddle it hurts knowing that u are loosing Ur dignity as a lady.u can still make amends we all fall to rise up,the test of a true overcomer is the ability to rise when u fall.just shake off that feeling and guilt.move on with Ur life.acquire a skill or something get busy.when u are idle u think of stupid things and the creativity in u dies.that orphanage thing is a nice idea.God can send a helper to u from there,u just have to be deligent in it.God will give u the grace to be what and who u wanna be.

cuddle, just take heart. Know first that u are not responsible for yuor joblessly, hence dont push urself into depression.
God will make u walk again with urheads upright

@cuddle

Aaaaaaaaw!So touching.
Funny thing is I'm happy for u in a funny sortta way;reason being y'seem to know what u want(at least y'know what u don't want which is a very good start).
 Like other peeps've said keep yourself busy.Keep being on the look out for opportunities.
Find som'n u really love 2do n' u are good at.Y'see there're some things some people can do dt are not too popular/recognised yet but believe me if u've got a flair for it give it your best shot.Y'may just be the one to pioneer som'n great.Most pple simply follow trails others've blazed.
 Are u good at relating wth people?-then get involved in an NGO dt's people oriented.
The orphanage thing sounds like a good idea but be prepared for possible let-downs(I've tried it before but u may have a completely different experience especially if u're better prepared mentally)
Truth be told-Opportunities abound only in people so please don't just shut yourself in.Get involved-with d right kind of people.
 Wish u d very best.

hey guys,thanks y'all. @ iice: thanks for sticking out for me. @ bolarge: 'let-downs?' pls cud u elaborate on this? thanks. @ harvey: u sure u can read and understand well? I CANT REMEMBER SAYING MY DIGNITY ISN'T INTACT!!!!!

Oh well t'wasn't exactly what I expected.Y'know I kinda expected a lot more love,empathy,what have u.That Mother Theresa touch but damn!some of those women cld've been executioners. Not funny at all.
Like I said earlier, don't let dt discourage u pls.

I have been in those shoes before my b/f left me for another girl i had no job and no friends , so i decided to go for this mountain of fire 3days fasting and praying , firstly my b/f ame back begging then i got a fantastic job,, there is nothing like commiting yourself into Gods hands , you can do the orphanage thing which is a very good start, just have it in mind that he is watching you and things are only like this now because the future holds better things for you. As he said in his words my plans for you are not of evil but of good , but to give you an expected end , God will grant you the grace .