SpicyJosBabe:
It started many weeks back i met this guy at an event, we exchanged numbers and since then we have been very close. We have gone out on dates together and i must confess that my love for this guy has grown so much that hardly a day goes by that i don't think of him and the same thing on his own path towards me.

I got the shock of my life 3 days ago when i was with this guy and somehow our conversation veered towards religious issues seriously for the first time and he told me plainly that he does not believe in God, i taught he was joking at first until i confronted him and he told me that he is an Atheist and nothing i can do to make him change his belief, that i either accept him for who he is or nothing else.
He said he can accept me for my religion and if our relationship leads to marriage, i can maintain my belief and he maintains his own.

I was born a christian and from a strict religious home and i still maintain christian values on my own even though i may not be so much religiously strict.
I blame myself though for not noticing this about him earlier, because initially i slighlty noticed that whenever i make religious exclamations, he acts uneasy and always changes the topic whenever i tilt towards religious discussions. We are in the same profession so most times our discussions are in that direction.

I left his place since that day and we have not spoken since then, but this guy's thoughts cannot leave my heart. He is the most wonderful guy i have met in my life, he has all the qualities i want in a man (except for religion), and my heart cannot just let go.
Pls, what should i do? I have never been so confused b4.

Two cannot work together excpty they agree. When all components are tested in the course of marriage, there has to be some sort of spiritual unity to overcome. That's where your beliefs come in. Which way will the children follow? Let him be. Your better half will come.

Chii59:
Only if your faith is of no serious importance to you.
How do you talk about God with someone who doesn't believe in the existence of God? Truth is, I can't have a deep conversation without hinting at my faith. Instead, I'll remain single.

Haba! This topic is almost 6 years old, and the person that created it has not been online since 2017, so who are you advising?

SpicyJosBabe:
It started many weeks back i met this guy at an event, we exchanged numbers and since then we have been very close. We have gone out on dates together and i must confess that my love for this guy has grown so much that hardly a day goes by that i don't think of him and the same thing on his own path towards me.

I got the shock of my life 3 days ago when i was with this guy and somehow our conversation veered towards religious issues seriously for the first time and he told me plainly that he does not believe in God, i taught he was joking at first until i confronted him and he told me that he is an Atheist and nothing i can do to make him change his belief, that i either accept him for who he is or nothing else.
He said he can accept me for my religion and if our relationship leads to marriage, i can maintain my belief and he maintains his own.

I was born a christian and from a strict religious home and i still maintain christian values on my own even though i may not be so much religiously strict.
I blame myself though for not noticing this about him earlier, because initially i slighlty noticed that whenever i make religious exclamations, he acts uneasy and always changes the topic whenever i tilt towards religious discussions. We are in the same profession so most times our discussions are in that direction.

I left his place since that day and we have not spoken since then, but this guy's thoughts cannot leave my heart. He is the most wonderful guy i have met in my life, he has all the qualities i want in a man (except for religion), and my heart cannot just let go.
Pls, what should i do? I have never been so confused b4.

just ask him this about your unborn children.

nothing is wrong if you marry him... by allowing you to go and worship but when you do more than he expect that might be a real problem

everything goes about you managing him. that's all

I'll real honest here...him not having a belief is his problem, u having a belief is ur problem but the fact remains that our beliefs and culture help shape our response to life. u can deny it if u want..love is sweet and beautiful but it alone can't hold marriage...when storms of marriage come because the will come...how do u guys stand...ur belief system already puts u guys in disunity.. and finally anyone telling u that is it just the two of u who matter...I think is wrong, family and friends are ur support system..people might deny it but is it still a fact..so my question is how far are u willing to dislodge ur support system for this guy..what are u willing to risk, will it be worth it..

simplex2:
You finally had the chance to fall in love with an atheist and you are complaining.

Atheists don't worship god, so he will direct all his worship on you; you will be loved, cherished, adored, revered, cared for, pampered and literally worshiped!

wow....a lot of fantasy thought u have up here

N2B2:


Haba! This topic is almost 6 years old, and the person that created it has not been online since 2017, so who are you advising?