i was in a relationship with this guy, he's dis principled type nd i bliev dats y he's still unmarried. We broke up late last yr nd he stil keeps in touch. Truth is, i still luv him bt i was heart-broken afta d drama-filld break up. He keeps sayin stuffs dat r suggestin dat he wants me back, but i think he's stil d same person. Please i nid advice as i'm sooo confused.

what are his faults?

how did it go, what did he do

what exactly is he unbendin abt,is he principled 2wards enviable things or otherwise;bein suggestive is nt good enuf,if he cnt b crystal clear abt hs feelings,then i guess his nxt door neighbour is indecision,i'd say u gve ur mind 2 mre productive thinkin rathr thn bein confusd ovr someone who's probably confusd 2.by d way,y did u break up

since u said u r stil inlove wt hm,u mght decide 2 help hm cross d indecision valley by askin hm if he wnts u bck,bt since he's stil d same persn u left thn expct d same old heartaches.

what is so disciplined about him? he doesnt allow u see other men or what

what is the cause of the first break-up.

I dont really understand what u meant by he is too principled, how do u mean and what really caused the breakup?
these are things u need to shed light on so as to be able to get reasonable responses frm nairalanders

@poster
We can only advise you if we knew the guy well.
Unfortunately, you sabi the guy better than everyone of us.

Best advice: If you are not convinced, don't get back to the r/lshp.

i'm so sorrry i'vnt bn available to respond, v bn ill nd jst recoverin. I rily appreciate all ur reponses. tanks, 2 answer ur questions.

simeonval:

what is so disciplined about him? he doesnt allow u see other men or what

olanajim:

what are his faults?

It's nt about men, he doesnt bend @all, i bliev in a relatnship, we learn, change positively nd compromise 1 or 2 things to make it work. He's more /less d do as i say type. i think he'snt comfortabl with d long distance relatnshp, he stays in d North nd i stay in d West. I gues he nids sm1 around.

Blueice4re:

what is the cause of the first break-up.

1one:

what exactly is he unbendin abt,is he principled 2wards enviable things or otherwise;bein suggestive is nt good enuf,if he cnt b crystal clear abt hs feelings,then i guess his nxt door neighbour is indecision,i'd say u gve your mind 2 mre productive thinkin rathr thn bein confusd ovr someone who's probably confusd 2.by d way,y did u break up

I felt i'v had enuf cos i kept on tellin him 2do smthn nd he didnt so we got in2 a fight, I apologised, he said he doesnt bliev in 2nd chance. dat abt sums it up. @1one, yeah, i realy thnk he's indecisive nd confused. wtf, dnt nid emotnal baggage nw. tanx

@Poster, Do you really want to put yourself into all that stress again.

If you think you want him for your husband then OK try again and see what works out, otherwise get on with your life.

Concentrate on your work/education. That will be more important for know.

madlady:



@Poster, Do you really want to put yourself into all that stress again.

If you think you want him for your husband then OK try again and see what works out, otherwise get on with your life.

Concentrate on your work/education. That will be more important for know.

Great advice. one of the few that makes sense on dis forum
u can never go wrong with her advice

@poster
b4 i could suggest an advice, what do u think are his character defects? n what are urs?

Think!Think!Think! until you ran out of thought then pray about it but if no answer, knock hammer on your head, that will give you a better result.

If you are not fed up, you wouldn't bring the matter here

madlady:



@Poster, Do you really want to put yourself into all that stress again.

If you think you want him for your husband then OK try again and see what works out, otherwise get on with your life.

Concentrate on your work/education. That will be more important for know.

tanks, thru wit skul bt job-huntin nd thinkin of startin a biz venture. sure dat wld get ma mind off him.

Oh that's good. What kind of biz you thinking of starting up?

That ex guy of yours seemed very harsh towards to you. No 2nd chance, well some times us girls need to really read the signs and put aside our LOVE feelings. Maybe he wanted to go, but now wants you back, if that's the case he will go again.

walestar01:

Think!Think!Think! until you ran out of thought then pray about it but if no answer, knock hammer on your head, that will give you a better result.

If you are not fed up, you wouldn't bring the matter here

Guy, hw far nw, u harsh o

@madlady, yeah dats exactly wat i'm thinkin. well, stil puttin al ma thots 2geda, analysin nd al dat, wld come up wit smthn soon. wld luv suggestns, anyways.

Phlota:

@madlady, yeah dats exactly wat i'm thinkin. well, stil puttin al ma thots 2geda, analysin nd al dat, wld come up wit smthn soon. wld luv suggestns, anyways.

Ok I will leave you to think hard about your bf, but do not beat yourself up on it, what will be will be.

Your biz idea, do you have any interests or skills that you can sell.

What about importing products,ie, make-up, hair, or even cloths. I am not sure of your country rules but I am sure you could look into that.One thing only get the best, too much rubbish floating around, ppls will always buy QUALITY.

BEST OF LUCK

@Phlota,

I've been thinking about starting a bussiness as well, maybe we could rub minds?

Stay cool

thanx madlady, wld thnk abt ur suggestn.
@bytes2tera, send me a mail nd ur num 2 f_ayejuyole@yaho.com, wher in Ikd do u stay, wld b xpectn.

@post,
U already answered ur question.He's principled n does not bend.If dat's his only fault n u fink u can handle it,den u can get back 2geda wif him.Else,just let it slide n look 4 somfin beta.Or don't u fink u deserv beta?