BismilLah
The institution of marriage and the want to have children was the custom of the best of creation, the prophets and messengers chosen by Allah. Allah says about them
"And indeed I, Allah sent messengers before you and made for them wives and offspring" (al-Raad 38).
The best example for the believers is the example of the prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wasallam), who married and had children. These prophets and messengers are the people whom Muslims should look to emulate. Allah says
"They are those whom Allah has guided. So follow their guidance" (al-Anaam 90).
They should be emulated and not the disbelievers idiologies, whose new lifestyles, mostly out of concern for enjoying this life or obtaining as many worldly goods as possible, discourage women from having more children.

Islam has forbidden celibacy (state of not being married), monasticism (life of monks & nuns) and castration (removal of the male glands) for such purposes. The prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) made this clear when he told those companions who were considering acetic forms of life: "I pray and I sleep; I fast and I break my fast; and I marry women. Whoever turns away from my way of life is not from me."

The prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) not only encouraged marriage but he encouraged marrying those women who are child-bearing. He stated: "marry the loving, child-bearing women for I shall have the largest numbers among the prophets on the day of Resurrection."(Recorded by Ahmad and ibn Hibban.).

From the Islamic perspective, children are a gift and a blessing from Allah. Allah mentions some of the bounties that HE has bestowed upon mankind in the following verse: "And Allah has made for you spouses of your own kind and has made for you, from your wives, sons and grandsons, and has bestowed upon you good provisions." (al-Nahl 72).

Allah also says: "Wealth and children are the adornment of the life of this world." (al-Kahf 46).
The only true provider for all mankind is Allah. If Muslims follow what Allah has prescribed for them, Allah will provide for them. Allah has warned about killing one's children out of fear of poverty for either parents or the child. Allah says: "Kill not your children because of poverty, Allah provide sustenance for you and for them" (al-Anaam 151).

Hence, Muslims should never abort or kill their children out of fear of poverty. It is Allah who provides for them.
Based on the above points and numerous others, the scholars has raised some points relating to Family planning.

Basically, Family planning exist in sunnah which can be followed without any harm to ourselves using the disbelievers ways.

If You advised a young man to get married and delay having children until he has finished his studies or education, this obviously means that he has to resort to methods of birth control. In ancient times, before the new methods of birth control were invented, people resorted to coitus interruptus (Withdrawal) in order to restrict the number of children or allow some years gap between the children. This is a safe method, because it does not involve the use of any substance or chemical compound. It is a simple method which involves withdrawal before discharge. It is not highly effective, because some of the sperms may be released before the actual discharge. These could easily fertilize the female egg. This method was practiced in Arabia, as well in many other places. The companions of the Prophet mentioned it to him and asked him whether it was wrong. The Prophet did not forbid them that, but he told them that it could not stop Allah's work. If He wants us to create something, or in this case, if He wants a child to be born, the resort to contraception would not prevent the mother from getting pregnant.

In the light of the foregoing, we can say that using a safe and effective method of birth control is permissible, if it does not involve the use of a harmful substance. The couple must check with their doctor if a particular method is safe for them to use. If so, then they decide whether to use it or not.
Base on this I will strongly suggest that brothers and sisters in any form of relationship should rather marry the easy sunnah way and continue their education using safe way of becoming pregnant instead of delaying marriage.

Contraception and Sterilization
Question: I have four children and I am considering resorting to a sterilization operation to be done for my wife. I'm financially not too strong for more than 4 children, do I have Islamic right to go ahead?

Let us first of all deal with the financial aspect of this question. We know that Allah provides sustenance for everyone of His creation. I personally have experienced an improvement in my financial level with every child I have had so far. Indeed, that improvement was very tangible in the case of one of my children. Some people may not have such a tangible experience. It is true to say, however, that Allah will not neglect to provide sustenance for any human being. It is up to the breadwinner of the family to make use of the opportunities that Allah provides for him.
Having said that, I should also point out before attending to the question on sterilization that resorting to methods of contraception which are safe and do not affect the health of the mother is permissible. That must be kept at the individual level. By this I mean that a family may resort to contraception in order to limit the number of their children if they determine that such a thing is desirable in their particular circumstances.

Sterilization which involves a surgical operation is a special case. Unlike other methods of contraception it is permanent. Therefore it has to be viewed separately. Preventing pregnancy by surgery is known as sterilization which can be performed for either the husband or the wife. It is perhaps more accurate to say that we cannot make a general, sweeping statement in order to say that such an operation is either forbidden or permissible. Any surgery may be considered, from the strictly religious point of view, as required, recommended, discouraged or forbidden, according to the different circumstances of its person. If a highly competent doctor advises his patient that a certain operation will not only cure his illness but also prevents a speedy deterioration of his case, which is otherwise inevitable, then we can say that the operation is recommended. On the other hand, if there is no strong medical grounds for operating on a certain patient, but the doctor advises the operation only to get his fee, then the doctor commits a sin by giving such an advice.
In the case of sterilization, what we have to look for is the effect of pregnancy on the health of the mother. If a competent doctor determines that every pregnancy is likely to pose a real threat to the life of the mother or to cause serious threats to her health and that other methods of contraception may also have a bad effect on her health, then the woman may have such an operation without any qualm of conscience. It is permissible in her case. On the other hand, for a woman who asks her doctor to perform such an operation because she feels that a pregnancy may spoil her figure or having children may stop her from taking a lengthy holiday every few months, such an operation is forbidden. Imagine going for such operations then you happens to loose your children through death and wanting children, who do you blame?
I hope we've studied more about this topic and I pray that Allah grant us more understanding and bless our senior scholars or the predecessors to the Prophet with this kind of understanding.
May Allah bless us with pious children.......Aameen.

Credit:Sheik AbdurRazzaq

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So op you are encourging us to have many children like 9 kids becouse God will provide 4 them abi ? Did you knw what it takes to cater for many children ? Abeg let me have 4kids with sound education and displine.

So family is not allowed?



What of if you don't have the means to cater the needs of plenty children?


As a Muslim i didn't see anything wrong in family planning, in fact it is good because the lesser children you have the more you will get to know them and you will give them sufficient means of knowledge, unlike if you have many.

chibike69:
Why your religion dey marry small pikin dem?



Abi little puna dey sweet u people


God forbid

Ur problem with that, go hang✋

chibike69:
Why your religion dey marry small pikin dem?



Abi little puna dey sweet u people


God forbid

Because is our religion not yours

So, essentially, any form of contraception is Haram apart from withdrawal. That's another proof that Islam is to be enjoyed by Males only. Don't get me wrong, as a man, I am happy to have these privileges,but my wife or wives better not disturb me if I cum before them. I will just divorce them.

Family planning is Haram. Anyone who tries to tell you other wise is evil. Have as many children as you want, whether or not you can take care of them, after all, Allah will provide

In the name of Allah (swt) , memorize and recite this du'a for peace and well being:

أَفَرَأَيْتُمُ اللَّاتَ وَالْعُزَّى
وَمَنَاةَ الثَّالِثَةَ الْأُخْرَى
تلك الغرانيق العـلى وإن شفاعتهن لترتجى

Thank ALLAH to be muslim

seXytOhbAd:
So, essentially, any form of contraception is Haram apart from withdrawal. That's another proof that Islam is to be enjoyed by Males only. Don't get me wrong, as a man, I am happy to have these privileges,but my wife or wives better not disturb me if I cum before them. I will just divorce them.

Family planning is Haram. Anyone who tries to tell you other wise is evil. Have as many children as you want, whether or not you can take care of them, after all, Allah will provide

You did not read but so quick to leave a base less comment

fk001:
So family is not allowed?



What of if you don't have the means to cater the needs of plenty children?


As a Muslim i didn't see anything wrong in family planning, in fact it is good because the lesser children you have the more you will get to know them and you will give them sufficient means of knowledge, unlike if you have many.

Is that what the write-up suggests?

Pls try and read something you wish to comment on in future

Smh

chibike69:
Why your religion dey marry small pikin dem?



Abi little puna dey sweet u people


God forbid

you know nothing about our religion, so i advised you keep your flicking mouth shut. for you to speak evil, it's better you keep your mouth shut.

nitt:



Is that what the write-up suggests?

Pls try and read something you wish to comment on in future

Smh

Is not about the write up, we know that some scholars have already concluded that family planing is haram.


I didn't read the write up from beginning to the end, i stopped where the op wrote "children are wealth" .


The above quoted statement is the reason why some people give birth to a lot of children without considering family planning.

chibike69:
Why your religion dey marry small pikin dem?



Abi little puna dey sweet u people


God forbid

why ur people dey Bleep sec scool gils, abi little puna dey sweet una

Asalamaleikum, jazakalahu khairan to the poster, however, family planning is the most delicate and ambiguous topic I ve ever read about, there are quite a number of disagreeing scholars and quotes on this subject. May Allah guide us right

Intuitive conclusion holds that you do not bring a child you cannot cater for, but scriptural conclusions says every child is born with their own provisions from zGod

There's no point replying/ giving any attention to the hoax commenters trying to get on nerves. Just ignore them and let them not steal your precious time

BluntBoy:
Repent!!! Jesus is the only way. BluntBoy the pedophile, will burn in hell. Do not be like BluntBoy!!!

The way to where?

xage:
There's no point replying/ giving any attention to the hoax commenters trying to get on nerves. Just ignore them and let them not steal your precious time

Repent or burn in hell forever. The Bible was explicit!!! Can you worship two masters? No, you can't. It is either Jesus who is Christ or hell. Choose wisely. The ball is in your court.

May almighty Allah reward you.

seXytOhbAd:
So, essentially, any form of contraception is Haram apart from withdrawal. That's another proof that Islam is to be enjoyed by Males only. Don't get me wrong, as a man, I am happy to have these privileges,but my wife or wives better not disturb me if I cum before them. I will just divorce them.

Family planning is Haram. Anyone who tries to tell you other wise is evil. Have as many children as you want, whether or not you can take care of them, after all, Allah will provide

Did u read it at all. Honestly u did not
U are among those that comment from their head, at least this post suppose to enlighten u more, he dint say withdrawal is the only option but safe, ethical means without futuristic predicament can be sort after and lastly he's not saying u should not plan ur kids but doing it purposely for fear of being poor is what Islam forbid, for example if u have use withdrawal , contraception and yet ur wife get pregnant , stop at that don't abort it Allah will provide Insha Allah . whatever Islam ask u to u do , do it without fear or doubth u will never fail . if u have faith and decide to have 10kids believing Allah will he will , if u think otherwise is ur problem.
For that good number of kid , pray to Allah and rely on Allah's help for their sustenance , never look at them and wish u never had them in that number or the food they eat n school fees is what made u poor, some people have one yet they are poor , some don't have and yet they are poor and some are stinkingly rich yet they have none.
U plan and Allah plans, and Allah is the best of PLANNER

fk001:
So family is not allowed?



What of if you don't have the means to cater the needs of plenty children?


As a Muslim i didn't see anything wrong in family planning, in fact it is good because the lesser children you have the more you will get to know them and you will give them sufficient means of knowledge, unlike if you have many.

check yourself properly

chibike69:
Why your religion dey marry small pikin dem?



Abi little puna dey sweet u people


God forbid

The perfect definition of a polished illiterate and a crass slowpoke is this poster.

BluntBoy:
The kingdom of God is at hand. I am His vessel sent to make nations of saints out of this sinful world. Mohammed is a false prophet. He was a false Christ mentioned by our Lord when He warned us about the coming of Mohammed and other deceivers. Listen to the voice screaming in the wilderness. Walk before God, the true God, and be blameless.

So you want us to be worshipping a human abi (Issa (Jesus) peace be upon him).

This must be one of those sheeples funding their pastors lifestyle with their hard earned money.

What I actually feel for you is...pity.

Trottle:


So you want us to be worshipping a human abi (Issa (Jesus) peace be upon him).

This must be on of those sheeples funding their pastors lifestyle with their hard earned money.

What I actually feel for you is...pity.

I am not one of those who have made merchandise of the gospel. Repent and follow Jesus the Christ, the only and the truest Shepherd.

Adamidi:
why ur people dey Bleep sec scool gils, abi little puna dey sweet una

the problem I have with xtians is hypocrisy, most of you have been having sex right from sec school days, but when Islam says anything you attack instead of using the little sense you have. You don't follow your Lord and his mother to letter most of you have sex outside wedlock which is contrary to Holy Marys way of live. HIV is predominant where xtian dominants

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Get behind me, Satan!!! There are souls to be won today. If you don't want to be saved, then, fine, but don't use your own to stop others others from coming to Jesus our Savior.