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Follow your heart

chaarly:


you will dear.
and you know, there are some things that happens to us that we don't really deserve but I heard my pastor one day saying. . 'if it doesn't happen to you then who should it happen to? if u check it out, the setbacks we have at some occasions in our life are often times not compared to the comebacks we later achieve.

one thing is certain, you don't have to bother yourself. what's yours is yours, what's not is not!

Happy Holidays

Corps1000:


Thanks hun, you too. I appreciate it. Because this legit spoiled my mood. Hopefully one day I can find a real man who doesn’t play games and is sincere.

alexialin:
Op, remember if you are dating a Nigerian man don't be too emotional and be easy going about it.

Too much emotions scare them off. What am. I even saying Sef? As in emotions of I love u die! Scares them off.

Relax, do your thing. Make yourself happy. [s]He will come back to u later.
Worrying will just make u sad.
One day u will receive a call from him, trying to make up. That's how most are.

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GameKartel:
i don't mean to object or generalize on the notions that too much emotions from our love interest scares us away, you are a nigerian like myself and not everyone would act like this inconsiderate but cum to think of it, that relationship was already falling apart the moment she came back from FL, l think. that proposed get away trip to go along with him to naija was just a prank, an opportunity for him to want out! Nothing more. his dating mannerism is out-dated, that's not a cool way to bolt

alexialin:




If that's the case?
Can u imagine the mind game, he played on her?

That's why I said in relationship, don't over love most times. Just play it cool and easy. So issues of heartbreak the op is feeling won't arise.

Corps1000:



So, I actually went on the site we met and put in the zip code of the area he moved to on the day I left. His profile popped up and it was Active. He even said Kevin Heart was coming into town by the end of the week in his profile. Meanwhile, he is allegedly in Nigeria.

If he didn't think it was gonna work, then he should have been man enough to end it.

alexialin:
Op, be patient but remember if you are dating a Nigerian man don't be too emotional and be easy going about it.

Too much emotions scare them off. What am. I even saying Sef? As in emotions of I love u die! Scares them off.

Relax, do your thing. Make yourself happy. He will come back to u later.
Worrying will just make u sad. Remove your mind and do your thing.
One day u will receive a call from him, trying to make up. That's how most are.

And if he's yours for keeps? With time u will know and be decisive about your decision about him

GameKartel:
i don't mean to object or generalize on the notions that too much emotions from our love interest scares us away, you are a nigerian like myself and not everyone would act like this inconsiderate but cum to think of it, that relationship was already falling apart the moment she came back from FL, l think. that proposed get away trip to go along with him; barely two months into the flint, to naija was just a prank. An opportunity for him to want out! Nothing more. his dating mannerism is out-dated, that's not a cool way to bolt

BigdaddyPR:
While he was immature about the whole thing, I think the defining moment for him was when you gave a negative answer to his request to come to Nigeria which is understandable because the relationship was just 2months, if you had gone with him, then of course you both would be in Nigeria now and you wouldn't have to worry about all of these other than to build your relationship.

He probably thought after your reply there won't be a need to go to Nigeria again and he stayed put.

This perhaps is one of the assumed logical reasons why he should still be in the states, otherwise this makes absolutely no sense on his part considering how old he is.

Don't sweat much on it, if he won't communicate well this early in the relationship then of what use is all the future talks.

Corps1000:


Perhaps? But I have told him before I am only dating him. And he did ask what my plans were and I said I was gonna stay at home with my family.

When I said I can't go for work. He said, "Really?, that's your excuse" And I didn't really respond after.

I figure since I been the one initiating contact, I would wait for him to contact me. And if he does, then I would clarify things. And if he doesn't, then that's that.

Corps1000:
Hello all! Hope everyone has a good Christmas.

I am new to this forum and would like some advice...

I will try to keep it short:
I have been dating this Nigerian American man for 2 months. Then, he went out of state for work but in the mean time we talked/texted regularly while he was away. I actually visited him as he invited me, and stayed with him for a few days and it went well. We vibe well, wasn't awkward at all. According to him, he's ready to settle down and have kids in the near future. He is 35, a little bit older than me. I am not Nigerian but I am Caribbean Black so we have a similar upbringing, where we came from a religious background, fathers placed heavy emphasis on education. Also, on the 3rd date he asked us to be exclusive...

I, too, said I am dating for marriage providing it's the right person.

He told me he was offered a higher salary to relocate. The area where he is staying at for work is a very quiet neighborhood. He said he could imagine staying there if he had a wife and kids. I said what wouldn't he be bored there living on his own and he said, "I wouldn't be bored if you were here." He even said earlier if we lived together, we would have so much fun. Again, in the few days we spent together, we laughed a lot as both of us are goofy but we had serious conversations about our upbringing, goals, past experiences, future plans,etc

He even asked me what I want for Christmas but I didn't answer.

Anyway, he told me he was going to Nigeria to visit his family for the holidays. He actually invited me to come and I would stay with them. I declined and he said "Why not?" I said because of work which is partly true. But it's more so the fact I haven't known him long enough and that's a big step.

Anyway, on my last day and when he dropped me off at airport he said how he missed me already. But I noticed since the trip, a week ago, I been the one mainly initiating communication, when it use to be mainly him. So, then he said he is flying in Saturday and I replied I can't see him because I am at work all day. He replied with a sad face. So, I suggest Sunday and he said he doesn't think it's possible since he will fly out to Nigeria that day. I then said I wanna see him and he thumbs up the comment but never replied.

I feel since I made an effort to see him in Florida, he could have made the effort to see me or at the least call me and say he wants to see me but too but can't and that we will re-connect when he comes back. To me, it's an indication he isn't that into me. I told my friends and most of them think I am blowing it out of proportion, but one friend sees it as a lack of interest and effort on his part.

I am kinda bummed because I liked him but seems this is the end. I deleted his number and don't plan on contacting him again...

Corps1000:
Hello all! Hope everyone has a good Christmas.

I am new to this forum and would like some advice...

I will try to keep it short:
I have been dating this Nigerian American man for 2 months. Then, he went out of state for work but in the mean time we talked/texted regularly while he was away. I actually visited him as he invited me, and stayed with him for a few days and it went well. We vibe well, wasn't awkward at all. According to him, he's ready to settle down and have kids in the near future. He is 35, a little bit older than me. I am not Nigerian but I am Caribbean Black so we have a similar upbringing, where we came from a religious background, fathers placed heavy emphasis on education. Also, on the 3rd date he asked us to be exclusive...

I, too, said I am dating for marriage providing it's the right person.

He told me he was offered a higher salary to relocate. The area where he is staying at for work is a very quiet neighborhood. He said he could imagine staying there if he had a wife and kids. I said what wouldn't he be bored there living on his own and he said, "I wouldn't be bored if you were here." He even said earlier if we lived together, we would have so much fun. Again, in the few days we spent together, we laughed a lot as both of us are goofy but we had serious conversations about our upbringing, goals, past experiences, future plans,etc

He even asked me what I want for Christmas but I didn't answer.

Anyway, he told me he was going to Nigeria to visit his family for the holidays. He actually invited me to come and I would stay with them. I declined and he said "Why not?" I said because of work which is partly true. But it's more so the fact I haven't known him long enough and that's a big step.

Anyway, on my last day and when he dropped me off at airport he said how he missed me already. But I noticed since the trip, a week ago, I been the one mainly initiating communication, when it use to be mainly him. So, then he said he is flying in Saturday and I replied I can't see him because I am at work all day. He replied with a sad face. So, I suggest Sunday and he said he doesn't think it's possible since he will fly out to Nigeria that day. I then said I wanna see him and he thumbs up the comment but never replied.

I feel since I made an effort to see him in Florida, he could have made the effort to see me or at the least call me and say he wants to see me but too but can't and that we will re-connect when he comes back. To me, it's an indication he isn't that into me. I told my friends and most of them think I am blowing it out of proportion, but one friend sees it as a lack of interest and effort on his part.

I am kinda bummed because I liked him but seems this is the end. I deleted his number and don't plan on contacting him again...

IamLaura:

Hi dear I've been following this conversation and I have one question for you
Are you a Taurus?

Corps1000:


You're right I shouldn't jump to conclusions, but my feelings are valid. He seemed like a good dude up until that point. Well, I told him, "I want to see him" and he didn't respond. I assumed he would follow up with me, so now the ball is in his court. It's up to him to follow up with communicating with me.

Waffarianman:




One thing I see here is this. This guy want to take you to Nigeria to see he's families and friend but you decline and secondly he called to see you before leaving but you never show up... You reason d Mara hw e b u

Try call ahm to settle una difference

Waffarianman:



Babe 4get all D's ur Mara try call DT dude mak una settle una mara. If you dey form porch e go tire u o remember na woman u b... Cool dwn 4 Jesus, na inside life life dey... I gerarahere

dasparrow:


Most Nigerian men are terribly misogynist. Are you sure that is what you want? Take a look at Nairaland's homepage/front page. There are two threads of Nigerian husbands who killed their wives.

Women who marry Nigerian men don't always have a voice especially in Nigeria. Many are maltreated and cheated upon and infected with STDs by their husbands and the Nigerian society expects them to put up with it.

As the wife of a Nigerian male, you get blamed for everything that goes wrong in his life. I personally will not wish for any of my female kids to marry a Nigerian male because I don't wish to have to bury any of my daughters.

Just be careful because prevention they say is better than cure. Follow your intuition.

Corps1000:


I don’t understand what you are saying. I’m not Nigerian.

Corps1000:

He likely isn’t even in Nigeria. And he never called to see me before he left. He never even asked to see me before he allegedly left. He never even wishes me a merry Christmas but has time to create a new online dating profile?

Bottom line he’s a liar.

Waffarianman:



What I mean you should and try call him no matter what to settle your difference even though you guys comes from different country.

Waffarianman:



Take it easy never call him a liar yet, still try to call to know what's wrong with him okay.

emoch:
Nothing kills a relationship faster than Assumption and Expectations.

Give him an excuse and only conclude when he gives an explanation as to why he wasn't responsive.

Corps1000:


I did call from my phone and it went straight to voicemail. I used someone’s else phone and it went straight to voicemail.

Anyway, nothing more to say. There is nothing to settle. He was playing games and ghosted me.

Corps1000:
as I said I called him and straight to voicemail.

He led me to believe we were exclusive but created a new dating profile.
He probably didn’t even go to Nigeria.

He never contacted me since he allegedly left but yet he wanted us to live together and to meet his family. But when he was in Florida and I was here he had no issue contacting me daily.

I may be naive at times but I’m not dumb or blind.

My ex who I was with for 4 years. If I left the country to travel, I would stay in touch him. He did the same for me when he went out of state to travel. Just to show each other we have each other on our mind.

Corps1000:


I actually don’t think he even went to nigeria. I think he used it as a way out.

For instance he said Kevin heart was coming to Florida December 31 when he is suppose to be in Nigeria. If you’re in Nigeria why even mention this.

He knew I wasn’t going to come to nigeria. And used that as a way out. And this man has 3 sisters!

His family is in Nigeria so there would be a reason to go. This dude is just a disgusting liar.

RSVP:




I actually don’t think he even went to nigeria. I think he used it as a way out.
TRUE


He knew I wasn’t going to come to nigeria. And used that as a way out. And this man has 3 sisters!

This dude is just a disgusting liar Very true

It's obvious dude is pvssy thirsty.

Forget that idiot and move on!

Corps1000:


Thanks, finally someone sees it the way I do!